LuckyxGuapa Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago. I could sense he had lost interest and got the feeling he had met someone new. I was strung along for a while until eventually he told me the truth and said he didn't feel anything for me. I had bought him something for xmas, that I never gave to him because he was always "busy" when I asked to see him. It was something he needed and he knew I had bought it. Anyway he got intouch a few days ago to ask if I could take it round for him and he would give me the money for it. I took it round but he didn't have any money on him. I messaged him the next day and said I would still like the money. In my opinion, no one gets anything for nothing and now we were no longer dating, it was right he was to pay me, especially as I was good enough to take it round and as he said he would. I was asking for £10. He started getting irate saying that I was pestering him for money, and as I had just had £1500 (payout from an employment tribunal) that I wasn't short of cash and it was just an excuse to text him. I actually laughed but was also shocked at the arrogance. I sent my bank details to him and said I wanted the money paying in and he said he would do it. I still haven't had the money, and I know it's just £10, but it's the principle, don't say your going to pay me and then don't. I have deleted him off my Facebook, but was tempted to send him a message telling him what I really think of him. Should I? Or should I just take it as a lesson learnt and let him stick the money up his a**e??
mcjordan Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Yeah, that's life when you break up. Let the 10 go. 1
Zippy2000 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I have deleted him off my Facebook, but was tempted to send him a message telling him what I really think of him. Should I? Or should I just take it as a lesson learnt and let him stick the money up his a**e?? That will achieve nothing and if you do say good bye to your tenenr for good. He may in his own time give you your money but if you keep pestering him her wont as its making feel he has power over you. You need to let this one go. Its only £10 but other people have been scammed out of thouands through romance scams. 1
SammySammy Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 By all means, make sure you get your money. It's the principle of the thing.
Methodical Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 (edited) Anyway he got intouch a few days ago to ask if I could take it round for him and he would give me the money for it. I took it round but he didn't have any money on him. I messaged him the next day and said I would still like the money. In my opinion, no one gets anything for nothing and now we were no longer dating, it was right he was to pay me, especially as I was good enough to take it round and as he said he would. I was asking for £10. He started getting irate saying that I was pestering him for money, and as I had just had £1500 (payout from an employment tribunal) that I wasn't short of cash and it was just an excuse to text him. I actually laughed but was also shocked at the arrogance. I sent my bank details to him and said I wanted the money paying in and he said he would do it. I still haven't had the money, and I know it's just £10, but it's the principle, don't say your going to pay me and then don't. I doubt he intended to pay; otherwise, he wouldn't have made the comment about your payout. (He knew he didn't have the money when he asked you to bring it.) In his eyes, as he said, it's not a financial hardship on you, so he took advantage. He certainly didn't mind contacting you to bring it to him, but you contacting him for the money is pestering and an excuse... It's probably best to cut your loss. He is showing his true colors and they aren't pretty. If the money is that big a deal, you should have walked away with the gift and told him to come to you when he had the funds to cover it. Edited March 16, 2016 by Methodical 1
Toodaloo Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Its £10 Be glad its not more and choose better next time. This guy is a jerk. Do not bother wasting a single second more on him. 2
Zahara Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 but it's the principle, don't say your going to pay me and then don't. You're expecting too much from a guy that strung you along and was likely seeing someone else while with you. I have deleted him off my Facebook, but was tempted to send him a message telling him what I really think of him. Should I? Or should I just take it as a lesson learnt and let him stick the money up his a**e?? Save your energy. He won't even care as to what you think about him. It will just trickle off his back. Forget the 10. 1
No_Go Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 It's 10 bucks. Don't even bother thinking about it. If it was 10 000 - maybe, eventually. Even then better don't bother. Post break up interactions are always toxic.
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 If you were working, what was your hourly rate? How much time are you willing to spend to get back a few bucks? When you think of time as money you will have your answer. That doesn't even include the emotional costs of being so pence wise & pound foolish. 2
mightycpa Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 (edited) I think you should send him one last text that says "Hey! Where's my £10? It's been {insert delay here}. C'mon Oliver ****in' Twist, get off your cheap ass wallet and pay up." Edited March 16, 2016 by mightycpa 1
losangelena Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I like mightycpa's idea, though I think in the grand scheme of things, $10 is not such a big deal. $100, maybe.
basil67 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 (edited) >>I had bought him something for xmas, that I never gave to him because he was always "busy" when I asked to see him. << Given the history, I think you'd have been far better off returning the item to the store. No way would I have delivered it to him *after* he broke up with me. You're too nice for your own good Edited March 16, 2016 by basil67
BC1980 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 10 dollars is nothing in the grand scheme of things. You will never see that 10 dollars again. Count yourself lucky. I have seen some people who have lost a heck of a lot more.
Author LuckyxGuapa Posted March 16, 2016 Author Posted March 16, 2016 Thanks for all your replies. I tried to return the item, (it was off amazon) but the seller was (I think pretending) to be French and he didn't understand me. After numerous emails back and forth I gave up. I text my ex earlier on tonight and said it had been 9 days since he said he would pay the money into my account and nothing has gone in, when was he planning on paying, and I got a quite irate message back saying it was "just £10" and that I was a physco, barmy and mental. So I replied and said I wasn't any of those names and that I don't understand why he won't just pay like he said or what the delay has been. I'm a reasonable person. If he said he didn't have the money then that's something, but to blatantly ignore me, makes me angry. Needless to say I didn't get a response. So looks like I'm just going to have to leave it, but it angers me that he thinks he can just do that.
mightycpa Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 That's why you should have called him Oliver Twist!
Zahara Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 but it angers me that he thinks he can just do that. I'm still not sure why you're angry. Given the fact that you believe he was already seeing someone new and stringing you along, you're expecting him to do the right thing by you? If anything, for a 10 dollar item, I would have donated it to someone, sold it to someone or kept it for myself rather than hand deliver it to him.
angel.eyes Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 You should be angry with yourself not him! Seriously! The guy blew you off with being "busy" (and likely some new chick) while you kept trying to give him his Christmas gift. I'm guessing he got you nada in the gift department. After you break up, he asks for this gift he knows you have, and you promptly hop on over to his. Who asks for a gift from the dumpee following a breakup??? If blowing you off for months wasn't a sufficiently big clue, this alone should have told you the likelihood of you getting a penny out of him. He couldn't even be bothered to come get it. So you obliged and took it to him. What were you hoping for by doing this? Cut your losses by going NC. The more irate and upset you get about a measly £10, the more of a giggle you give him for sticking it to you one final time. It's a toxic interaction and you don't need that. Consider it a lesson learned and water under the bridge. Don't get gifts for guys too busy to see you for months, especially guys you're suspicious might be seeing someone else. And certainly not guys who don't get you gifts. At least it's only a minor amount of money. In that sense, it was a very cheap lesson and a bargain in the grand scheme of things.
ilovemefirst Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I dont think its worth it. Yes its the principle but its not worth your energy or time.
Toodaloo Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 You are using it as an excuse to keep him in your life. Move on. Quit being the drama queen. Put what ever it was on ebay to recoup your cash or at least some of it. Job done and simples. Or. Apply to go on Jeremy Kyle...
elaine567 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Put what ever it was on ebay to recoup your cash or at least some of it. She can't do that, as he has got the gift.
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