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This girl is in my class, since day one I had noticed her looking at me. Recently I happened to sit close to her and she started talking to me pretending having questions related to the class. This happened twice. I got her name and wanting to test the waters I looked her up on facebook, found her and saw her listed as "single". After looking at a guy that consistently "likes" her posts I saw that that same guy has pictures with her and is listed as "engaged" obviously with the girl in my class.

Now I'm really confused, why would someone be listed as single and apparently engaged to someone, or vice versa?

 

As disclaimer for all those who will be tempted to say "duh, no one cares about fb, just ask her" I don't think fb is important but it is important for many people nowadays and is primordial part of social interaction.

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People don't always brag about their relationship on Facebook. Some want to keep things by themselves

 

Or she's just doing it for fun, most girls do that kind of stuff

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why would someone be listed as single and apparently engaged to someone, or vice versa?

Maybe she forgot to update it.

Maybe she doesn't care about her facebook status.

Maybe she is technophone and doesn't know how to update it.

Maybe she is too lazy to update it.

Maybe she thought her status is private so there's no point updating it.

Maybe she hasn't told her parents yet and doesn't want them finding out through FB.

Maybe she doesn't want loads of virtual strangers congratulating her.

 

There are many, many reasons. Nobody here can begin to guess which one it is.

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VengeanceGuidesMe Established Member

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or maybe she poor morals and wants to bang you.

 

Please try and share results.

 

I had a friend who cheated. Some cheaters just date 2 people and keep them secret from each other.

 

One other 'maybe' cases: She and him dates. They broke up and now he's engaged to someone else. The pictures are an artifact of that time and one of them hasn't moved on or hasn't felt like removing them.

 

I know once when I broke up with my ex and started dating a new girl. About 4 months into my relationship, she was like "Can you delete some of your pictures from facebook?" and I was like "WTF, I'm not taking down pics. Which ones do you want me to delete?" "All these ones with your ex" "Oh... those, yeah sure." Then I deleted all the pics of just the two of us, but not of us in a group of people. She was okay with this compromise.

 

Anyway, my current gf doesn't get jealous. She wouldn't ask me to delete old photos of my ex. Maybe this guy and her dates, and he's moved on and gotten engaged but hasn't deleted the photos.

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This girl is in my class, since day one I had noticed her looking at me. Recently I happened to sit close to her and she started talking to me pretending having questions related to the class. This happened twice.

 

Why are you assuming she is "pretending" to ask questions about the class?

Is it not possible she is just asking questions about the class...

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Hang on a mo!

 

 

You dont know that the guy who is liking her posts is engaged to her. You are just assuming that.

 

 

Besides you dont even know that could be her brother or cousin.

 

 

You shouldnt make such snap decisions based on LIMITED information on Facebook.

 

 

I have a few colleagues at work who are in relationships and their statuses show as SINGLE on FB

 

 

I ve asked a few close colleagues and some admitted they didnt know how to chnage the status or some didnt even update thei FB after meeting someone.

 

 

Keep an open mind. Dont make decisons and ask people on a forum to give input based on your mis-judgement.

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Hang on a mo!

You dont know that the guy who is liking her posts is engaged to her. You are just assuming that.

Besides you dont even know that could be her brother or cousin.

You shouldnt make such snap decisions based on LIMITED information on Facebook.

 

 

I have a few colleagues at work who are in relationships and their statuses show as SINGLE on FB

 

 

I ve asked a few close colleagues and some admitted they didnt know how to chnage the status or some didnt even update thei FB after meeting someone.

 

 

Keep an open mind. Dont make decisons and ask people on a forum to give input based on your mis-judgement.

 

 

See highlight above.

lilmissjava Established Member

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The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook.

 

Nothing is sacred anymore.

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mcjordan Established Member

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How do you know she was "pretending" to ask you questions about class and not ACTUALLY asking you questions about class? Oh, and a girl smiling and talking to you does not automatically mean romantic interest. Also, she is not required to put her relationship status on facebook, and since engaged is not married, then yeah, she is single.

 

This is all in your head. It has nothing to do with her.

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How do you know she was "pretending" to ask you questions about class and not ACTUALLY asking you questions about class? Oh, and a girl smiling and talking to you does not automatically mean romantic interest. Also, she is not required to put her relationship status on facebook, and since engaged is not married, then yeah, she is single.

 

This is all in your head. It has nothing to do with her.

 

It could be all in his head OR he could be right and this girl is just one of those girl's who likes to fun.

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Why are you assuming she is "pretending" to ask questions about the class?

Is it not possible she is just asking questions about the class...

 

I disagree. In my life, any woman that has gotten close to me, started to chat me up, has wanted to date me or hook up with me. And... there are times you can just tell from the look a woman gives you, she wants you.

 

OP, I'm going on record that this girl likes you and is trying to be coy. Good move doing the FB homework. Next time you guys talk, ask her to grab a coffee after class... or you can come up with excuse about missing some notes, ask her for hers, get her number.

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I disagree. In my life, any woman that has gotten close to me, started to chat me up, has wanted to date me or hook up with me. And... there are times you can just tell from the look a woman gives you, she wants you.

 

OP, I'm going on record that this girl likes you and is trying to be coy. Good move doing the FB homework. Next time you guys talk, ask her to grab a coffee after class... or you can come up with excuse about missing some notes, ask her for hers, get her number.

 

 

He sat close to her, she didn't sit close to him.

My guess she deliberately kept the conversation on the class, so he didn't get the wrong idea.

That obviously worked...:rolleyes:

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i think you are assuming from facebook she is engaged....and the first three letters of assuming from facebook is what you normally become when you assume anything from facebook...ask her outright if you like her.....if she is single.....and go from there....deb

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Hang on a mo!

 

 

You dont know that the guy who is liking her posts is engaged to her. You are just assuming that.

 

 

Besides you dont even know that could be her brother or cousin.

 

 

You shouldnt make such snap decisions based on LIMITED information on Facebook.

 

 

I have a few colleagues at work who are in relationships and their statuses show as SINGLE on FB

 

 

I ve asked a few close colleagues and some admitted they didnt know how to chnage the status or some didnt even update thei FB after meeting someone.

 

 

Keep an open mind. Dont make decisons and ask people on a forum to give input based on your mis-judgement.

 

 

Actually that guy had a profile picture of them together as well as a few others leaving no doubt they had/have a relationship together. Now I know some people are slow at updating their profiles mainly when they aren't accepting of the situation. This girl is definitely tech savy she has over a thousand pictures and updates her profile frequently. I don't know what to think about it, I will try to get her number and test the waters.

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He sat close to her, she didn't sit close to him.

My guess she deliberately kept the conversation on the class, so he didn't get the wrong idea.

That obviously worked...:rolleyes:

 

I actually didn't initiate the conversation with her, she did on 3 occasions.

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He sat close to her, she didn't sit close to him.

My guess she deliberately kept the conversation on the class, so he didn't get the wrong idea.

That obviously worked...:rolleyes:

 

OP says she initiated conversation on 3 different occasions. I'm only going on what he's describing. I can't see her body language. Over the years I've met women who were very cool, somewhat icy, and I thought, she's a b-tch, nothing here. Times goes on and they give me their number. Then there have been times women have been overly flirtatious with me and I'm thinking I'm going to get lucky, it's in the bag. What happened? Nothing.

 

So we don't really know for sure until he asks her out.

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I disagree. In my life, any woman that has gotten close to me, started to chat me up, has wanted to date me or hook up with me. And... there are times you can just tell from the look a woman gives you, she wants you.

 

OP, I'm going on record that this girl likes you and is trying to be coy. Good move doing the FB homework. Next time you guys talk, ask her to grab a coffee after class... or you can come up with excuse about missing some notes, ask her for hers, get her number.

 

Every guy I have ever known or known of who really thinks this basically just over-analytical and likes to mind read. These are guys who post on forums that a girl is "game playing" because she liked his picture on Instagram last week but not this week. :rolleyes:

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Every guy I have ever known or known of who really thinks this basically just over-analytical and likes to mind read. These are guys who post on forums that a girl is "game playing" because she liked his picture on Instagram last week but not this week. :rolleyes:

 

Lets not compare instagram likes and people's actions IRL. :rolleyes:

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Lets not compare instagram likes and people's actions IRL. :rolleyes:

 

I agree. Facebook and Instagram likes are basically irrelevant to all of life....as are statuses...unless one is married and lists single. And no one can tell what a person's character is just because they didn't list engaged and asked a few questions about homework.

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I agree. Facebook and Instagram likes are basically irrelevant to all of life....as are statuses...unless one is married and lists single. And no one can tell what a person's character is just because they didn't list engaged and asked a few questions about homework.

 

yes, but all I'm saying is that you can at times read people better than others solely on their actions. If a woman keeps looking at me, and keeps putting herself near me, I'm going to get the impression she wants my attention.

 

As far as character goes, you have to get to know that person over time.

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Status on FB means nothing.

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I have never updated my FB relationship status. BF and I aren't even 'friends' on there. Same with my exes when we were together.

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TXGuy Established Member

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Maybe she forgot to update it.

Maybe she doesn't care about her facebook status.

Maybe she is technophone and doesn't know how to update it.

Maybe she is too lazy to update it.

Maybe she thought her status is private so there's no point updating it.

Maybe she hasn't told her parents yet and doesn't want them finding out through FB.

Maybe she doesn't want loads of virtual strangers congratulating her.

 

There are many, many reasons. Nobody here can begin to guess which one it is.

 

I agree with the above.

 

Another reason could be that she initially set her status to "single" and doesn't plan to change it until she changes it to "married."

 

That is my plan. I am not going to bring the drama of the world to my door step by changing my status from single...to in a relationship...to its complicated... back to in a relationship etc. That sounds tedious and childish.

 

But, I'm not much of a face booker in the first place.

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Displaying single and not displaying anything convey 2 very different messages. There are tons of threads on here of people expressing concern about being in relationship with someone who still is displays single on social media.

I really believe that nowadays, specially among young people, whatever is communicated or failed to be communicated, on facebook for instance, is usually very deliberate.

I am sure if she was listed as "in relationship" posters on here would say "can't you see she taken? let it go." Go figure...

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Does she wear an engagement ring?

Do you know any friends of hers - ask them

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