NYC-BigKat Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Uh-oh I messed up & got stuck . Um...I meet 2 girls from Facebook & never met them in real life yet I want to though. Girl number 1 is a little bit older than me (31) & says she loves loves loves Dominican guys like me & she doesn't care if I'm overweight as long as I'm Dominican. Um...she wants to go to the movies Friday & has text me a provocative photo of her in a bra. Should I be worried that she's a freak or something? Girl number 2 is a little younger (20) & says she was so so happy when I sent her a msg on Facebook 'cause she says no guys ever msg her. I only sent her a msg 'cause her pic was kinda fuzzy but she looked kinda good so I wanted to see if I could see her clearer & she added me & all her pics look so different & I don't know why . Uh...I looked at the dates & all of them are close from this yr but her face & hairdos are so different its weird & I cant tell if she's fat or medium 'cause of the angle of every pic. I feel confused . Is this a worse red flag than girl number 1?
mrldii Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Why are you "stuck" between any number of "desperate" girls? Unless, of course, you're "desperate", yourself. If you're not, don't *pick* either of them; if you are, *pick* both of 'em. According to the Laws of Mathematics, it'll double your chances. Good luck, OP... 1
Easyguy14 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Uh-oh I messed up & got stuck . Um...I meet 2 girls from Facebook & never met them in real life yet I want to though. Girl number 1 is a little bit older than me (31) & says she loves loves loves Dominican guys like me & she doesn't care if I'm overweight as long as I'm Dominican. Um...she wants to go to the movies Friday & has text me a provocative photo of her in a bra. Should I be worried that she's a freak or something? Girl number 2 is a little younger (20) & says she was so so happy when I sent her a msg on Facebook 'cause she says no guys ever msg her. I only sent her a msg 'cause her pic was kinda fuzzy but she looked kinda good so I wanted to see if I could see her clearer & she added me & all her pics look so different & I don't know why . Uh...I looked at the dates & all of them are close from this yr but her face & hairdos are so different its weird & I cant tell if she's fat or medium 'cause of the angle of every pic. I feel confused . Is this a worse red flag than girl number 1? This is a pretty funny post. I laughed upon reading it because its silly but yet entertaining at once. You've got 2 desperate girls after you and you're trying to pick the least desperate one. Why don't you take both just for the hell of it. 2
greenman77 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 So adding random women on Facebook as friends actually works? Didn't think that was possible. 3
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 So adding random women on Facebook as friends actually works? Didn't think that was possible. Uh...yea I just kept sending msgs to random girls til one bites & now 4 bites in less than a month but sometimes I go months with no replies . I just wanna know what some people think about these 2 girls. My coworker says they'r probably weirdos with great libidos. Not sure what he means or whatever.
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 If you think they're desperate why are you even interested in them? Since nothing is actually going on with either one, you don't have to feel stuck between anybody. You're just playing around on facebook, have fun!
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 13, 2016 Author Posted March 13, 2016 Um...it just seems awkward to me u know. My uncle and friends always tell me that if it feels right with a girl to just go for it. Well, uh, last night I tried to at the movies with this girl & she got annoyed & said I'm supposed to get her permission first & all girls permission. Huh? 1
Satu Posted March 13, 2016 Posted March 13, 2016 I think that Ninja Kissing carries an unavoidable element of risk, don't you?
zenguy Posted March 13, 2016 Posted March 13, 2016 Some women don't like being kissed in public places, though it's usually as simple as waiting till you are no longer in a public place to kiss them. I don't generally recommend it on a first date. There's nothing wrong with asking, sure it's more confident to wait for the right moment. And btw, it's probably unlikely a movie theater is the right moment. If you are wondering what the right moment is, it's usually preceded by a long look into each other's eyes. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Some women don't like being kissed in public places, though it's usually as simple as waiting till you are no longer in a public place to kiss them. I don't generally recommend it on a first date. There's nothing wrong with asking, sure it's more confident to wait for the right moment. And btw, it's probably unlikely a movie theater is the right moment. If you are wondering what the right moment is, it's usually preceded by a long look into each other's eyes. Uh...she grabbed me when a scary scene popped up so leaning over to kiss her face a little seemed perfect but she got needlessly upset so....
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Yea its the same girl I took to the movies last Saturday & said I had to get her permission to kiss her. Well, um, we was supposed to be going out again later today 'cause she says she wants to but when I ask her will it be okay to kiss u today & she goes "huh?" and I say "I thought u wanted me to ask permission first?" and then she says "Forget it, don't text me again, bye!" Now I'm out a date for tonight all because of what I said . I told my friend about this & he says I should really really think about relocating to Atlanta. Not sure if that's a good answer u know but my bad luck with girls goes on.
mortensorchid Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I don't know about general bad luck but she sounds like a bitch and you are better off without her. Move on. 5
caringsister Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 You've gone out once and whe planning a second date you asked her this over text or phone? That would be a big turn off for me. I'd get the impression you were not really interested in getting to know me, enjoying the movie or my company, but that you just want to jump right to the kissing part. You were planning a kiss not a date. Best not to be so premature and rather be spontanious. If you had gone out with her and you both enjoyed yourselves, if the chemistry was there. You probably could have gotten that kiss. Exercise a little patience next time at the very least you'd have a date and if all goes well possibly a kiss. Slow your roll. 1
Tahirthegreat Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Good riddance, forget about her, someone better will come along
LydiaLong Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Really, that would sound creepy to me. Like you didn't care about my brain. You're just thinking of physical contact. 3
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 You are so focused on doing the right thing on a date, it was apparent to her you lacked confidence to let things happen organically. You need to work on that. 2
seekingpeaceinlove Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 1.) She does sound like a b*tch 2.) She was turned off my your lack of confidence or by the fact that you seemed to be laser focused on that kiss...or BOTH. Kiss should feel organic not forced/planned. In any case, she didn't have to respond the way she did. NEXT! 2
Rumely Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Having to asking permission is a little strange. Even if you did ask permission, this would be about 5 seconds before it happened. Not 5 hours. Keep your horses in the barn a little longer next time. 3
GemmaUK Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Really, that would sound creepy to me. Like you didn't care about my brain. You're just thinking of physical contact. Ditto. I would have cancelled the date too. 4
kendahke Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Yea its the same girl I took to the movies last Saturday & said I had to get her permission to kiss her. Well, um, we was supposed to be going out again later today 'cause she says she wants to but when I ask her will it be okay to kiss u today & she goes "huh?" and I say "I thought u wanted me to ask permission first?" and then she says "Forget it, don't text me again, bye!" Now I'm out a date for tonight all because of what I said . I told my friend about this & he says I should really really think about relocating to Atlanta. Not sure if that's a good answer u know but my bad luck with girls goes on. This example isn't bad luck on your part--this is good fortune for you. You dodged a bullet early. You didn't waste time on some unbalanced idiot. Let her be some other guy's headache. You're now miles ahead.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 You've gone out once and whe planning a second date you asked her this over text or phone? That would be a big turn off for me. I'd get the impression you were not really interested in getting to know me, enjoying the movie or my company, but that you just want to jump right to the kissing part. You were planning a kiss not a date. Best not to be so premature and rather be spontanious. If you had gone out with her and you both enjoyed yourselves, if the chemistry was there. You probably could have gotten that kiss. Exercise a little patience next time at the very least you'd have a date and if all goes well possibly a kiss. Slow your roll. Uh...it was over text when I asked but we already went on the date & I tried to be spontaneous & kissing her but she didn't like it & said I cant just go up to girls & kiss them & that I need to get permission so then I ask her & she gets annoyed & cancels? Anyways she text back after I kept sending her all these texts & says "let me think about this ok. I don't know about this right now" So now I'm just gonna sit here & wait to see if she still wants to but I'll check in again in a few mins.
GemmaUK Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Uh...it was over text when I asked but we already went on the date & I tried to be spontaneous & kissing her but she didn't like it & said I cant just go up to girls & kiss them & that I need to get permission so then I ask her & she gets annoyed & cancels? Anyways she text back after I kept sending her all these texts & says "let me think about this ok. I don't know about this right now" So now I'm just gonna sit here & wait to see if she still wants to but I'll check in again in a few mins. How many texts have you been sending her exactly?
seekingpeaceinlove Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Seriously, man? You're still thinking about going out with her? You're going to sit around while she decides...grow some canjones, OP! Even if she decides to essentially grant you a second chance..can you not tell by her responses, her flip flopping, her need to control the situation what a pain in the ass she'll be? But I guess if you're that desperate for date...do what you feel is necessary.. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Don't send her any more messages. She already said no. You trying to push the matter is only highlighting the problem. Just leave it be now. This one wasn't a match. 1
elaine567 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Yea its the same girl I took to the movies last Saturday & said I had to get her permission to kiss her. Well, um, we was supposed to be going out again later today 'cause she says she wants to but when I ask her will it be okay to kiss u today & she goes "huh?" and I say "I thought u wanted me to ask permission first?" and then she says "Forget it, don't text me again, bye!" Now I'm out a date for tonight all because of what I said . I told my friend about this & he says I should really really think about relocating to Atlanta. Not sure if that's a good answer u know but my bad luck with girls goes on. You by being over-eager and asking about the kissing, made "the date" more about physicality and by extension "sex", and not about getting to know her as a human being. She didn't like that, so she cut you dead. 1
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