BUSTAHblader Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I dont even know where to start.. This website is fantastic i just wish i found it a month ago So usual scenario Boy meets girl Girl crushes hes heart in 1,000 pieces Somewhere between those two points i think I've done very wrong So we met online, she was instantly inlove with me chasing me for so long We both found comfirt away from our ex partners with each other and bonded over alot of common interests. At one stage we stopped seeing each other and went back to our ex partners. It lasted a few months and we reconnected and started a relationship! It was minor long distance 1hour approximately drive Things where fantastic! We were going on holidays and planning our future but most importantly having fun We had our minor arguments over like directions or what to wear out but nothing major 5 months goes by Now weve been intimate for close to a year Dating for 5 of those months officially Now the break up... We went on a road trip to Sydney its was horrible. We as a couple were fantastic just the holiday was ****house When we got back we decided to go camping with her family First night was amazing apart from my being sick with a bug On the second day we got into an argument early in the morning, Over money. A very small petty amount but it was the selfishness that made me so angry and her throwinh it in my face (Mind you i payed for EVERYTHING) Instead of yelling and screaming I spent the remainder of the day and night maybe 12hours avoiding her Not much just suttle but i knew it was getting under her skin After we got back from a very very silent 3 hour drive She text me 'Has something between us changed?' I admit, here is where i ****ed up I kind of initiated the split but not really I replied 'Yes, but maybe we should just take a week or 2 to sort out our priorities and what we want' She turned right there. Declared we go our separate ways shes too old for this she says. Im 23 shes 25. I got angry, we fought i told her you better be certain of this! Shes very stubborn I was so broken i went and tried to fill this void with physical sex with an old ex partner a week later (i dont have a support network, no one to talk too, she was there and it was horrible i was so empty Thinking of my ex the whole time and if she was doing the same stupid thing) But ill get back to this.... So a few more days pass and me and the ex start sorting things out I told her i understand We went out on a date to dinner & movies, Had sex that night. A few days later she sent me a text 3 pages long saying how sad it is this will never work I rang I begged I cried I pleaded I was in the hospital at this time with my father. But only for an explanation not reconciliation as to why the woman who loved me broke up over text after such a great date She said she couldn't look me in the eye & do this. She said she doesnt know how she feels about us or herself. I said some hurtfull things back A week later i mailed her a rose telling her i understand (as much as i didnt) & i just want her to be happy and im not that happiness Few more days later i contacted her and it was GREAAAYTT weve never clicked like this on such a personal level before!! Showing me the rose in her room. She was telling her mum how much im opening up to her and how great things are, telling me she misses me Naked pictures. Morning texts of have a great day. Telling me how when we broke up how confused and sad she was that she only brokeup with me because she thought i was going to break up with her, I just wanted a week or 2 to clear my head... Starts saying how theres still a chance for us in the future But she has alot she needs to work out too. After a few days of this i got to the end of my rope Declared this friendship over That im only your back up guy now I deserve more She acknowledged i deserve better It turnrd into such an ugly argument i said so many nasty things But she said i want you to hate me, What i said was unbelievable..... No contact starts here Intiated by her I thought... I hoped it started here But... VERY NEXT DAY! I wake up Pissing like razor blades Doctor confirms chlamydia infection from most definitely the woman i sleped with when my ex left me, the story i was getting back too... But i also slept with my ex after that, on the date. Worst phone call of mylife! But not to her... Because we started no contact Blocked on all social media as i asked her to do Deleted phone number Call logs Messages The lot I had to ring her brother for her number. We argueed... We got along fantastic by the end of it he understood my point of view Shed been only showing him the angry messages that wernt even me but instead was my raw emotions and hurt We all do stupid things with a broken heart.... He declined to give it too me Said giver her time... So i told him to tell her to go get tested and what happened with the other girl. Within 5 minutes she rang me, Ranting i cheated on her. I didnt, i explained i didnt and what happened. She seemed very upset, 'Yeah cool' she replied I hung up. Its been 6 days No contact as in talking Ive broken it a few times only in the way as in ive looked at her Facebook from a friends account I know no contact is for me to heal And everydays getting easier But she just posts those instagram memes like 'Men think shell get over it but actually shell get over you' 'Running from my problems' 'Im down with you until you **** up then you irrelevant' Like shes trying to validate to herself what she done was right With captions like 'Simple really =)' Im not asking any specific questions here Only for someones outside point of view
PegNosePete Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 It seems the relationship is as dead as a dodo. To heal better you should do NC properly. At the moment you're doing it wrong. You need to block her on FB and instagram and all other social media. Total NC. Not just no phone calls or whatever. No Contact at all in any way that includes internet stalking.
Author BUSTAHblader Posted March 16, 2016 Author Posted March 16, 2016 Thanks mate need the truth Any ideas where i killed the dodo =)
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