Otter2569 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Brother, I am with you in that I tend to have some pretty healthy text conversations with my dates before we meet. It helps break the ice and hopefully gives you something to talk about on your dates. The key is striking the balance between having fun and not being needy. You obviously have to watch for a lot of signals. Ive learned that talking on the phone before your date is critical. I was a text n date guy but its amazing what youll learn from a phone conversation. I'm convinced its saved my ass a few times - not to mention your time and $$
Els Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I like getting to know people through board game nights and such. I see guys all around me seemingly getting into relationships left and right while I remain single for the most part. Sometimes it makes me wonder what's "wrong" with me that it's been so hard? I hate to say this because I'm starting to sound like a broken record, but the answer is that you need to move out. Even a guy who lives with his parents in his mid 20s will have some trouble dating - if you are in your 30s and still living with your parents, that will exclude a LOT of women, quite possibly the vast majority of them. Of course it's your life and your decision, there isn't necessarily any 'right' or 'wrong' - but hey, you asked. 4
Author Teknoe Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 I have tried talking on the phone prior to a date before but not with this girl. That's a good call, pardon the pun. I hate to say this because I'm starting to sound like a broken record, but the answer is that you need to move out. Even a guy who lives with his parents in his mid 20s will have some trouble dating - if you are in your 30s and still living with your parents, that will exclude a LOT of women, quite possibly the vast majority of them. Of course it's your life and your decision, there isn't necessarily any 'right' or 'wrong' - but hey, you asked. I don't mind. You are correct. That should be my number one goal. I found myself avoiding certain answers yesterday on my date and probably came off as hesitant instead of confident. My date seemed very independent. She moved to the US at 16 and has been living alone since 16! It made me very insecure and suddenly I felt super insecure and incompatible. Not that living away from my parents would make her and I click better automatically, but at least it wouldn't hurt. Moving out this summer must be the biggest change I make. Before you say why not now, one, I am looking for a new job and two, I get time off in June so it makes sense to wait a bit. Plus summer is nearly here. Moving out would definitely help my social skills and confidence in general. And it would make dating a lot easier. It's no surprise my last GF (December 2015) also lived at home. Only chance I have, but that has got to change if I want to better my chances and really, my quality of life. I miss inviting people over and forming better relationships but I can't do that living at home. I need to get off my butt and take care of this. 2
Els Posted March 21, 2016 Posted March 21, 2016 Moving out this summer must be the biggest change I make. Before you say why not now, one, I am looking for a new job and two, I get time off in June so it makes sense to wait a bit. Plus summer is nearly here. Moving out this summer is fine, as long as you actually stick to it this time. Plus I usually start researching and looking at listings 1-2 months before the move anyway, just to get an idea of the rental market there, so that by the time I actually move I'll be able to spot a good bargain immediately when I see one. I'd suggest you do this as well - take a break from dating til you've gotten your career and moving situation sorted, and focus on those for the time being instead. Good luck! 1
Author Teknoe Posted March 21, 2016 Author Posted March 21, 2016 Moving out this summer is fine, as long as you actually stick to it this time. Plus I usually start researching and looking at listings 1-2 months before the move anyway, just to get an idea of the rental market there, so that by the time I actually move I'll be able to spot a good bargain immediately when I see one. I'd suggest you do this as well - take a break from dating til you've gotten your career and moving situation sorted, and focus on those for the time being instead. Good luck! Thanks. Yeah my priorities right now are: Moving out Squaring my job situation down Getting more fit and losing 15 pounds
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