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I have been dating this.Scorpio guy for over four months now. We never got into any type of arguments before. We would talk everyday. Well the weekend before last, I realized I didn't hear from him so on that Monday(last Monday) I sent him a text that consisted of a quote that stated "the answer is to stop worrying and let God handle it" and such. He replied with "thanks I really needed to hear that" then that Monday night he asked me to come over. While there, I noticed that he just wasn't him self but didn't say anything then last Tuesday and Wednesday, I heard from him via text but i just got one message from him on both days and that was it. Then last Thursday, I decided to bring it up by letting him know that I noticed lately that he haven't really been talking and I sense that something may be bothering him and if so, I am here for him if he wants to talk about it. Well he never replied to that text and I never heard from him since. I sent him another text on Tuesday letting him know that I was worried about him and I wanna know if he is okay but he still didn't reply to me. So at this point I am not sure what to do. Any suggestions?

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Then last Thursday, I decided to bring it up by letting him know that I noticed lately that he haven't really been talking and I sense that something may be bothering him and if so, I am here for him if he wants to talk about it. Well he never replied to that text and I never heard from him since. ... Any suggestions?

 

"Well he never replied to that text..." (I don't know how to bold)

 

Without getting into specifics on your question, I would suggest never bringing up anything 'deep' or important via text. If it is serious, it should be done in person, or at the very least, over the phone.

 

Sorry if that isn't too helpful to your situation. But, that is what stood out to me.

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Regarding Monday's text: Does he believe in God?

 

Also I find it unusual that you'd "realise" on Monday that you hadn't heard from him over the weekend. Did you initiate contact over the weekend and he didn't respond.....or did you not reach out to him at all during the weekend?

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Thanks guys! Yes he does believe in God and I did reach out to him over the weekend but I didn't hear from him until I sent the text on Monday...It just confuses me because a week before that everything was great and have been great with no problems. Then when I notice that something was bothering him and he was being a little distant, I thought it was okay to bring it up and let him know I am here for him if he wanted to talk about it. I had no idea he would completely stop talking to me. I guess that was the wrong thing to do??? Should I just let it be and see if he comes around or should I apologize for the unknown? because I was just trying to show my support

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Another thing to add, while over at his place on Monday, his work phone kept going off. He never hide his phones from me, they are always facing up and right next to us when we together so I was about to see that it was his work phone and not his personal one. Over the course of the four months of us dating, his work phone never went off as much as I seen it go off that day. I can always be wrong but I think he may be dealing with work related issues.

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When a man is in his man cave, a woman needs to give him space for him to work out his issues.

 

It's common for the woman to reach out and asks if he wants to talk it out, but understand that women tend to work out their issues by talking; men on the other hand tend to do it privately.

 

If and when he does work it out, he will reach out to you. When that happens, be happy, get together and have a good time. Don't focus too much on the serious stuff and focus on having fun.

 

If he does not reach out, then you must have the emotional strength to walk away.

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Thank you so much for that reply...I will definitely give him his space and see if he will come around and if not then I will have to move on. No matter how much I like him.

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The title of your post concerns me. Star signs are just tat designed to pad out newspapers. The only time they affect anything is if people read stuff into them and make assumptions based on them. I have no idea what a "Scorpio guy" is supposed to do, but maybe whatever it is you are reading things into his behaviour based on it.

 

I agree with the other poster. Don't discuss serious stuff via text. I've actually had this issue lately and whenever the girl I'm seeing brings up anything heavy in text I just say sorry, I don't discuss serious stuff via text, happy to chat about it next time we meet.

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You've reached out to him way too many times without response. You're chasing someone who no longer seems interested and is likely seeing someone else given his absence all weekend. He's most likely doing a fade on you unfortunately.

 

At this point, stop reaching out to him and don't apologize. He has rudely ignored all your attempts to talk. He owes you an apology if or when he contacts you again.

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I have been dating this. Scorpio guy for over four months now.

 

I’m a VERY Scorpio guy… if you have not seen before

Scorpio

 

Discovered this about 8 – 10 years ago, is me to a T, I love freaking out other Scorpio friends of mind with it.

 

Star signs are just tat designed to pad out newspapers. The only time they affect anything is if people read stuff into them and make assumptions based on them.

 

i don't do the daily Horoscope thing, never had but the profile thing to me was one too I used to process me when things were not cool. I'm not religious but do think we all have a "blueprint" and how we evolve depends of course on life circumstances...

 

I would suggest never bringing up anything 'deep' or important via text. If it is serious, it should be done in person, or at the very least, over the phone.

 

Absolutely! Why your Scorpio guy thing stood out I HATE COMMUNICATING VIA TEXT, to be honest it pisses me off because a good number of women love texting and while I don’t mind general stuff via text not important, deep stuff… me it just makes things worse my mind processes so much faster than I can text.

 

Did you initiate contact over the weekend and he didn't respond.....or did you not reach out to him at all during the weekend?

 

Another thing, women with busy lives, lots of friends maybe not communicating over a weekend may not be a big deal to them, and while they are not doing anything sinister the longer between communications the more dudes like me minds race and we process negative crap or "phantom" problems.

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Are you in an exclusive relationship? Did you meet each other's family and friends?

 

This is very much disrespectful of you. It requires no efforts from him to just answer he's going through some tough times and needs time alone and he'll get back to you.

 

This is not a 3 week relationship, this is 4 months in ! You are justified to be worried and he's a bull for ignoring your text stating you're getting worried.

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This was exact text message to him before he completely stopped talking to me

 

'"Hey I noticed that you haven't really been talking to me lately and I sense that's something may be bothering you. I am not sure what but know that I am here if you want to talk about it"

 

That was the message I sent on Thursday before he completely stop talking to me then on Tuesday I reached out and said:

 

"I am worried about you...we haven't went this long without talking before and I wanna know if you are okay because I sincerely care about you. I understand you may need space but know that I am here for you"

 

He still didn't reply even after I expressed my concerns. So at this point I don't plan to reach out any more because I don't want push it.

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Are you in an exclusive relationship? Did you meet each other's family and friends?

 

Can you answer my questions please

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Every Scorpio carries within him a wound of some kind, an emotional or sexual problem or conflict or frustration which - no matter how hard he tries - refuses to be solved. He usually creates this problem himself. He has a penchant after all, for creating crisis and then pitting himself against the enemy in good dramatic style.

You might call Scorpio erotic, rather than sensual. There is a world of difference. Pick a copy of any Playboy magazine and you will see crude sexuality at its most rampant. It's the body which is the turn-on. Eroticism is different; it's the tone, the colour, the atmosphere, the underlying feeling. Watch a film like the Japanese Empire of the Senses. Sexual it isn't; erotic it is. When you understand the difference, you'll understand Scorpio's sexuality. Sometimes there are darker undercurrents to it - a trace of cruelty, a touch of masochism, some fantasies that involve things our grandmothers pretended didn't exist. Experimentation is something Scorpio will happily pursue - provided it's erotic, not mechanical. 'How to' journals bore him. He doesn't need to learn how to. His curiosity is usually alive from the age of three onwards. It's something else he's after.

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We are dating exclusively but we both agreed to hold off on meeting the family and friends plus my family lives out of state

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Honestly it sounds like he isn't into you anymore, unfortunately he doesn't have the balls to say so. Unusual for a Scorpio but people are made up of more than one Astrological sign, and I truly hope you're not googling Scorpio things and basing him off of those. If you've ever done a chart for yourself, you'll know what I mean. I find Moon signs tend to be more accurate. My Moon sign is in Scorpio, and fits me to a Tee.

 

Don't text him anymore.

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Another thing to add, while over at his place on Monday, his work phone kept going off. He never hide his phones from me, they are always facing up and right next to us when we together so I was about to see that it was his work phone and not his personal one. Over the course of the four months of us dating, his work phone never went off as much as I seen it go off that day. I can always be wrong but I think he may be dealing with work related issues.

 

Frankly, I'm surprised you didn't ask him a bit more when you visited. It may be work (was he at work that day?) or processing your relationship. I've read a lot about where the 4-month mark is critical (with some guys) in terms of deciding if they're going to take the relationship forward or not. So I'd prepare for this. Just out of interest, how old is he?

 

On no account, contact him any more. Hope all works out well for you!

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Hello, he is 31yrs old....he also have two kids so idk if that could be a possible issue. I'm assuming work because of the way his work phone kept going off that day... he work in Sales for a large corporation and I know how stressful sales can be. It's just unusual for him to act this way but I guess time will tell. Thanks for all the advice. I appreciate it. I think I will just let it be. That's all I can do.

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It sounds like you did the right thing by asking. There is a fine line about giving space and asking too much but that's something you learn over time. Personally I would appreciate it if my woman asked how I was doing or asked if I'm stressed...but I'm a Libra and we are kinda like that.

 

 

Ideally he would open up and let you know hes stressed about work, kids, or what ever.

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I'm a Scorpio woman. So what am I? I know I hate texting though :/. I hate it especially when it goes in the direction of a serious topic because then I feel out of control. I prefer to discuss things in person. Texting is for saying stuff like "Hey I'll be there in 5 mins" or "sorry my train is going to be 5 mins late". I don't like it for conversation.

 

It could be that OP's man is preoccupied by work. Might be a good idea to sit down and talk when they next see each other and see what's happening in his life as he may be feeling stressed.

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Hi there! Taurus gal here... Opposite of Scorpio, a sign which I find both fascinating and infuriating. Having had experience with Scorpio males before, the best advice I can give you is, leave him alone.

Scorpions need time alone in their little caves to regenerate, organise their heads, cry, binge on watching Netflix etc etc. Basically, it's not unusual for them to drop off the face of the earth for a few days.

If he really cares about you, he will come back to you :)

He will appreciate the time alone and come back refreshed! And if he doesn't get back in touch, you've tried, so **** him. Don't be a beg, he knows you care, and that usually means the world to Scorpio's. They are a funny bunch believe me, but my bad experiences with one doesn't make me doubt that they are still amazing, and I still find myself hopelessly attracted to them!

Just a Taurus opinion, hope this helps.

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