agnf666 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I need advice about this.... Okay so I work in an office setting. The wife and the husband are the bosses. Which leaves me and this guy being the only coworkers. It's actually really cool. So, The wife likes to tell me all about the guy that works with me. For example, how he is a family guy, likes sports , is single, and other stuff like that. So, is this some hint that I'm suppose to be picking up on or something. He is shy too. I just feel awkward asking him to do anything because I don't want it to backfire on me. So, I have decided to wait and see what he does. So, I have been working at this place for about 8 months now. So, I'm all confused. When the guy leaves for the day he comes down and always say goodbye or ask me how my day is and stuff.
scared shy Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Do you have any additional info, like does she do it all the time, or does she wink after she says it, high five, anything?
Author agnf666 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 Well she just tells me alot about him... no winking or high fiving. Maybe this is just friendly conversation.... I don't know
crazy_grl Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I wouldn't take what she says as much of a sign of anything other than she might think you should date him. Just because she thinks that though doesn't mean he's interested though. Read the signs from him more than the signs from her.
alphamale Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 SO...it probably is a hint. But an employer should not be revealing personal items regarding and employee to another employee. So!
Author agnf666 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 I have been reading more into his signals as well. Like, when he came back from Vacation he was all happy to see me and was surprised I changed my hair. Other then that there hasn't been any real signals that I know of. Maybe I need to pay attention more.
scared shy Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Or she could just be a gossip and since there is a limited # of employees... But I tend to agree with crazy_grl, what are the signs coming from him?
scared shy Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 agnf666 You never stated whether you dig him or not? How close are you to your boss that tells you these things? Can you just ask her if he digs you, or you could find out for sure and casually ask him if he wants to grab a drink/dinner/lunch, a game of tennis whatever after you get off work???
Author agnf666 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 I do like him. I'm just scared of the "what if's" of the situation. I work with a very tight nit group of people. I'm very close to the wife. She loves to gossip too. He has always be nice to me, bought me lunch once, took me out in his car. He is a nice guy but boy is he really shy.
alphamale Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 He is a nice guy but boy is he really shy. so, what do you want with a shy dude lacking any confidence?
Author agnf666 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 I don't know... He is one of the better guys I have known. He just seems like he would be the "Nice Guy" type. Compared to other guys I have dated he is a hell of alot better!!! Oh well, he's a little shy. I am but not anymore. Maybe he just needs something to take it away.
alphamale Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 I don't know... He is one of the better guys I have known. He just seems like he would be the "Nice Guy" type. Compared to other guys I have dated he is a hell of alot better!!! Oh well, he's a little shy. I am but not anymore. Maybe he just needs something to take it away. well if you both start dating each other and it becomes serious then I would recommend one of you leaving to get another job.
Author agnf666 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale well if you both start dating each other and it becomes serious then I would recommend one of you leaving to get another job. That's where things go bad. He has been working here for 7 years. I only been working here for a little under a year. So, I would be the one to have to leave. That would suck. We really don't work together all that much. He's in his office upstairs and I only see him when I go to the bathroom or when he leaves. Other then that I see him all day friday. So, we really don't have that much contact. I have like the best job and I wouldn't give it up. So, if not having a relationship with him is the case then so be it!!
crazy_grl Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 I have like the best job and I wouldn't give it up. So, if not having a relationship with him is the case then so be it!! You're probably best not pursuing a relationship then. You said your boss likes to gossip, so how would you feel if that gossip started being about your love life? That would probably make for a pretty crummy work environment.
HoneyWheat Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 I need advice about this.... Okay so I work in an office setting. The wife and the husband are the bosses. Which leaves me and this guy being the only coworkers. It's actually really cool. So, The wife likes to tell me all about the guy that works with me. For example, how he is a family guy, likes sports , is single, and other stuff like that. So, is this some hint that I'm suppose to be picking up on or something. He is shy too. I just feel awkward asking him to do anything because I don't want it to backfire on me. So, I have decided to wait and see what he does. So, I have been working at this place for about 8 months now. So, I'm all confused. When the guy leaves for the day he comes down and always say goodbye or ask me how my day is and stuff. the bosses probably think you two made a good couple merely because you are both single and they are married. to me, they are just pushy....there are lots of people like this in the older generation.... you should ask them...did so and so tell you he liked me? what did he say exactly? and why doesn't he act like a man and talk to me himself if he is as interested as you think he is or would like me to beleive? just so you know...i never trust people who come up to me and tell me so and so likes you....that is a coward's way...and in my case, it has backfired on me every time i put any credence in it.
alphamale Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by crazy_grl You said your boss likes to gossip, so how would you feel if that gossip started being about your love life? If your boss is telling you details about him you can rest assured she is telling him details about you! Be very very careful in what you reveal to her about your personal life. And if you really like you job and need the paycheck I suggest you look elsewhere for men to date! good luck alpha
Author agnf666 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 In a way it working and dating him wouldn't be so bad. They have know the guy for about 7 years. He went to school with their daughter. So, in a way it wouldn't create a problem... but you never know. Well, I don't really tell her alot of personal things. If she tells him oh well. They are usually good things anyways!!!
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