traveler_n Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I've been "dating" a guy for about a month. We are not exclusive yet. I spent the weekend at his house and he started to get sick. He's a resident doctor so he had to work on Sunday. Sunday night he called me while I was at his place and he said he was stopping at the ER to be seen but he waneed me to stay. He said that they admitted him. I've only heard one response from him since Sunday when I asked if he was ok and he replied yes. Do you think the lack of communication is because he is really not feeling up to texting? Do you think he'll start communicating again once he's feeling better? Is this normal for a guy? I realize I'm probably over-thinking this but I'm afraid of being hurt. Thanks! 1
NinjaX Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Yes you are overthinking this. Just go on with your life. Be patient and he will get back to you. 2
Gaeta Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I've been "dating" a guy for about a month. We are not exclusive yet. I spent the weekend at his house and he started to get sick. He's a resident doctor so he had to work on Sunday. Sunday night he called me while I was at his place and he said he was stopping at the ER to be seen but he waneed me to stay. And you stayed how long at his place? Are you still at his place? He said that they admitted him. I've only heard one response from him since Sunday when I asked if he was ok and he replied yes. Did you try to contact him since Sunday? Do you think the lack of communication is because he is really not feeling up to texting? Do you think he'll start communicating again once he's feeling better? Is this normal for a guy? I realize I'm probably over-thinking this but I'm afraid of being hurt. Thanks! He told you he was ok on Sunday so why would he not feel good enough to contact you? No, you are not overthinking this. I think your questioning is very legitimate. 1
NinjaX Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 It seems like people have different idea of what level of communication is the norm. From what I see, they are "dating", and not exclusive. At this early stage, some men aren't just up for chit-chatting over text. Maybe he is busy. It's a waste of mental energy to continually wonder what he is up to. If he likes you, he will get back to you. However, if you did reach out to him and he did not respond for multiple days, then I agree, that's another story. From what I read though, he did give you a response. 1
Larryville Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Do you think the lack of communication is because he is really not feeling up to texting? I’m just gonna say… just responded on another thread mentioned texting, and see it so much on countless threads. I know many will disagree but you ladies who do all of this texting particularly in the early stages of “dating” need to rethink. Now I will admit I'm dating someone currently who “loves” to text I’m trying to be tolerant but I still hate it because we are still in discovery phase. Sunday night he called me while I was at his place… Did not text right? Dude was at hospital and sick… if I’m in the hospital and you text me? I'm kinda pissed.. 2
Gaeta Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 (edited) Did not text right? Dude was at hospital and sick… if I’m in the hospital and you text me? I'm kinda pissed.. I missed that. We are not allowed to use our phones for calls in hospitals, but we're allowed to text. If he called then I'd say he was not in a hospital. Of all people, as an intern, he knows that. CORRECTION: He did not call from hospital, but on his way to hospital. Edited March 17, 2016 by Gaeta 1
losangelena Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I've been "dating" a guy for about a month. We are not exclusive yet. I spent the weekend at his house and he started to get sick. He's a resident doctor so he had to work on Sunday. Sunday night he called me while I was at his place and he said he was stopping at the ER to be seen but he waneed me to stay. He said that they admitted him. I've only heard one response from him since Sunday when I asked if he was ok and he replied yes. Do you think the lack of communication is because he is really not feeling up to texting? Do you think he'll start communicating again once he's feeling better? Is this normal for a guy? I realize I'm probably over-thinking this but I'm afraid of being hurt. Thanks! Wait, you stayed at his place while he went to work, and on the way home from work, he called you to say that since he was feeling sick, he was going to stop at the ER and they ended up admitting him. It's only Wednesday, is he still sick? Is he still in the hospital? What's his communication style when he's not sick? Did you ever leave his house? If he was sick enough to be admitted, that's pretty sick! How about giving him a ring to see how he's doing? 1
Gaeta Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Wait, you stayed at his place while he went to work, and on the way home from work, he called you to say that since he was feeling sick, he was going to stop at the ER and they ended up admitting him. It's only Wednesday, is he still sick? Is he still in the hospital? What's his communication style when he's not sick? Did you ever leave his house? If he was sick enough to be admitted, that's pretty sick! How about giving him a ring to see how he's doing? He was admitted Sunday night and we are Thursday and no news from Sunday. He did say he was OK Sunday night. If you have a look at her previous thread, he did leave her with no news for 4 days when he was on vacation (but still posting on FB). 1
losangelena Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 He was admitted Sunday night and we are Thursday and no news from Sunday. He did say he was OK Sunday night. If you have a look at her previous thread, he did leave her with no news for 4 days when he was on vacation (but still posting on FB). Jesus, I'm a whole day behind ... wow, it's been a stressful week. I didn't see her other threads. Just tryna get clarification. It seems like this is a pattern for him, to which I'd say, if OP is ok with that, then fine, but it doesn't sound like she is, because she's on here posting about it. FWIW, I've never dated, or even "dated," a guy who didn't speak to me for four days. 3
Larryville Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 If you have a look at her previous thread, he did leave her with no news for 4 days when he was on vacation (but still posting on FB). Well then G… that kinda changes things from the response perspective, never occurs to me to read previous threads for context when responding to an OP. Maybe I should do more It seems like this is a pattern for him, to which I'd say, if OP is ok with that, then fine, but it doesn't sound like she is, because she's on here posting about it. Exactly! FWIW, I've never dated, or even "dated," a guy who didn't speak to me for four days. Why would anyone tolerate that? Again settling... a dude who is truly into you and gives a damn would never do that... EVER! 1
Satu Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Its never a good sign when someone stops all communication.
smackie9 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 it's Thursday....so if you haven't heard anything by now, just move on. I reunited with an ex one New Years. We went out on a date a few days later. He told he was going to call me later, but didn't so I wrote him off....he called me 3 weeks later. Too bad for him because I met my husband during those 3 weeks. 3
Zippy2000 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Im a guy and if I was interested in you. I d blow your phone over with texts. That said, not all men are texters. A lot of men see the phone as a tool to organise meet ups. Women on the other hand especially before the days of texting use the phone as a social tool. I d gauge for him not responding is either because he is too busy, luke warm in interested in you or he isnt that into you. Id maybe ask him how he is and if not reply or a lsow reply is to back off a bit and let him come tou you. Unless you want to move on.
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