inigele14u Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I have been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. Things moved very fast, we already live together! We rushed it, and honestly I think that was a bad move. Everything in the first month was fine until her mom moved in because she needed help financially. Her family is Jamaican, thus culture conflict was inevitable with a conservative Jamaican and close-minded American under the same roof. Every morning I am forced to say hi to her or she'll throw a tantrum and which should would proceed to stress out my girlfriend about it. (My girlfriend almost had a heart attack the other day). I don't understand her mom's accent, nor do I enjoy curry fish head, nor do I enjoy kissing ass just because someone is older than me - as they do in Jamaica 'etc etc'. To make matters worst, about two weeks ago my girlfriend looked on my phone and say porn in my browser history. Well, I'm 20. She's 22. I'm a young guy, that's the **** I do. She asked me why I had porn of girls that don't look like her... Well... before I could explain that I had only watched it before the relationship and that they were old (indeed they were)... A sudden feeling of resentment took over and I felt like my privacy was invaded. So all of these things, and a little more... Make me feel like I'm trapped in a all white room and they walls are getting closer and closer. I feel like I'm suffocating... I've tried talking it out, it doesn't work. She cries. That's it. I find myself looking up apartments daily, I already have money saved up to move out to my own place... I even started finding interest in other women. Am I doing the right thing by removing myself?
hushtu Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Get out. Living together and with her mother after only 3 months is ridiculous. Plus she's snooping through your phone and Lord knows what else. 5
Author inigele14u Posted March 16, 2016 Author Posted March 16, 2016 Thanks. Trying to make sure this is the right thing.
Spikiera Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Yeah you guys are going way too fast...but man I don't know how you can ask them to leave without having tons of drama. About porn, it is perfectly normal for you to watch it, whether the girl likes it or not. Next time do a better job hiding it though.
d0nnivain Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 The only person I ever lived with who I knew for such a short time was my freshman college roommate because the university assigned us to live together. Never live with somebody until you have dated for at least 1 year. After only 90 days, I wonder if you have the word sucker stamped across your forehead for allowing her mother to move in. Move out immediately.
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 Yes move out. Also when you date someone of a different culture you have to be aware of the cultural differences ahead and accept them. I am a white woman and dated a Jamaican man for a year. I came after his mom, dad, siblings, kids, buddies, and domino nights. I knew it and played along. They worship their mom and dad so if you are not family oriented better forget dating them.
Redhead14 Posted March 16, 2016 Posted March 16, 2016 I have been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. Things moved very fast, we already live together! We rushed it, and honestly I think that was a bad move. Everything in the first month was fine until her mom moved in because she needed help financially. Her family is Jamaican, thus culture conflict was inevitable with a conservative Jamaican and close-minded American under the same roof. Every morning I am forced to say hi to her or she'll throw a tantrum and which should would proceed to stress out my girlfriend about it. (My girlfriend almost had a heart attack the other day). I don't understand her mom's accent, nor do I enjoy curry fish head, nor do I enjoy kissing ass just because someone is older than me - as they do in Jamaica 'etc etc'. To make matters worst, about two weeks ago my girlfriend looked on my phone and say porn in my browser history. Well, I'm 20. She's 22. I'm a young guy, that's the **** I do. She asked me why I had porn of girls that don't look like her... Well... before I could explain that I had only watched it before the relationship and that they were old (indeed they were)... A sudden feeling of resentment took over and I felt like my privacy was invaded. So all of these things, and a little more... Make me feel like I'm trapped in a all white room and they walls are getting closer and closer. I feel like I'm suffocating... I've tried talking it out, it doesn't work. She cries. That's it. I find myself looking up apartments daily, I already have money saved up to move out to my own place... I even started finding interest in other women. Am I doing the right thing by removing myself? Of course, you are. Three months of dating, moving in together and then her mother moves in???? I don't know why you are thinking twice. Read your post 100 times in a row. That is how the future will feel if you stay . . .
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