butterbread Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 (edited) Long story short: I met a guy a couple of months ago who I was instantly attracted to and came to develop feelings for. The sentiment was reciprocated (if not to a greater extent, as he was pretty much head over heels for me). We have a lot of shared interests and our personalities mesh well. Problem is: he's very casual about sex while I'm only comfortable sharing physical intimacy with people I've known for quite some time. It didn't work out for this reason and we never slept together, but we did have sexting sessions that were quite fun. Anyway, we dated for a month, then it ended on "okay" terms. After that, it was 'no contact' for the majority of the time, but once in a while he'd check in on me and the conversation would lead to sexting, but it never lasted long since I felt it wasn't right. This went on for a few more months, then things just fizzled out since we both knew we weren't getting what we wanted. After that, it was an entire month of no contact. Then yesterday out of the blue, he texted to check up on me, flirted a bit, and asked me if I'm seeing anyone else. I told him no, then he proceeded to tell me that he is now. He also briefly mentioned that she isn't as funny as I was. I'm a bit confused. Why the heck would he feel the need to tell me that..? To 'rub it in my face', or has he genuinely moved on and just wanted to see if I was on the same page? Sorry if it seems like I'm being overly dramatic, and thanks for reading Edited March 17, 2016 by butterbread
smackie9 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 He is also leaving a door open so if things don't work out he would be up to seeing you again. just move on.....he's being a jackass. 1
xpaperxcutx Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Wow what a d*ckhead move. He is dating someone but trying to hit on you.
Author butterbread Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 Thanks for the replies He's 30--10 years older than me--but comically immature for his age. I basically told him to f*ck off after that. Was just wondering if my anger was justified, since we were always still quite friendly with each other, and technically, I did ask him if he was seeing anyone after he asked me the same. Still a questionable move on his end though.
Popsicle Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Rub it in your face. Yes this. It never works to be friends afterwards if one or both of you is attracted.
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Next time he gets in contact just do not respond, at all, no matter what he says or texts. Let him fade away. Soon you will not even remember his name.
Zippy2000 Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Id not read anything into this. He was in contact with you as he enjoyed the sexting sessions but things have changed now and he is only contacting you as a friend thats all. So there is nothing really you have to look into. Some people still contct you as they remember you and its doesnt hurt to be friends. You know now thats he wasnt reaally that into you and by telling you he is seeing someone shows that. At least he is being open and honest which some men arent.
Miss Peach Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 This guy is just testing to see if the door is still open and he can potentially get something from you - sexting, an ego stroke, or more. Just close it and go back to NC because he's not someone you want any sort of future with anyway. 1
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