Punchkick Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 (edited) Well, after three months of working my ass off an accomplishing so many different things personally professionally I am finally pretty darn happy and content with everything. I am doing so well in everything. My life completely changed within just 3 months. Of course I wouuld feel sad and hurt but I dealt with my being the best version of myself and I was able to accomplish that. But here's the kicker... All of a sudden after 3 months no contact guess who decides to send me a txt message? thats right, HER not only was it random but the txt alone is kind off dumb. "Hi. Hope you are well. Can you please tell me what this is?(sends picture of a pill) whats the name of it and what does it do so I can order more thanks" UMMM.. if you dont know what it is or what it does why do you need more? and theres no way those pill would last 3 months so clearly you havent been in the gym ] then 2-3 hours later her best friend messages me the exact same question. I ignored both and I feel great But I still wonder what she's trying to do if anything. Edited March 14, 2016 by Punchkick 5
Zahara Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Good for you! Ignore those messages. It's silly breadcrumbs. It's common for dumpers to come sniffing around again due to curiosity. If she had anything significant to say, it wouldn't have been about ordering more pills she knows nothing about. 1
Itspointless Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I once had an ex e-mail me for a route to a cemetery. She had to be there for a burial: an unexpected death of a friend of her brother (this actually was true). I was surprised that she even remembered that I was alive. She apparently remembered that I always had been there for her when she had it tough. This is many many years ago and I never had heard of NC back then so I wrote to her to look it up on a map, said to her that I was really sorry for her and her brothers loss and wished her the best. Zahara is right, ignore her. 1
darkbloom Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 That is literally one of the stupidest breadcrumbs I've seen on this site. If her friend was in on this scheme to contact you too, you think they would have come up with something more clever than a pill that they want to order but don't know what it is. I'm embarrassed for her. Yikes.
Author Punchkick Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 "That is literally one of the stupidest breadcrumbs I've seen on this site. If her friend was in on this scheme to contact you too, you think they would have come up with something more clever than a pill that they want to order but don't know what it is. I'm embarrassed for her. Yikes." I agree! its odd. especially knowing she can only get those from my store. I don't even understand why she would have her friend message also. It's crazy considering she's bloody 40yrs old already with 2 kids. Aren't you a little old to be doing this stuff? I mean I'm the 28yo I should be doing that haha Now I'm thinking whats next? will she keep going? Will the hilarity continue? Its a mixed feeling. But I don't plan on reaching out at all.
Author Punchkick Posted March 17, 2016 Author Posted March 17, 2016 I caved! The whole thing just got me so uncentered I felt like I had to tell her to not communicate with me again. I made clear the last time that's what I wanted. Basically I sent her how I felt which was I didn't want anything to do with her and how I dont hate her but I still think she's a c word. I cant respect her as person or a human and to move on because I have moved on. Thanks and take care. There were some more real things I said but this was the jist. I don't want to even open the door for a possible emotional rollercoaster anymore. So I felt I had to do it. It might have been harsh but it's what needed to be done. Especially for leaving me for another.
ilovemefirst Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I caved! The whole thing just got me so uncentered I felt like I had to tell her to not communicate with me again. I made clear the last time that's what I wanted. Basically I sent her how I felt which was I didn't want anything to do with her and how I dont hate her but I still think she's a c word. I cant respect her as person or a human and to move on because I have moved on. Thanks and take care. There were some more real things I said but this was the jist. I don't want to even open the door for a possible emotional rollercoaster anymore. So I felt I had to do it. It might have been harsh but it's what needed to be done. Especially for leaving me for another. Anddddd....your self respect just went out the window 2
Author Punchkick Posted March 17, 2016 Author Posted March 17, 2016 Mm.. I don't think so. I avoided any other emotional turmoil. Closed the door. I'm not going to be strung along and left for another again. Nothing good wil come out of it. It's preventing me from fully moving forward. She has the balls to txt when she was with another guy when we were together. I believe I kept my self respect and value by shutting that door hard. Ide rather do that than go through a roller coaster again and end up back in square one. Most don't have the balls to say anything and just end up being played. I prevented that. Girls like that need to be told. So I'm supposed to be friendly with a girl that left me for another and totally be cool with her trying open the door again ? No thanks. I did it for me. For my well being and my VALUE and SELF RESPECtT. If I entertained her and let her new communicating with me I would be thinking all over again. So thank las for your opinion but really.. I know my value and I was man enough to actually tell a bitch to **** off. Thanks again though.
Itspointless Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 So I'm supposed to be friendly with a girl that left me for another and totally be cool with her trying open the door again ? No thanks. I did it for me. Good. Now it is time to heal.
ilovemefirst Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 You not replying would have been enough. Your silence would have told her whatever you needed to say. Calling her the c word is just stooping to a lower level. It made you feel better about yourself by tellin her off, but i guess your silence would have said that, maybe even a simple " please do not contact me " msg would have been suffice. You opened a whole can of worms for yourself. Mm.. I don't think so. I avoided any other emotional turmoil. Closed the door. I'm not going to be strung along and left for another again. Nothing good wil come out of it. It's preventing me from fully moving forward. She has the balls to txt when she was with another guy when we were together. I believe I kept my self respect and value by shutting that door hard. Ide rather do that than go through a roller coaster again and end up back in square one. Most don't have the balls to say anything and just end up being played. I prevented that. Girls like that need to be told. So I'm supposed to be friendly with a girl that left me for another and totally be cool with her trying open the door again ? No thanks. I did it for me. For my well being and my VALUE and SELF RESPECtT. If I entertained her and let her new communicating with me I would be thinking all over again. So thank las for your opinion but really.. I know my value and I was man enough to actually tell a bitch to **** off. Thanks again though.
smudge21 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 Sadly she was looking for a reaction of any kind, and you gave her one. Doesn't matter what you said, anger or love, you showed that you still had feelings there. Her ego will love that. She knows she can dangle that carrot and you'll bite. I had similar a long time ago, bland question about something and I did reply... but in kind. Just answered the question. She replied back and it was clear she wanted to strike up some conversation but my single reply was enough. It was the same size bread crumb as she fed me. That said, I still believe in the power of silence, so should she come handing out those crumbs again, please don't bite. There's no substance to it and all you're doing is telling her that she still has an affect on you. 2
oman0115 Posted March 17, 2016 Posted March 17, 2016 I caved! The whole thing just got me so uncentered I felt like I had to tell her to not communicate with me again. I made clear the last time that's what I wanted. Basically I sent her how I felt which was I didn't want anything to do with her and how I dont hate her but I still think she's a c word. I cant respect her as person or a human and to move on because I have moved on. Thanks and take care. There were some more real things I said but this was the jist. I don't want to even open the door for a possible emotional rollercoaster anymore. So I felt I had to do it. It might have been harsh but it's what needed to be done. Especially for leaving me for another. You could just block her? You two are playing a game and whether you admit it or not on some level ( perhaps in a morbid way ) you enjoy the attention / participation. You've gone from saying how much you've moved on to back to square 1!
Author Punchkick Posted March 17, 2016 Author Posted March 17, 2016 Square 1? Well if that's the case square one feels pretty darn good. Look guys, k knew what was going to happen. She was going to strong along we'll probly have sex and then poof she's gone again and here I am truly back at square one. Those can of worms? Taste pretty good. I won't take anyone crap. Especially a person with a cheating heart. I did what I had to for me and said what I truly felt none of this oh baby I miss you bull**** no your a cheat and you trying to get me to jump for you? No thanks. I regret nothing and now i can truly move forward without her trying to stop me. She's blocked. Silence sometimes isn't enough and sometimes you have to say it like it is. Nine of this oh I'm going to silent because I'm the better person. **** that. The person cheated on you and has the balls to come back? No no no. But again thanks everyone. I'm more than ok now .
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