Voices Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 First of this year me and my ex broke up. She said she needed time to be alone and so I let her have time alone but kept contact with her. There was a lot going on and she just didn't need to be a in relationship. Fast forward, two weeks she tells me that she never broke up with me and that im still here and loves me. It seemed like it was going well then she just like a flip of a switch she didn't care about me again and broke up with me that weekend. I felt like it was the real deal so, I sent her a message that I respect how she feels and wished her a happy life but told her, that I can't be friends and told her i had to disappear to move on. A week and a half later of no contact I just couldn't take it anymore and went to her work ( very dumb on my part but I needed to talk to her) She acted suprised to see me and so I asked to see her after work we seen each other but she said that this doesn't change her mind about us then she tells me some unexpected knews that she might be preg. So, we get the test and it turns out false. So, a week later after this we start hangingout again and that same crazy love happens that we always had for each other. The next day she breaks up with me telling me that it should of never happened and we just need to move on. Somehow, we ended up hanging-out with her again she tells me she still loves me and a great night happened and then later on that week when we was about to hangout again she started to be distant from me. She started to seem like she was about to drop me the bomb. I send her a message the next day of something we should do together and she tells me we need to talk and so Im like okay? So she sends me this message about how she doesn't love me anymore, that there is to much feelings and memory attached to me and we can;t be friends at all and we just need to move on. Just like that it was over, I didn't feel like I could say anymore as I had already told her how I felt before and I already wished her the best. So, like that I deleted the message and the app and stop contacting her and left Soical media. ( I did not reply to her) Two weeks later, I got drunk and ended up on fb doing that dumb ex looking up thing and findout nothing really was going on fb so I got the app we talked on back up and that day we broke up she asked later on that day "Are you okay?' and about 5 days later she asked that again. I really don't know if I should just be indiffernt and be like I'm alright, thanks for asking bye or tell her that for me to move I got to be gone.
Dontfindme Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 You shouldn't say anything at all. Let her go, like she did you. Delete that app, if all you're doing is reaching out/waiting for her to reach out to you on it.
Author Voices Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 I agree, I did let her go. I didn't see any reason to beg her or plead for her to stay. I put in my share of work to try to work things out with her. I'm not saying she didn't try either but she did give up on me ( Multiple times) . She's had her fair shares of struggles in life and nobdoy should have to ever go through any of that stuff. I mean nobody is perfect. I didn't over expect things from her but I always just worried so much. I just don't get why she would ask two different times if I am okay. I mean is it out of guilt or legit concern for me.
kasop Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 She wants to know that she can still pull your strings. Dont let her. Nc. Goodluck.
triple-s Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 A week and a half later of no contact I just couldn't take it anymore and went to her work ( very dumb on my part but I needed to talk to her) She acted suprised to see me and so I asked to see her after work we seen each other but she said that this doesn't change her mind about us then she tells me some unexpected knews that she might be preg. So, we get the test and it turns out false. Sounds like what mine did to me . She broke up with me . I tried desperately to get her back ... and one evening i too couldnt take it anymore and i asked her out for drinks. came back to her place and had sex for the very last time that night / and the next morning she said those exact words to me ... this doesn't change her mind about us ___ She made up her mind already. to make it worst ; turns out she was seeing another guy already . To make things even 100x more difficult dude, both her and that guy shes now seeing WORKS WITH ME . Ive been no contact with her already since Jan and my new years resolution was to just focus on myself . you know what really helps dude, treat yourself. Spoil yourself . buy new clothes , throw out old ones . Do like a makeover . Feel better . Dont do this to get her back tho ... this is your time to heal .... 300% go no contact . in time , youll have a clear mind as i do now . Good luck 1
Miss Clavel Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Two weeks later, I got drunk and ended up on fb doing that dumb ex looking up thing and findout nothing really was going on fb so I got the app we talked on back up and that day we broke up she asked later on that day "Are you okay?' and about 5 days later she asked that again. I really don't know if I should just be indiffernt and be like I'm alright, thanks for asking bye or tell her that for me to move I got to be gone. tell her that you are about as good as anyone in your situation can be. then tell her that the best thing she can do for you is to leave you the F*ck alone. i'm sorry she did the slow crawl on the break up. i guess she had to be sure, but still, it was cruel. now that you know she doesn't love you and she's not a good person, that should help you move on. let go, move on. she's a bitch. sorry.
Author Voices Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Thank you all for your feedback. I always thought she was a good person and was honest now, I kind of question any of that. I guess the skeletons come out in the end and after the love daze wears off you. She's just difficult to pen point what she means or wants, she's had a million things to happen to her and her son in their life time. It's been like two weeks two days of no contact. She sent me that last message a 11 days ago. Asking if I was okay. I don't know if it would do any good to reply back to her. If I did I would send a very indifferent response like I'm okay, thanks for asking.
elaine567 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Thank you all for your feedback. I always thought she was a good person and was honest now, I kind of question any of that. I guess the skeletons come out in the end and after the love daze wears off you. She's just difficult to pen point what she means or wants, she's had a million things to happen to her and her son in their life time. It's been like two weeks two days of no contact. She sent me that last message a 11 days ago. Asking if I was okay. I don't know if it would do any good to reply back to her. If I did I would send a very indifferent response like I'm okay, thanks for asking. I guess she obviously decided in her head, there is no future in the relationship, but she still cared and she let her heart and lust and maybe a little bit of doubt take over, hence the brief liaisons, which you took as a good sign, but she almost immediately regretted. Eventually she decides she HAS to end it, so she sends the, I do not love you any more, message. Keep moving forward, do not look back, there is nothing for you there..
Author Voices Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 You all are right there is nothing left for me to do. I believe she was just asking if I was okay to stroke her ego or to feel less bad about it. The best thing I can do is move on from her, improve myself ( which I have been doing) and be me. If she really cared, if she really wanted to know how I felt she'd made more of an effort but she didn't. I have nothing more to say to her, I wont reply to any messages from her unless its a serious apology. Even if I accept the apology, I'd truly would have to think about going back to her. Meaning, things would have to change. Drastically and I believe that would be the deal breaker. I'm not bring my standards down for her anymore.
Recommended Posts