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40 for shampoo andconditioner combination. Including both a leave in conditioner and regular one. ... so that's 3 for 40 bucks.....

 

And not evey woman is a slipper and soap for Christmas type. That doesn't make us crappy people. Some women truly enjoy being a bit spoilt.

 

Suave is 1.00 no im sorry maybe 4 bucks over there lets add some nice conditioner 5 bucks...oh look 9 bucks for both and I have enough for my buss fair to school..! Yurika..the joys of budgeting..:rolleyes:

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Looks are not everything in this world believe it it or not but then again you are shallow so I guess you don't have that view..

 

I actually don't care if a guy is hot.

 

I don't care if a mans fat even though I'm slim, do I care of he's rich.

 

I don't care if they have bad teeth despite the fact I have straight ones.

 

I go for chemistry not looks.

 

How is that shallow?

 

My doesn't think I am shallow lol. Just asked him, LOL.

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Why do people honestly believe that a slim 30 year old woman who has a decent enough education and a nice smile, would have issues finding men that wanna date me?

 

 

Well, of course it's believable if you leave it at that.

 

I'm not having any trouble, and I have 25 years on you.

 

I don't think anyone's questioning that.

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If you want expensive dates, maybe get a job so you can help pay for them?

 

I worked part time at woolies and then repco auto spares when I was working full time and still paid for my dates back then.

 

This just sounds like gimme, gimme, gimme with not a great deal back.

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They have.

 

Look, I am quite slim and have a nice figure and smile so it shouldn't really be hard ro believe?

 

I have in fact had a lot of men want to spoil me in the context of a relationship.

 

Without feeling the romance. ...I couldn't in good conscious accept their geneous offer.

 

Yes, anyone who's followed your posts knows that the only thing you talk more about than needing to be spoiled is your physical attributes. We get it. Lot of good it's doing you for as wretchedly insecure you are about it.

 

I mean, my goodness, in your original post in this thread, you mentioned how your boyfriend not taking you on dates made you feel unattractive. Talk about being out to lunch! Your appearance is probably one of the last things on his mind when it comes to the topic of taking you out on a date. How vapid to think that your appearance has any connection to this!

 

I've really tried to tow the line here, but if you're so obnoxiously self-absorbed that you find a way to make yourself the reason why he does or doesn't do something. The world, contrary to your belief, does not revolve around your slim figure.

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Blanco Established Member

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I actually don't care if a guy is hot.

 

I don't care if a mans fat even though I'm slim, do I care of he's rich.

 

I don't care if they have bad teeth despite the fact I have straight ones.

 

I go for chemistry not looks.

 

How is that shallow?

 

My doesn't think I am shallow lol. Just asked him, LOL.

 

Shallow isn't limited to appearance. Your shallow about your own appearance. With a guy's, not so much, but your shallow with regards to them in what they're able to do for you with their money. A guy being able to spend, spend, spend on you making him infinitely more appealing to you is textbook shallowness.

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Well my bf knows that I'm shallow and materialistic and he still adores the heck out of me.

 

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My doesn't think I am shallow lol. Just asked him, LOL.

Want to try that again? yet again your words not mine there...

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Want to try that again? yet again your words not mine there...

 

Maybe "shallow" has different meanings in Australia? Or it could be Opposite Day?

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Ferret Established Member

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Maybe "shallow" has different meanings in Australia? Or it could be Opposite Day?

LOL maybe so! :lmao:

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bene Established Member

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And I have already had a barrage of men that wanted a relationship with me who were all well off and who were into me. I would pick my average waged boyfriend over anyone on the planet.

 

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i love how Generous he is. God knows, I'dabsolutely do the same for him if he wantedto further hus studies and I was on a stable full time income!

 

I dont expect it of him; I did choose a man however, who I knew was this was inclined.

 

Isn't it the whole point of the thread that it bugs you that he is not doing enough?

 

As you have stated many times, simpler gifts like slippers are not enough so it's not the thought that counts for you. But he simply can't afford things that you consider spoiling, no matter how big his "innate desire" to do so?

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Argh! My brain is hurting!

 

On some posts you say that he's doing a great job and is a loving boyfriend then you immediately contradict it by saying you need a man who spoils you. Then you say you're not spoilt, but need someone who will spoil you.

 

But by [sic] does spoil me and we are happy

 

Confusion aside, the bit that really concerns me is sentences like this:

 

I need a man who prefers to spoil a woman.

 

You make a lot of references such as 'looking for a man' and 'needing a man who...' and 'attracted to men who...' which makes me think that you don't intend to stay with this guy and you're really just with him for his money. There are many, many references to that kind of thing in most of your posts. Is this guy the one or not?

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He's not the one, but hopefully it's because he's gonna grow tired of this crap and find someone else who actually appreciates what he does. And that woman will most certainly have more to offer him than a "slim" figure and a princess complex.

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Omgggggg he is just too good to be true.... I have waited ten years for the mutual chemistry and compatability to both be abundant in the one man.

 

It was always great sexual attraction towards men whoweren't into me or viceversa.

 

I am very fortunate. .. I never actually criticized my bf and I was sure to highlight how amazing he is!

 

It is purely me wanting to get out of the house more and to be treated to the OCCASIONAL date! Not every week; as I said, I don't enjoy dining out enough to warrant blown 200 dollars on the one evening. ....

 

As for my Asberges, I am thrilled my bf knows and understand it. He loves that I am different and can also relate, as he is an odd one too and has always felt like an outsider.

 

It is hard at times but tbh, men are very drawn to my offbeat and quirky nature. Although it is hard for someone like me to truly fit in and click in the long run, I have always been good at attracting men initially. And then they run when they can sense that I a socially abhorrent :( and even admit as much.

 

You have the right to live life the way you want to. If you want a man who pays for most stuff then you can find it. It sound like this man pays for a lot of things for you and you're attracted to him.

 

Don't let petty stuff mess up this relationship. This guy sounds good for you. If you want to be taken out on a date simply say "Can we eat out tonight?" Sounds like he'll take you. He won't do it on his own you will need to ask. And then look for some coupons to take with you. Coupons rock!. LOL. Free food.

 

Don't expect for him to read your mind or want everything that you want. Sometimes he will do things that will make you happy and sometimes he will frustrate you. Don't make a big deal of it. Simply ask him nicely for what you want. He may not give it to you but then you can discuss why in an adult manner.

 

Keep the drama low. It isn't healthy for you or him. And don't compare yourself to your girlfriend. What if in two weeks her boyfriend dumps her? You never know. Life is unpredictable.

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Leigh 87 Established Member

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Argh! My brain is hurting!

 

On some posts you say that he's doing a great job and is a loving boyfriend then you immediately contradict it by saying you need a man who spoils you. Then you say you're not spoilt, but need someone who will spoil you.

 

 

 

Confusion aside, the bit that really concerns me is sentences like this:

 

 

 

You make a lot of references such as 'looking for a man' and 'needing a man who...' and 'attracted to men who...' which makes me think that you don't intend to stay with this guy and you're really just with him for his money. There are many, many references to that kind of thing in most of your posts. Is this guy the one or not?

 

 

I only date men who have that natural preference to treat their women to dates than split the check.

 

I can just tell the types. Trust me. It is no worse than men who aren't attracted to certain body types on women. Some traits just don't do it for you.

 

One doesn't haveto be rich to spoil a woman.

 

I just prefer very generous men who don't feel good lettint a girl pay her half of meal. What on earth does that have to do with needing a rich dude? I HAD SEVERAL rich dudes want a relationship with me. But something wasn't driving me to be with them. They weren't the one.

 

Wanting a generous guy doesn't translate to a rich guy.

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Leigh 87 Established Member

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He's not the one, but hopefully it's because he's gonna grow tired of this crap and find someone else who actually appreciates what he does. And that woman will most certainly have more to offer him than a "slim" figure and a princess complex.

 

 

 

Well we seem to believe there's a good chance of us being the One.

 

When did I say that I wasn't greatful?

 

And he obviously thinks I have more to offer than a great body and looks he loves. He thinks I am funny, make him laugh more than anyone else, and he just likes me for who I am all around.

 

Of course without knowing us or knowing about our relationship and the way we interact it's pretty retatded to make judgments.

 

For all you know we could be the loves of each others lives. At least that's whatwe both think.

 

He actually doesn't see anything wrong with a girl who enjoys being a bit spoilt and not wanting to split checks.

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This thread is very confusing.

 

Leigh, you first stated you want to be spoiled and that you want more dates.

You apparently got exactly that.

Now you don't want that.

 

I think you need to be clearer with yourself on what you actually want. Because it seems you have no idea. He is eventually going to tire of trying to figure out what the heck actually pleases you.

 

I think you were right earlier when you said she isn't into him enough.

 

He's sending her through uni, buying her dresses, etc. But, it's the one thing that he isn't doing that gets spotlighted and made a big deal of.

 

I've dated my fair share of princesses, and all I offered them was a night out. If they didn't like it, they could tell their story walking - and I'm not bothered about 'love languages'. I certainly wouldn't be busting my backside to put a 'princess' through university.

 

Her boyfriend sounds like a doormat. One day, he might finally stop and think 'what exactly am I getting out of all this?'.

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bene Established Member

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One doesn't haveto be rich to spoil a woman.

 

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Yes, he does have to be rich to fit into your idea of spoiling. You ridicule that someone got slippers as a gift but how can you not see that the lifestyle where your gorgeous friend never has to pull out her own wallet costs money?

 

All the smaller things like dresses, weekends away, fancy restaurants etc still cost money and it adds up quickly.

 

You seem to simply ignore the reality of your financial situation.

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You're all being dogmatic.

 

You act like " normal" and " decent " and " good people "have to ALL not cars qho splits the bill.

 

You assume that any " healthy " or " high quality " woman has to not be okay with dating tight dudes or men who are rich yet split the check every single time.

 

I have some news: many girls in loveshack who have jobs and are quality catches, prefer a man to pay for dates.

 

Not ALL the " good woman" have to feel the exact same way as you do regarding men and dating.

 

I want true love and compatability attraction chemistry kindness laughter and all the " sensible " stuff. I just so happen to need the man to do the paying on dates and for them to be generous and to take charge and want to take care of a woman.

 

Money isn't the be all or end all... again, I have DUMPED a heck of a lot of generous men! Obviously I need a propper connection in addition to a generous guy who is into spoiling.

 

My friends are all into men who spoil them and would never dream of dating someone that split the check despite his healthy bank balance.

 

Some hard working and decent women DO need to be spoilt. Because men who don't process that drive to spoil a woman is just not attractive to us. It's an innate thing and perception we have of men. Just like how some men aren't into women who bust balls ans out earn them.

 

Personal preference isn't akin to needing 1 or 2 things and then not caring about a true connection or true compatability.

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Yes, he does have to be rich to fit into your idea of spoiling. You ridicule that someone got slippers as a gift but how can you not see that the lifestyle where your gorgeous friend never has to pull out her own wallet costs money?

 

All the smaller things like dresses, weekends away, fancy restaurants etc still cost money and it adds up quickly.

 

You seem to simply ignore the reality of your financial situation.

 

That friend never ASKED to be spoilt. She is very modest and down to earth. ....

 

She insists on paying rent and she buys her own clothes and cosmetics despite her high earning partner.

 

He genuinely PREFERS to be the ine to treat her to their days out together.

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She insists on paying rent and she buys her own clothes and cosmetics despite her high earning partner.

 

This is NOT an accomplishment. You're supposed to buy your own clothes and cosmetics!!!

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He genuinely PREFERS to be the ine to treat her to their days out together.

 

But you have mentioned your boyfriends "meagre" income several times. Do you not see a link between having the money and being able (not just willing) to spend it?

 

I don’t think anyone defends being unreasonably cheap. But it's baffling that you keep on insisting that he would spend money he doesn't have (unlike your friend's boyfriend apparently).

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Jabron1 Established Member

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You make a lot of references such as 'looking for a man' and 'needing a man who...' and 'attracted to men who...' which makes me think that you don't intend to stay with this guy and you're really just with him for his money. There are many, many references to that kind of thing in most of your posts. Is this guy the one or not?

 

I agree with you 100%.

 

Of course he's not 'the one'. No guy should be sacrificing himself to put a woman through university - unless she's his wife.

 

I think he's going to regret this - bigtime.

 

Guys who offer women gifts, money, and other stuff really don't get it. It doesn't get him respected at all - just treated like a doormat.

 

Too many guys can't seem to say 'no' to a woman. OP asks for a new dress? NO. Wants jewelry? NO. Wants to get funded through uni? NO. Want's one of those little dogs? NO.

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I agree with you 100%.

 

Of course he's not 'the one'. No guy should be sacrificing himself to put a woman through university - unless she's his wife.

 

I think he's going to regret this - bigtime.

 

Guys who offer women gifts, money, and other stuff really don't get it. It doesn't get him respected at all - just treated like a doormat.

 

Too many guys can't seem to say 'no' to a woman. OP asks for a new dress? NO. Wants jewelry? NO. Wants to get funded through uni? NO. Want's one of those little dogs? NO.

 

I don't think he's paying for her education. I think she's living with him and he's paying the rent, food, gas etc. And somehow...in some amazing world; the government is also helping out...NICE. I'm not sure how Leigh is getting both a man and the government to support her but that's pretty good survival skills.

 

In any case, I don't think Leigh is a bad person who needs to be yelled at. She want's a man who has more money than this guy has...it's obvious.

 

She might find someone who has more money. Or, like hoards of women in their 30's she will end up alone.

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I agree with you 100%.

 

Of course he's not 'the one'. No guy should be sacrificing himself to put a woman through university - unless she's his wife.

I think he's going to regret this - bigtime.

 

 

I agree, I feel really sorry for this guy.

He is working hard, he isn't earning a lot, yet Leigh is taking advantage of his good nature and his desire to please her.

Not only is he funding her, she is not in the least bit aware of the value of money to people who have little.

 

She railroaded him into taking her out to a ridiculously priced fancy restaurant for someone on his salary, and once she got there all glammed up, Miss I'm Entitled wasn't really happy and no doubt showed it...

He is going to be bankrupt soon and Leigh will move on to the next...as the "chemistry" isn't right and her men need to be willing to "spoil" her...

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