How much "break up" explanation should you give after 4 dates?

[mightycpa]

Thats what she did..ghosted...That's why he said stop blanking

No, she said this to him:

 

I don't think things are going to work out between us. I need someone that has more free time and that actually plans dates in advance

That's not ghosting.

 

This is ghosting:

 

 

 

 

 

See the difference?

[The_Dork_Lard]

I disagree with everyone saying to block him, or ignore him. That'll make him want you more.

 

Instead, you should bombard him with 100 texts per day and go 'bunny boiler' on him. He'll be running from you in no time.

[robaday]

It's off that he sends more than two messages or calls unanswered after such a short period of dating, I think your radar was spot on. Only thing is I think the reasons you gave him for not wanting to see him more might have left him confused and wanting to try to change his ways, you were probably doing it with best intentions but by it not being about lack of chemistry etc he would have thought he could work it out with you.

 

Im also not sure about explanations after short period.......Ive always had a rule if its more than three dates and weve slept together I tell the girl in person or at least over the phone I dont want to see her again, not by text....but really not sure whether thats ok...i mean in early stages i always think if i arrange to meet in person she might think its a date....making it worse!

[RandomTraveller]

I have been annoyed that the guy I just want to stop dating is hassling me with texts and calls.

 

We were not official and there were no promises made. After the last date nobody made contact for about 3 days. Then he texted me a small talk text that didn't require a response so I ignored it.

 

Then he texted me yesterday "Wow are you blanking me?"

Me:"I don't think things are going to work out between us. I need someone that has more free time and that actually plans dates in advance"

Him:"What do you mean? I played golf all day Saturday and had a BBQ on Sunday and have worked all week" (note: when I asked to see him on Saturday he said that he is working. So he is obviously lying).

Me: "I have decided to move on and wish you the best luck."

He proceeds to call me about 10 times. I didn't pick up.

 

This morning: "Stop blanking me again"

 

I don't owe him any more explanation right?

This is exactly the same pattern as when he tried to make plans at 6pm for 8pm the same day. If I wasn't avaialble, he would bombard me with calls and texts. :sick:

 

I'm a guy. And I tell you these are the kind of worst males you can find. Arrogant stupid men that think that you owe something to them.

 

Stop replying to his messages, you can block his number everywhere if necessary.

 

Ignore also any kind of future male that get easily pissed off if you don't reply to them immidiately. They are the same **** of that guy you are talking about.

 

 

A real man, who has a fullfilled happy life, will never send you texts like that. He will never "beg" for attention after 4 dates (lol) and get pissed off if you don't reply to him.

 

A real man even if it's interested and you don't reply to him he will give you time. And of course if you don't reply after days and days he will simply move on to the next one.

 

4 dates are nothing. Still so much to discover between two humans.... and you already discovered ****-side about this guy lol.

It's alright: consider this all additional dating experience and move to the next one.

[Deidre]

4 dates? You said what you should...I would just stop responding. If he continues, block his phone number. I don't think you need to feel bad about ceasing contact.