Lorenza Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Hey LS! A question to ease my curiosity - when you, a guy tell your girlfriend that her body is amazing and sexy and the best you've seen, how honest is that? Is it what you really feel or is it exaggerated to keep your woman happy? I've been always wondering that. Too bad I don't have a guy friend to ask that, so would be fun to hear it from men on LS (and women who've been wondering the same) My own example - my guy always gives me a bunch of compliments, especially on some parts of my body. God forbid I'm not complaining and I take those compliments with grace and pretend I share his opinion, haha, but I see him follow fitness girls on IG with perfect bodies and wonder - he can't really mean that my mushy bum (with some, how to put it softly - orange peel features) is the sexiest he've seen when he sees those squat bums all over IG, can he? So guys, do you really not see the imperfection on your girlfriends' bodies, see through them or see them clearly and try to pretend they're not there? P.s I'm not insecure about my body, love it! But I'm very realistic ;P
smudge21 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 You got to remember, when you love someone, truly love someone, you see them as the most beautiful amazing person you've ever known. Yeah, one can still check out some eye-candy (and don't deny you do it too, otherwise diet coke adverts wouldn't exist) but we don't see them in the same way we see the person we love. Those feelings makes us see everything about the person, not just the outside. It's like we see their inner beauty too. I know I've met girls in the past (even my most recent) who on first impressions, although very attractive, I just wasn't attracted to them. Only by gettng to know them did those feelings change and I suddenly saw them as the most beautiful person in the world. So to answer your question, when someone loves you, totally believe their compliments... and pay a few back too. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Genuine compliments are spoken because the other person is looking at you with their heart not just their eyes. If you think your guy is lying to you, you have huge problems. 1
Author Lorenza Posted March 16, 2016 Author Posted March 16, 2016 Genuine compliments are spoken because the other person is looking at you with their heart not just their eyes. If you think your guy is lying to you, you have huge problems. Haha, thanks for your concern but I'm just wondering. Is it not possible to ask a question without being told you problems? Geeez
Author Lorenza Posted March 16, 2016 Author Posted March 16, 2016 You got to remember, when you love someone, truly love someone, you see them as the most beautiful amazing person you've ever known. Yeah, one can still check out some eye-candy (and don't deny you do it too, otherwise diet coke adverts wouldn't exist) but we don't see them in the same way we see the person we love. Those feelings makes us see everything about the person, not just the outside. It's like we see their inner beauty too. I know I've met girls in the past (even my most recent) who on first impressions, although very attractive, I just wasn't attracted to them. Only by gettng to know them did those feelings change and I suddenly saw them as the most beautiful person in the world. So to answer your question, when someone loves you, totally believe their compliments... and pay a few back too. Oh, I'm completely for checking eye-candies and do it myself, it's normal But do guys notice imperfections or not? Putting love and inner beauty aside for a second. I compliment him too a loooot but when I tried telling him something similar to what he tells me (I meant it also, but he does trully have a perfect male body, so my compliment is a complete truth), he didnt believe me!
jen1447 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Hope you don't mind me answering as a woman but I can confirm that a 'perfect butt' or what have you is made so or moreso by the character of the owner. So, much as it sounds like a contradiction, a literally perfect stripper butt on a stranger and a possibly slightly doughy GF butt on someone you love can be equally perfect, given the circumstances and all things considered. 1
PegNosePete Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I have never given a compliment that is not 100% genuine. 1
smudge21 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Oh, I'm completely for checking eye-candies and do it myself, it's normal But do guys notice imperfections or not? Putting love and inner beauty aside for a second. I compliment him too a loooot but when I tried telling him something similar to what he tells me (I meant it also, but he does trully have a perfect male body, so my compliment is a complete truth), he didnt believe me! Yes we all notice imperfections, but as I said, when you love someone you love the whole, good, bad, odd, strange, crazy about them. I'm personally not a fan of tattoos, but on my last girlfriend I loved them. We also all find it hard to accept compliments and sometimes they can make us feel uncomfortable (especially if one has come out of a loveless relationship at some point), so you have to accept that too. Finally beauty is in the eye of the beholder - what you see of him, isn't what he sees of himself.
losangelena Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Most bodies paraded around on the Internet are not realistic. People who model for a living know how to pose and flex to make muscles and certain body parts look bigger (or smaller); they know what time of day to take a photo so they look more defined. Also, there's photoshop and any number of other ways to edit photos. Your BF thinks you've got a sexy behind because of what's attached to it. Just smile, say thanks, and compliment him.
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Haha, thanks for your concern but I'm just wondering. Is it not possible to ask a question without being told you problems? Geeez I wasn't trying to start anything but from your Q I got the impression that you think your guy is lying when he compliments you. Lying in a relationship is serious but so is suspicion so I was trying to get to the root: do you have self esteem issues where you only see your own flaws (I do) or do you honestly think you are dating an untrustworthy man. Those two problems have vastly different fixes. 2
mikeylo Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Saying that you have the best ' I have ever seen ' , is stupid. That means I'm comparing you to others and have been with many women. Its lame. There are many women with 'hot' bodies moving around out of which many are starving themselves to keep those bodies.Many are using chemicals.Many are doing liposuction. Many are doing surgeries to enhance their boobs. The list is endless. Many men are staring and having dirty thoughts about these ' perfect' women.But no one is taking them home to make them their girl. Those women are good enough for a while.They satisfy the carnal needs. Its not natural. Natural beauty has flaws. I took one of these home to make her my wife -- warts and all. I'm not blind.I look at women with 'perfect' bodies around me but I see only my wife if it makes any sense.She is also not blind.She looks at men with hot bodies. 2
TLV10 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I think you have to have spent enough time with someone to know if they are honest and truthful. If they have proven themself to be honest then you trust the compliment
basil67 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 No matter how much I love a person, I still see them accurately. Never have I been with a man who's the hottest or most gorgeous I've ever seen. If I was to tell them this, it would be a complete lie. Now this doesn't mean that I don't love them and find them sexy. Of course I do. But my rose tinted glasses don't extend to making physical attributes more attractive than they really are. Likewise, if a guy was to tell me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world, I'd probably laugh and tell him he's full of shyte. But if he told me that he loves me and finds me so attractive and sexy, I wouldn't hesitate to believe him. 1
thecrucible Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I think they are more genuine if they're not hyperbolic. I always say "thank you" to a compliment even if I don't fully believe it but I prefer to be complimented on who I am as a person. It's not because I don't like how I look but I want to be more valued for being "me" rather than hear something that sounds like a line that could be used with any woman out there. 2
thecrucible Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I look at women with 'perfect' bodies around me but I see only my wife if it makes any sense.She is also not blind.She looks at men with hot bodies. That's how I see it too. It's better for people to acknowledge to their partners that others are still going to be seen as attractive by them. It's okay to have these thoughts but it's not something you want to put out there vocally in front of your spouse. When I've been in love with a guy I still only see him as the man I am sexually attracted to even though I see attractive guys. It's like I see attractive guys but I see them in the same way I think "oh what a beautiful picture you have on the wall". I acknowledge them to be pleasing to the eye but they are a distraction and not something I fantasise about.
TLV10 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 hopefully we know the person we are dating well enough and we are secure enough that finding other people attractive is a non-issue. has anyone downloaded Does he have Issues?
JustGettingBy Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Oh, I'm completely for checking eye-candies and do it myself, it's normal But do guys notice imperfections or not? Putting love and inner beauty aside for a second. I compliment him too a loooot but when I tried telling him something similar to what he tells me (I meant it also, but he does trully have a perfect male body, so my compliment is a complete truth), he didnt believe me! Yes, us guys notice imperfections. Every woman I've ever had feelings for has had 'imperfections'. Someone with 'imperfections' can still be extremely beautiful.
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