fastasleep Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 so i met an amazing girl who had to move away after our short relationship. we had agreed that we loved each other and haven't met anyone like each other in our lives. we didn't want to end it but if just made so much sense to end it. she leaves we talk on the phone every once in a while basically i miss you stuff and then the other night i freaked out and told her i would do whatever to be with her. she said i have already accepted that were apart and it's logical, i told her that i know that but my heart feels to strongly about this. i begged cried and pleaded and she said just forget about me. i was floored couldn't eat you know the standard stuff. five days pass she didn't call. so i decided to call and in a power/need to do this move i said, i said let's not contact each other for a couple months. she was shocked and said what a couple months. she said you can call me whenever you want. we talked about stuff for about a half an hour and i got her new email address and i said i would send her an email so she could have mine too. should i do no contact to see if she comes back and so i can have a level head in a couple of months to come back and talk and be friends. or should i be good solid friend to her and continue to contact her it will be very hard but i know that i can be a rock since she is far away from home.
scared shy Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I think it really depends on what your heart can handle... Do you want to do the NC thing to implement game playing, meaning, do you want to NC to have her call and say ok let's get together, or is the NC thing to really be able to step away and just accept that she wants friendship? If you really think you can just be friends then keep talking to her, friends are hard to come by, especially when you feel that strongly, but speaking from experience, the guy I am totally in love with is a good friend, and although it has never been said that he just wants to be friends (we don't really communicate about that sort of thing... ) I don't know that I could really be just his friend w/o quite a bit of NC...
Author fastasleep Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 i want her back in the worst way and nc might just work but she is far away from home and i don't want her to feel like i am deserting her.
UltimateZen Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 A dance is a dance. Don't email, don't call, and try not to think about her (even though it will be hard). Let time pass for you both to reflect. She will be missing you before you know it. NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER BEG. Shows no class, being needy, and is just plain sad. Sorry to tell it to you like this but just don't do it. It will only drive her away and you end up looking like a schmuck. If you do talk to her, tell her you are moving on, seeing a beautiful girl you just met, and let it go. You need some damage control and a few months of going out/dating/having fun will help you out and bring her closer if it was meant to be. If you do call her (which I still say you shouldn't) keep it short, keep the topic on you, and DON'T talk about the relationship. Othewise you will wind up in the friend zone, which is a place I am sure you do not want to be. Good luck.
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