sunshine2 Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 I was dating a man for 1 year exactly and broke up with him the day after. Long story long, he was nice to me in some ways, liked to laugh, he paid for everything unless I offered which I did once in awhile, he made me laugh. He texted me everyday when we weren't together and talked most nights about our days and what was going on. I loved his parents, they are great people and they loved me. His youngest daughter liked me, she was a bit spoiled, but we got along okay and i never interfered with his parenting. He would ask my opinion a lot about her and that is the only time I would say anything. I had 2 teenages at home part time too, but he never got to know them the whole year. I was his sounding board for his crazy drama with his X wife and when his daughter didn't want to see him. He would talk to me until midnight on several occasions about all this stuff and I was there listening to him and helping him calm down. He had been divorced for 5 years, felt bad about being a divorced man and his x hated him and caused lots of trouble even though she was remarried. But he never told me he loved me or talked about his feelings for me, we saw each other 2-3 times a week and didn't spend the night with each other much. We had a horrid sex life, he was awful in bed. He is a big man over 350lbs and lazy in lots of ways. He was never very affectionate, rarely held my hand, only kissed me hello and goodbye. Sat far from me when we watched tv, it was pretty lonely being with him for sure. He asked me to help him a lot with his business, his kids birthday parties, watching his daughters twin boys, family gatherings, dinners, etc. I helped him a lot and enjoyed it because I felt part of his life when I was doing it. He hardly came to my home, he complained about my couch, my bed, my dog, my house. He didn't like much here and was only comfortable in his own home. The last straw was a trip we took last week. He wanted to get away and I was okay with it, not real excited since things weren't that great with us, but I went. We had 4 days alone together and he touched me ONCE! He held my hand the first night as he fell asleep, that was it the whole 4 days. I was pretty upset and I couldn't wait to get home. I knew I was done as my needs were not being met even after I discussed it with him a couple weeks before our trip and he agreed and understood. Yea okay. He had shared with me awhile back that his X complained in therapy that he never hugged her and didn't do something in bed, he never said what that was. She left him for another man, and told him that she found someone who could please her in bed. Im sure that was meant to hurt him, but in all honesty, I believe she was telling the truth. I am assuming he is just someone who is not affectionate, so I kept hoping it would change, but never did. My mistake for wasting so much time with someone who could not completely give to me. Who obviously wasn't into me or capable of being a real partner. Im sad, feel like I lost my best friend but deep down know that I have no other choice really and I feel stupid for hanging in there as long as I did. Im in my 50's and have dated my share of jerks around my age who just want FWB or FB and Im looking for a relationship for the rest of my life. I am not looking forward to dating again, I hate it. This all just sucks.
Author sunshine2 Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) Double post Edited March 18, 2016 by sunshine2
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