dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Hi all. So I met a girl on Friday night while out at a bar. At closing time she and her friend came back with a bunch of us to a friends house. We sat up talking and making out till 6am or so and she seemed quite keen to see me again. Told me she thought I was good looking and put her number in my phone etc. She had been single a while she said. Also her cousin who was with us too told me I should get her number and ask her out. So the signs were good. Anyway I texted her the next day saying how are you doing etc, she replied pretty quickly, but when I texted her later on asking her if she'd like to go out sometime after work (we work in the same area in the city), I got nothing back. It's now 2 days later. I'm just wondering if this is normal or if she's not interested? Obviously each case is different but I thought we had a connection and now nothing. Maybe she's waiting a while like magazines etc tell you to do but I thought she seemed a bit more up front than that. I'm fretting I know but I really liked her. Cheers guys.
dabulls305 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 i feel you man , this has happened to me plenty of times(im 31).... sometimes girls are drinking and feel some type of way. you sent the text and thats all you can do. dont send another text to her, just wait she'll text back 1
Tahirthegreat Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Unless something came up in her life suddenly, shes just not interested. When people are interested in someone, they dont take 2+ days to make contact.
Author dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 I wont text her again. This has happened a few times lately. Hooking up and then nada. I'm too old for this sh*t!!! I'm 35 and she was 34.
Author dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Unless something came up in her life suddenly, shes just not interested. When people are interested in someone, they dont take 2+ days to make contact. She did respond to my first text though, asking me about the family dinner I had on that day etc. It just seems strange I thought this one was a dead cert.
basil67 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Unfortunately, that connection was influenced by alcohol. You've probably experienced 'beer goggles' yourself at one time or another. Don't ever put faith in a connection unless you're both sober at the time.
brokengirl85 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Try one more time. I tend to ignore some texts from guys I like, just because I want to play hard to get (it's true). So, try one more time and if she doesn't reply this time move on
NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Hi all. So I met a girl on Friday night while out at a bar. At closing time she and her friend came back with a bunch of us to a friends house. We sat up talking and making out till 6am or so and she seemed quite keen to see me again. Told me she thought I was good looking and put her number in my phone etc. She had been single a while she said. Also her cousin who was with us too told me I should get her number and ask her out. So the signs were good. Anyway I texted her the next day saying how are you doing etc, she replied pretty quickly, but when I texted her later on asking her if she'd like to go out sometime after work (we work in the same area in the city), I got nothing back. It's now 2 days later. I'm just wondering if this is normal or if she's not interested? Obviously each case is different but I thought we had a connection and now nothing. Maybe she's waiting a while like magazines etc tell you to do but I thought she seemed a bit more up front than that. I'm fretting I know but I really liked her. Cheers guys. Girls are very very confusing & strange & overthink stuff a lot. I'm still here waiting to hear back from a girl I text hours ago so I know how it is .
Author dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Unfortunately, that connection was influenced by alcohol. You've probably experienced 'beer goggles' yourself at one time or another. Don't ever put faith in a connection unless you're both sober at the time. We hadn't had a drink in hours by the time she left. And she wasn't drunk so it's not really a factor from her side of things anyway. Where I live most relationships seem to start from drunken encounters anyway!
Author dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Try one more time. I tend to ignore some texts from guys I like, just because I want to play hard to get (it's true). So, try one more time and if she doesn't reply this time move on Well then that comes across as overly keen. So it's a pickle huh!
Shaun-Dro Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 She did respond to my first text though, asking me about the family dinner I had on that day etc. It just seems strange I thought this one was a dead cert. Gonna explain this quick and easy for u so take heed: most women sense they don't have much to offer men other than their bodies/sex so they do this kind of thing to increase their own self-worth/value. You'd probably find these games less likely amongst career-minded women I feel because they have more to bring to the table so the head games just wont apply to them, or at least they wont indulge in them much. This is my opinion only; so u decide.
Author dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Pffff. Annoyed with myself I got excited about this now.
angel.eyes Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Not interested, came to her senses in the harsh light of day, better options sizzling on the front burner, ... Take your pick. Bottom line: she's not really interested. You were both just passing time. Wait until you're on date#3 to get emotionally invested and excited. Here, it was date #0.
Author dangerbang Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Yeah. Back to the drawing board it is.
Author dangerbang Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 Ok so she texted eventually. We're meeting this weekend. Things are coming up Millhouse! 2
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I wont text her again. This has happened a few times lately. Hooking up and then nada. I'm too old for this sh*t!!! I'm 35 and she was 34. Why are you blathering about with text anyway? Phone the girl to ask her out if she doesn't answer or says no shrug your shoulders and move on. Do not text too much inbetween dates. Let her have enough space to miss you. 1
Author dangerbang Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 Why are you blathering about with text anyway? Phone the girl to ask her out if she doesn't answer or says no shrug your shoulders and move on. Do not text too much inbetween dates. Let her have enough space to miss you. People don't phone any more. I'd actually think it a bit OTT to get a phone call off someone I met once. Anyway this one turned out to be a flake so I've deleted her details, cancelled pretty much last minute today, grrr.
Toodaloo Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 It happens to us all. Don't worry about it. I actually prefer to talk on the phone and have only ever met one person who prefers text. Ten minutes talking to a guy in my book weighs in far more than a load of texts. Nothing like hearing a guys voice... 1
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