sickoflove11 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I went on two dates with this guy I had been talking to/texting every day for over a month straight. We didn't have sex but the second date we made out quite a bit. Everything was fine for a couple weeks then in the last two weeks, he's started to pull back and would just snapchat more and now nothing. He even came to visit me at my work the day he stopped contact. Obviously I took it as he's no longer interested and I decided I had to move on as is it a waste of my time. The confusing part is that he is my really close friends brother.. He's not home often because of his job, but sometimes he is and when I saw him the other day he didn't ignore me he actually talked to me.. I didn't contact him until a few days later because I was on the phone with my friend and he went into her room and said to bring him food so I was just like yeah ok(a bit sarcastically) and then he said "why are you being weird?" Ik he wasn't serious about getting him food he was just being a d*** but after awhile I started overthinking things and texted him asking why he said I was being weird. No response. How do people go from 100-0 phone contact even to the point of ignoring after dating but still expect .. idk what he expects honestly ? If he was interested at all anymore he would contact me wouldn't he?
d0nnivain Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Did you both know about the connection with your friend / his sister when you started? If not that could have freaked him out. While I rarely suggest that you get 3rd parties involved, in this case I think you can ask his sister but you have to absolutely respect her answer if she says she doesn't want to get in the middle.
Satu Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 It sounds like he's morphing into Mr Unavailable. Don't expect much, lest you be disappointed.
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 Yes she definitely knew we were talking and then going on dates. Personally I don't even want to get her involved.. I'd rather her think everything is fine so it doesn't feel weird when I go over.
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 I feel like he is ghosting me because he didn't respond to that text but he doesn't ignore me in person.. Should I just forget about him and if he texts me? I don't want to ignore him but I don't want to get anymore disappointed
Popsicle Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I have been the friend whose friend and my brother got together. Let me just tell you that it's a very uncomfortable position to be in when things go bad.
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 I want to stop thinking about this guy. How do I stop racking my brain over everything I've said and he basically hasn't said? I try to go out and do things but I'm constantly waiting for a message from him that I know I won't get. He says he's busy at work and is hardly every home and I know that's true but he makes time to text other people so I know I'm just an option. We used to text all the time and now we haven't talked in a week only a few snapchats... I know he's messaging other people back because he was right in front of me last night acting like he never even ignored my text. He's my friends brother so it's hard to not see him sometimes and he always flirts with me. All I wanted was someone fun to hang out and hook up with not a relationship but he's just not even worth my time and hurt anymore. I have to do my school work online but all I can think about is him. I'm almost certain he isn't thinking about me so why can't I get him out of my head!
Steven1 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Sounds very much like an infatuation which is a good thing actually as they are often overcome in time. You said yourself you know he's not interested in you as much as he was, and that should be the motivation in it's self. You know he's not spending time on you, so you shouldn't waste yours on him. Obviously easier said than done, we've all been there believe me. Keep focused on your work first and foremost, but outside of that do things you wouldn't usually, I've often found that when you can't stop thinking about someone, as much as you think you do enough things to keep occupied, it's often not enough. Go out more or read or anything literally that you find distracts you from him, once you find that you went even a few minutes of not doing it, you know you've found something to move on with.
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