Joebloggs91 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I've posted a few times on here over the last week or so since the break up. It's hit me harder than I thought. The last few days have been better, but today I have had a bad day, and I think I'm beginning to accept its really over. I met a friend for lunch today and it was the first time I had been back to this particular shopping outlet (we used to go quite a lot) On my way back I had to pop into a local shop to return something, again, it was somewhere we went quite often. Every time I come back to my flat I think about her (we spent a lot of time here) My worry is that I'm struggling to move on because everything local reminds me of her. Every time I get in my car I think I might see her because she lives 5 minutes away. During my previous relationship breakup I moved out, changed job but I can't this time. I'm in a good job, and live with a friend so can't just up and leave Last weekend me and my friend went to another city for a night out. Booked a hotel and had a great time, however when I drove back the following day, the closer to home I got the more sadness I felt. I'm curious to know how others have dealt with this. I love the flat and I love the area I live in, but it just makes me feel so upset every time. How long has this feeling lasted for you? Thanks,
mightycpa Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Well, the hard truth is you've got to suck it up and feel bad for a while. If the relationship meant anything to you, it's going to feel bad, that's how it goes. Don't try to escape that part of it, A) because you can't and B) because it's not good for you. 1
andie1969 Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I understand how you feel, my ex lives very close as well & we frequent a lot of the same places. It's only a matter of time before I run into him somewhere. At least we shop at different grocery store chains so I'm pretty safe there. It also seems that every single tv show I try to watch has a character with his name! Ugh, I hate that! Memories everywhere! But, his sister & I have the same name so he has to hear my name all the time too. Don't make a rash decision like moving because of this, give it some time. Yes, it feels like the bowels of hell right now, but it won't forever.
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I'm curious to know how others have dealt with this. I love the flat and I love the area I live in, but it just makes me feel so upset every time. How long has this feeling lasted for you? Thanks, Redecorate, get new furniture, change pictures round, get all new bedding, new pots and pans, have a declutter and spring clean... Eventually you do not think about it any more. Concentrate on what you like about the area. Start to think in terms of "I" and not "we". Regain your individuality. "We used to come here" becomes "I sometimes brought her here because I like it".
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