road Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Uh...it was over text when I asked but we already went on the date & I tried to be spontaneous & kissing her but she didn't like it & said I cant just go up to girls & kiss them & that I need to get permission so then I ask her & she gets annoyed & cancels? Anyways she text back after I kept sending her all these texts & says "let me think about this ok. I don't know about this right now" So now I'm just gonna sit here & wait to see if she still wants to but I'll check in again in a few mins. That is not being spontaneous. That is not the subject for a text before a 2nd date. All you did was make yourself appear to just date her to get laid. 4
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Don't send her any more messages. She already said no. You trying to push the matter is only highlighting the problem. Just leave it be now. This one wasn't a match. I just sent her a quick text to let me know when she's deciding on what to do. I only sent her lots of texts 'cause she was taking too too long to reply. I kinda still like her but she's a little closed-up so if she goes on another date with me maybe she will let me get a little bit closer I think.
preraph Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I think No. 1 is the worse red flag. She sounds like a pro who's telling you what you want to hear. She might be mercenary. No. 2, just look at the photos and decide if you are attracted enough or not. Assume she's as large as her largest photo.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I only sent her lots of texts 'cause she was taking too too long to reply. Dude, sorry but don't ever EVER do this.^^ Way too needy and clingy, arghh! This is probably why she got turned off, combined with the way you asked her permission to kiss her. Which frankly, sounded kinda cheesy. There is not gonna be another date....she's done. Again, I am so sorry but lesson learned, hopefully. 2
seekingpeaceinlove Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 OMG. Please stop! She ALREADY KNOWS that you're waiting for her response. You're only hurting youself by continuously reaching out to her. It reeks of desperation. But....it doesn't seem like you care about the advice you've been given. So good luck! I just sent her a quick text to let me know when she's deciding on what to do. I only sent her lots of texts 'cause she was taking too too long to reply. I kinda still like her but she's a little closed-up so if she goes on another date with me maybe she will let me get a little bit closer I think.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Dude, sorry but don't ever EVER do this.^^ Way too needy and clingy, arghh! This is probably why she got turned off, combined with the way you asked her permission to kiss her. Which frankly, sounded kinda cheesy. There is not gonna be another date....she's done. Again, I am so sorry but lesson learned, hopefully. I didn't mean to be clingy . I just wanted her to know that I liked her u know & I had no choice but to ask 'cause she said I need to ask permission before I can kiss a girl.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 I think No. 1 is the worse red flag. She sounds like a pro who's telling you what you want to hear. She might be mercenary. No. 2, just look at the photos and decide if you are attracted enough or not. Assume she's as large as her largest photo. Um...she's not that big 'cause she's the same girl I'm waiting to hear back from about our 2nd date. The 1st girl just disappeared for no reason so now u see why I have to hang on to what I got 'cause not many come along.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I didn't mean to be clingy . I just wanted her to know that I liked her u know & I had no choice but to ask 'cause she said I need to ask permission before I can kiss a girl. Next time wait until the right moment, while actually *on* the date, to ask. Not over the phone before the date....which again sounds a bit cheesy and sort of silly, like high school. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Next time wait until the right moment, while actually *on* the date, to ask. Not over the phone before the date....which again sounds a bit cheesy and sort of silly, like high school. Well I never really had any real girlfriends so u know...
elaine567 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Well I never really had any real girlfriends so u know... Just put it down to experience, we all have to learn. I wish you better luck the next time.
caringsister Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 At the movies she grabbed you because she got scared. Your response was to try to kiss her (odd response). Thats probably where she said, you can't just go around kissing girls ... she said you need permission. I totally get where she is coming from. I wouldn't want some guy I was on a first date with trying to kiss on me during a movie. You seem to eager and way to clingy. You need to chill and let things happen naturally.
preraph Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I don't know. I wouldn't like the sound of dating anyone that was already talking about me needing permission as if they're my mother.
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