enchanted771 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 One week ago today, the man who I thought I would spend my life with, with no warning whatsoever. To make a long story short, he claimed he didn't want to go through what he went through with his "baby mama" even though I am nothing like her, made sacrfices to be with him, treated his kids better than their own mother, and let him move into my home and make it his own. He did not like the last fight we had, and claims he warned me that too many fights and we would leave. So he told me that I had to take responsibility for my words. Yet, he can say words and its okay, yet when I stick up for myself I am having an attitude. That's a sign of a weak man right there. A strong man can handle a woman that speaks her mind, and wont be a coward and take off like a high school boy. He didn't even wait for me to come some so he could tell me that he is upset by our last fight. He left and send me a cold text, like he could care less. I even tried talking to him several times by messenger in the last 7 days, but it has been sporadic due to his unwillingness to communicate and since I shut off his phone and he bought a phone from a wireless scammer, once he leaves me house, it will only work when you get free wifi (karma buddy). Anyways, I tried to discuss working it out and he is saying I don't think it will change, and bla bla bla like he was just a walk in the park to live with. I had been posting these things on facebook (no am not friends with him anymore). But I am friends with his family. But today I cleaned it up. I told myself I am better than this. I don't want him to think I am miserable and that he is getting to me or causing me any distress. No. I want him to see he lost the best thing that ever happened to him (yes, his words at one time), and that contrary to what he says life will go on, and I will find someone else who will give me what I deserve. I know I have issues, I never pretend to be perfect. But he has a lot of unresolved issues as well (from my research I can tell he is Borderline) that he will never admit to, and when I try to talk to him about it, he gets very mean. So, its okay for him to tell me that I have issues and that " its in your head" but then he thinks he is perfect. I dealt with a lot with him, but because I truly loved him I just let it be. Like him watching constant you tube videos on the montasano and society and him telling me about symbols and how they programming our brain and then trying to make me look at these videos so I am aware. I said I don't care about the symbols I just want to live my life free willed and care free. He said well, if you are not aware its those who will go to hell!! this was like 4 days before he moved out and it was really starting to freak me out. He was starting to act strange like he was possessed. Anyways, I remember years ago with a different ex when I was in my 20's he got mad at me over something petty. We were not living together and it was a LDR. I got home and called him and he wouldn't take my calls. I knew he was sick so I figure I will wait a couple days maybe he isn't feeling well. Then my sister said she asked about me and he was acting like a creep. I tried talking to him for 1.5 weeks and he wouldn't have it. So I gave up and moved on. 3 weeks later he wants to talk to me after I got used to the idea of us broken up. I took him back but I promised myself after that ordeal, and the emotional strain that I would never let any man treat me like a revolving door again. Sorry for the book but its either post here or I will message him lol
ExpatInItaly Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 He sounds...unbalanced. I know you see that now. In time, the anger you have toward him will fade. And you will be glad you got the heck out when you did!
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