Tressugar Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 What did I do wrong? We are newly seen each other we met February 1st last month and begin officially dating March 1st. We don't see each other often because of our schedules so I usually see him saturday night on to Sunday. He invited over on Saturday we had another great time we opened up even more he invited me to stay the night which I did. The problem was in the morning after I got my full 8 hours of sleep. I tried to wake him but he wanted more sleep. I know our hours are different so I let him get his rest and saw myself out the door. I sent him a text while he was sleeping to let him know I left and went home and 2 CALL me later so I could to cook us some breakfast when he wakes up. He responded to my text a few moments later saying he's going to pass and drink coffee at home. When I received that text I called him to ask what happened and what's wrong he said nothing he's just going to get his coffee as he was still tired. I asked him if we were going to see each other later on he said probably he said he did not have any plans and I told him I didn't have any plans. Here it is going on 6 o'clock and I still have not heard anything from him. He knows I have work early the next morning. Do you think we're still together are you think we have broken up?
basil67 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I find it odd that you packed up and went home. In your situation, I would have made myself coffee and kept myself entertained for another hour or so. Then I would have woken him with breakfast - or at least coffee in bed. ' That said, if he has a habit of being too tired to see you, then move on to someone else. 1
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Since you've only been dating since March 1st, less than two weeks ago, was this the first time you've had sex, spent the night?
Author Tressugar Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 First of all he's a bachelor = no food. I'm not comfortable enough to rummage through his kitchen to make us coffee. In which he was out. Last week I stayed in bed waiting for him to wake up, this week I had several errands I had to run so I couldn't stay in bed all day. 1
Author Tressugar Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 Since you've only been dating since March 1st, less than two weeks ago, was this the first time you've had sex, spent the night? No, the second time.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Since you've only been dating since March 1st, less than two weeks ago, was this the first time you've had sex, spent the night? Also, jmo, but when he texted you back declining your b'fast invite, you should have simply texted back saying "okay, have a good day" or something like that. Not calling him asking him "what's wrong?" ...that sounds needy and clingy, you just started dating! Leave him be, do not text or call again. The ball is in his court, time will tell if he wants to see you again. 2
jen1447 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 It just sounds like orgasm hangover to me. (When guys have gotten off, they can become very content and not particularly lovey-dovey for a while.) I think you're fine. btw don't pester him - he might find that annoying in itself. I'd just reach out tomorrow sometime. And be confident. 1
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 First of all he's a bachelor = no food. I'm not comfortable enough to rummage through his kitchen to make us coffee. In which he was out. Last week I stayed in bed waiting for him to wake up, this week I had several errands I had to run so I couldn't stay in bed all day. You did nothing wrong by leaving, so don't feel bad about that. Again, you have been dating less than two weeks, he was sleeping, you wanted to go home, that's fine. I have done that myself, no biggee. The bigger issue is your calling him asking him what's wrong. Most likely there was nothing wrong other than maybe him needing a bit of space after spending the night with you. I know you're anxious, but please, learn to contain, otherwise you risk suffocating the guy with needy behavior.
basil67 Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 First of all he's a bachelor = no food. I'm not comfortable enough to rummage through his kitchen to make us coffee. In which he was out. Last week I stayed in bed waiting for him to wake up, this week I had several errands I had to run so I couldn't stay in bed all day. Yeah, fair enough.
Ami1uwant Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Last time you stayed over and you got up first, how did he react to your presence???? There was nothing wrong in you leaving, but it might have carried a negative impression on him.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Last time you stayed over and you got up first, how did he react to your presence???? There was nothing wrong in you leaving, but it might have carried a negative impression on him. Good point ....he missed out on having morning sex!
Author Tressugar Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 After I'd sent the txt msg to call me he finally called me. He said that he was cleaning his place so I can come back to have dinner (pizza) at his house. He said he didn't feel like doing anything today. Today's a lazy day for him. Thank you for all your responses. 1
losangelena Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 God, are you dating my ex? The two sound remarkably similar. He too was a pretty later riser. I'm more of a morning person, and I'd often have to wait around for him to wake up. I got used to it after a while, but at first it was pretty awkward. Also, your guy sounds a little ... unenthusiastic. I know a guy needs his downtime, and I'm glad he invited you back over, but I would have a hard time not interpreting, "meh, today's my lazy day," as him not being interested to see me. 1
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 God, are you dating my ex? The two sound remarkably similar. He too was a pretty later riser. I'm more of a morning person, and I'd often have to wait around for him to wake up. I got used to it after a while, but at first it was pretty awkward. Also, your guy sounds a little ... unenthusiastic. I know a guy needs his downtime, and I'm glad he invited you back over, but I would have a hard time not interpreting, "meh, today's my lazy day," as him not being interested to see me. I think he just needed a bit of space after spending the night together last night. A few hours, no biggee. It's still early stages, less than two weeks, perfectly understandable IMO. Hell, I would have needed a few hours to myself too!! I also think him wanting to see her tonight (the very next night after their date) speaks volumes ....it's all good. Jmo, I could be wrong. 1
losangelena Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I think he just needed a bit of space after spending the night together last night. A few hours, no biggee. It's still early stages, less than two weeks, perfectly understandable IMO. Hell, I would have needed a few hours to myself too!! I also think him wanting to see her tonight (the very next night after their date) speaks volumes ....it's all good. Jmo, I could be wrong. No, I get it, that's why I said it's understandable. They're still early on. It's just the way OP's describing their interactions, he sounds lackluster, but who knows. If I were her, logically I would know that everything he says sounds reasonable, regardless, I would have a hard time not being a little bothered by it.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 After I'd sent the txt msg to call me he finally called me. He said that he was cleaning his place so I can come back to have dinner (pizza) at his house. He said he didn't feel like doing anything today. Today's a lazy day for him. Thank you for all your responses. Does he ever take you out, or are all your *dates* spent at his place? losangelina, I just read the original post again, and I see what you mean! This less than two week "relationship" sounds very strange, almost like a couple who have been dating for years, who are bored. Not so much the OP ....but HE sure does! OP, hope it works out.
joseb Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Were you too banging all night, or did you actually sleep 8 hours and then he just let you leave? I can't imagine doing that with someone I just started seeing!
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Were you too banging all night, or did you actually sleep 8 hours and then he just let you leave? I can't imagine doing that with someone I just started seeing! LOL...that is exactly what I was saying, they act like they've been dating for years .... not less than two weeks! And as losangelina was saying, his less than enthusiastic ... and lackluster responses make it sound like he's bored and/or taking the OP for granted after less than two weeks dating! Hell who actually sleeps 8 hours in a brand new RL? For me, it would be more like f*cking 8 times and getting no sleep! Lol 1
Author Tressugar Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 losangelina, the first month since we've met, we've covered pretty much every inch of our city in going to restaurants, bowling, movies, concerts, comedy shows, sight seeing, parks etc... It was a welcomed relief to have some down time not engaging in activity just strictly one on one getting to know you private conservations.
Author Tressugar Posted March 14, 2016 Author Posted March 14, 2016 He works in law enforcement , so his hours are off. He works double shifts sometimes.
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