I just think it's abnormal for a gf to say this. Opinions? [update 2016-07-05]

[jerrygordon3]

My gf of two years did this yesterday. Not the first time. I feel like it's super high school. She and I will get in an argument and she will break up with me. This is July 4... July 5 today is my 30th birthday. So al day yesterday just being caddy and dumping me. Said she needs space. Said we are over and she's serious and she is cancelling our dinner plans on my birthday. So finally I said fine we are over. And hung up. Didn't answer her call or texts for 5 minutes and I had twenty texts and 5 missed calls and then spent an hour and a half on the phone with her violently sobbing screaming in front of her sleeping 5 year old and asking me how dare I do this to her how could I do this to her, she can't trust me cause I'm just gonna turn on her. I'm just like every other guy. And that what I did isn't fair because SHE HAS ABANDONMENT ISSUES. She can't trust ME... I'm doing this to HER. Am I missing something here or is this girl out of line.

[GorillaTheater]

Well, you might be crazy to put up with this nonsense and taking her back after the repeated break-ups.

[bummer]

Yep. You would be crazy to continue. Push-pull, irrational, demanding behaviour will speed the process too.

 

Nacho child? Nacho problem!

[mammasita]

Sorry, but you are crazy to put up with that for TWO YEARS. Get rid of the crazy!

[Redhead14]

My gf of two years did this yesterday. Not the first time. I feel like it's super high school. She and I will get in an argument and she will break up with me. This is July 4... July 5 today is my 30th birthday. So al day yesterday just being caddy and dumping me. Said she needs space. Said we are over and she's serious and she is cancelling our dinner plans on my birthday. So finally I said fine we are over. And hung up. Didn't answer her call or texts for 5 minutes and I had twenty texts and 5 missed calls and then spent an hour and a half on the phone with her violently sobbing screaming in front of her sleeping 5 year old and asking me how dare I do this to her how could I do this to her, she can't trust me cause I'm just gonna turn on her. I'm just like every other guy. And that what I did isn't fair because SHE HAS ABANDONMENT ISSUES. She can't trust ME... I'm doing this to HER. Am I missing something here or is this girl out of line.

 

Not only is she out of line, she is a poor parent and unable to control her emotions.

 

violently sobbing screaming in front of her sleeping 5 year old!!! -- This is unacceptable and inexcusable.

 

Of course she has abandonment issues . . . my guess is she's caused a number of people to abandon her. Why wouldn't they with this kind of behavior? If the child is hers from a previous relationship, it's no wonder she is a single parent and I feel sorry for the child.

[Zahara]

Crazy? Both of you are -- volatile and dysfunctional. I went back and read you past threads about her and this relationship. Wow. At this point, a board can't help you. You both need professional therapy. It says so much about your own emotional and mental mindset in that you've stayed tolerant and accepting of this for so long. After this thread - lather rinse and repeat. You both feed off each other.

Edited July 5, 2016 by Zahara

[ExpatInItaly]

You guys are actually perfect for each other.

[Teknoe]

Kindness is the cornerstone of a relationship. Your gf isn't kind. No, this isn't normal and saying she doesn't need you is like saying I don't respect you so I will say hurtful things in order to make sure I'm right and you are wrong. She is a tool, a mind warp drama queen you honestly know isn't right for you. Follow your gut, man,

Best,

Grumps

 

I agree with Grumps.

 

OP, run.

 

You deserve better.

 

I'm ALL for communication and standing up for what you believe in, but that doesn't mean she can't phrase her words with more tact. And without a threat attached, lol.

 

On the bright side, better to see her heart than for her to hide it and deceive you. Consider it a favor. Trust me man, life is too short for volatile girls when there are plenty of sweet ones out there!

[spiderowl]

It doesn't sound very nice to me. Be nice to me or else isn't an nice way to talk to someone you care about. I don't think it's a good idea to put up with this.