Dmarie04 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Im 37 and my new boyfriend is 55. We've been together 3 months and we have yet to have intercourse due to what seems to be some ED issues. He swears its not me because naturally a womans response is that hes not into you. I try to bring it up and he gets very awkward about the subject. What do I do?? Besides this the relationship is wonderful. This is very frustrating!!
Redhead14 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Im 37 and my new boyfriend is 55. We've been together 3 months and we have yet to have intercourse due to what seems to be some ED issues. He swears its not me because naturally a womans response is that hes not into you. I try to bring it up and he gets very awkward about the subject. What do I do?? Besides this the relationship is wonderful. This is very frustrating!! You remain patient. This is frustrating and probably embarrassing for him. Does he attempt to satisfy you at least in other ways? If so, then you do have a caring man who is willing to forego his own wants. At his age, this is a common issue. The more you "harp" on it, the more frustrating and difficult it is for him. If he's feeling pressured, that by itself will cause problems. If he tells you it's not you, then believe him. Can he get erections at all? Does he wake up with erections? My SO finds that he is erect very early in the morning and so that is our "time". It seems to him that that is a time when he is least distracted by daily things and most rested. If he can't get an erection at all ever, then there may be something physical going on. Prostate problem, blood pressure. Otherwise, it's a psychological "thing". He's distracted or worrying about it, etc. Just be patient and observe whether he has "peaks" and work around that. If you want to address it simply say something like "I know this issue is frustrating for you and I want to work with you. Have you talked to your doctor lately because I know sometimes there are physical things that cause ED. Beyond that, if there is something different you'd like to try that may be stimulating to you, I'd be willing to listen and try things." (assuming you are willing to try some things).
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