~ Knowing wut it is like to be in love with a married guy~

[dreamy_girl007]

[font=arial][/font][color=blue][/color]I know wut it is like to fall in love with a married man. Im 16 and he is 22. We have not done nething sexual. I met him at work and the very first day i saw him i knew there was something there just by the way he kept lookin at me. At first he came off as a real ass but now i know it wasnt that at all. When i met him i was also dating a guy that also worked there and he came to me one day and asked me if there was something between us but at the time it was just a lil flirting so i told him no and that relationship didnt last another month.

 

My mom also worked there, she was my ride and on Feb. 22 i found out she was goin to quit which ment i also had to quit bcuz the boss was bein a dick. So newayz that night before we left this guy gave me his phone number and a kiss on the neck and told me to call him. I didnt find out he was married until maybe a week or two after i met him and at that time i also found out his wife was fixin to have a baby! So at our work we had two headsets and one night after i found out all this we talked about it on the headsets. And he told me that he only married her for the baby, and at this time him and his wife had only been married maybe a month if that. Everytime she would come in there she would just treat him like ****.

 

So we continued to have conversations more serious everynight. And he is a very emotional guy. And right before they got married his wife had cheated on him with two other guys so he was still mad about that and hes not even sure if the baby is his or not. But there not goin to do the whole dna test bcuz he loves that kid so much he would do nething for it. The mom never takes care of or nething around the house in fact.

 

At first we started out as flirty friends and then after he told me almost everything about his life we started to have serious feelings for each other. And the we quit so all we do now is talk on the phone and see each other every couple months. But i am so in love with him and he knows this but he hasnt exactly told me how he feels he just tells me that no matter wut he does he cant get me off his mind!! And thats another thing when i was workin there with him he would come in some days and tell me that the whole time he was havin sex with his wife he was picturin me and thinkin about me. I am crazy for him...he is the best thing that has ever happened to me...seriously! Before i met him i was a mess and i was very suicidal and all the guys in my past treated me like **** and all they thought they were gonna get was sex which they didnt seein as im a virgin and all!! lol

 

Neways i my best friend which is a girl has a thing for me right...well she doesnt like me bein with a guy bcuz she cant stand it when they hurt me! Well she really doesnt support me with this whole married guy thing so i had to lie to her and tell her I ended things with him which i havent and probably wont! I care about both of them so much and just a second ago we (me and my best friend) had a conversation about gettin together and tryin things that way. Shes not a full lesbian shes been with one girl and didnt like it but she said with me its different and me ive never been with a girl period so were gonna try things.

 

A couple of times before i have talked to his best friends and they tell me that we should surely be together and that him and his wife should never have gotten married. They tell me that im all he talkes about and they can tell when he is thinkin bout me bcuz hes happy and not all depressed. And they said the only thing he is scared of by divorcing his wife and risking things with me since im only 16 is that one day i will wake up and leave him bcuz im young and havent had time to experience and fall in love with other people but i told his friends that that wont happen bcuz i am so in love with him and i could spend the rest of my life with him. When we talk about his wife he calls her his other half and really he doesnt like to talk about her.

 

About a week ago him and his other half had a fight and almost got divorced. I dont know wut it was about but he said she knows nothing about me. I dont wanna break his family apart but with her he is so unhappy and with me he is full of life and so happy. Yea i may be young and i do know that really this is wrong but i know wut i feel.

 

So wut do ya'll think?? Let me know ur opinions please?!?! O yea and before i forget i also wrote him a poem and here it is....

 

Why...But Willing

Why is our love so hard,

we've done everything we could

and now we just have to see

where it leads us.

I love you with all my hear,

you captured it as soon as we met.

You swept me off my feet

and i fell for you.

We have to hide wut we have,

but in my eyes its all worth it.

You treat me with respect,

no man ever has before.

It makes my day just to

hear the sexiness of your voice

or the soft touch of the words

you speak to me.

It may not be much, but

there's just something about the

way you phrase your words

in the moment that just makes

my tummy fill with butterflies.

Just to know that you still

want this to work makes

everything better even when

its not all that well.

I feel closer to you every time

we talk to see each other.

Just thinking about you just

takes my breat away.

You were there for me

when i had no one else.

You'er the only thing in my

life right now that keeps

me going day to day.

With out you I don't

know whre I would be!

You've done more for me

than you could ever imagine.

Two days before we met,

I prayed to god to give

me something to live for.

And baby I think he

gave me you. Your so

special to me in my heart.

Yeah I may be in love with you,

but your also more than that to me

your also my best friend.

Someone I can talk to and

you not judge me about anything.

We think so much alike

in every way possible.

I would do anyting to

repay all the happiness

you have given to me.

I've encountered many guys, but none were

as good and wonderful

as you are and have been to me.

I've been to hell and back in

the past, but when it comes

down to it you're the one I

want, the one who has my heart,

and I would love for you to keep it.

You may be taken right now,

but baby all i want is you

and if that means waiting

then great!! I am so in love with

you and i wont be with another person

because my heart is with you and thats

where i would once again

like it to stay, if you don't mind baby!

Everyday I wonder if you really feel the

same about me, but you always

seem to reassure me you care!

Baby I thank you from the

bottom of my heart for everything.

Your the best thing that

has every happened to me.

I dont have any idea where this

is goin, but im willing

to wait and see. I love

you baby!! xoxoxoxoxox

 

So let me know wut u think about this!! Thanks...xoxox

[moimeme]

Leave him alone. Wise up. A million women before you have fallen for all this 'he's so unhappy' crap.

 

You want to know the success rate of marriages that come out of affairs? 5%!

 

LEAVE HIM ALONE.

[moimeme]

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[moimeme]

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[dreamy_girl007]

yea but when i met him he had only been married not even a month so how could a million women fall for his supposedly "he's so unhappy crap?" Just by talkin to him u can tell he is unhappy. Have you ever been involved with somethin like this??

[erika2610]

Originally posted by dreamy_girl007

yea but when i met him he had only been married not even a month so how could a million women fall for his supposedly "he's so unhappy crap?" Just by talkin to him u can tell he is unhappy. Have you ever been involved with somethin like this??

 

No.. she means every girl who's ever been with a MM has fallen for all the lies. It's always the same.. 'I'm so unhappy.. I'm just with her for the kids, we don't even sleep in the same room.' Blah blah blah blah blah. Stay away from him. I have been involved with a MM. I was very down on myself, and we worked together.. he saw me as an easy target. He was oh so happy with me. I was with him for over a year.. when it was over, it just ripped my heart out. Again.. just stay away from him. You're just setting yourself up for horrible heartbreak. You will get nothing out of it. Plus he's got a kid on the way.. do you wanna also deal with that at 16?

[erika2610]

Not to mention, buut most 22 yr. old guys only want 16 yr. old girls for one thing.. and I dunno where you live, but in some states, it's illegal for a 22 yr. old to be with a 16 yr. old. Your mother could get him arrested if she found out..

[erika2610]

And you're supposedly in love with this guy but you're hookin up with your best friend? Sweetie, I don't think you know what you want. But please walk away from this MM.. you're still young. There are so many young single guys out there.

[newbby]

Hey,

Its usually the case that the ow is extremely unhappy, depressed, suicidal when the mm comes along and promises her a life of love and happiness. When you are in this state, the mm takes it all away, or at least shines a little light in the darkness of your mind. That is why it is so hard to resist, this is what they do too, they go on and on and on about how they cant stop thinking about you, they dont leave you alone, they feed you crap about their wives and marriages, and as time goes on you begin to depend on them. They know this, they prey on unhappy women who are also beautiful, smart, kind, but very unhappy. Before you know it you have fallen hard, imagining returning to where you were before is too hard to deal with. You NEED them. They know this and they keep going and keep going until they wear down all your resistance.

Then they say they are leaving their wives, then they become sexual with you, then they dont leave their wives and continue being sexual with you, then they become colder, they stop making you feel good. You begin to feel bad, you return to the dark place you were desperate to escape from, sometimes it is even worse because of this relationship. THIS IS WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF YOU CONTINUE THIS WITH HIM.

With you and your friend, I dont know, but it really sounds like you are just looking for some love. Its hard being sixteen. How about school?? Cant you meet some guys your own age. Believe me this guy is just the same its just that he has got old enough to master the art of manipulation.

[dreamy_girl007]

ya'll are right i dont know wut i want...im lost and confused. Yea it is illegal in my state. I think all of you are right and i want to find someone my own age but at my school ive tried that and they all want one thing and i wont give it to them so they leave me. I had something good goin with one of my es's but i cheated on him with another guy and at the time this other guy said that he would treat me good and blah blah blah and now i see that i should have stayed with my ex but i dont think he would take me back. I still think about him and care about him but i just dont see it happenin. Im in love with the married guy yes but its more like a friendship between us with a little sexual tension in between, would i be wrong to keep a friendship goin between us or leave him all together? And as for the best friend thing i dont think i can do that i think we'll just stay friends and no more. Im so confused!!

[moimeme]

Why not hang with some girlfriends instead of looking for men? No, don't be friends with this married guy because eventually he will push for more. You are awful young to be trying to juggle a bunch of men. Really, there's plenty of life left to have to deal with all this junk.

[dreamy_girl007]

I do hang out with my friends when my parents let me cuz they are very protective. And to tell u the truth i have never looked for guys they just pop up and i go for them cuz they give me comfort and make me feel special then they break ur heart. My longest relationship was two months out of 6 relationships over the past year and im ready to find one guy to be with not bouncing around from one to teh next. And this thing with the married guy has lasted 6 months and its awesome but then again its wrong. I know i need to find someone of my own and i should have enough respect for myself but i found him and now i should give him but its goin to hurt so bad and im tired of bein hurt.

[OneLonelyWife]

Ok I am gonna tell you from experience here I was the wife...my husband wanted a younger girl she was 17 yr old he was 22 and I was left pregnant with our first son and he claimed to her how unhappy he was and he would still be intimate with me telling her his bullsh** lies of he thinks of her while with me. Yea ok they think only one thing at that time.... Let me tell you being that I am a wife who went through this LEAVE HIM ALONE because when the wife finds out honey she might do what I did I called her parents and I called the police so lets just say she got a quick open eye. Another thing forget you for a momment thats selfish of you think of thier baby are you ready to be a step mom surely at 16 you have no clue how or what to do I am 26 and still don't know and I have two kids I raise basically alone a 2yr old and a 2 month old. So again think hard leave him be don't fall for the lies he is happy I don't care what you say or he would leave her when my hubby came back crawling leaving her hanging he told me he never wanted more than a TOY to mess with in revenge to me. Childish but its true. I am not trying to be mean but girls like you wives dispise they call you home wreckers do not take that label it's horrid and it will follow you forever if you have a heart. So say good bye and run the malls with girl friends enjoy being 16 don't strap down to commitment that your not ready for.

[newbby]

dreamy, honey, its not about right or wrong its about good for you or not good for you.

[erika2610]

Originally posted by dreamy_girl007

I do hang out with my friends when my parents let me cuz they are very protective. And to tell u the truth i have never looked for guys they just pop up and i go for them cuz they give me comfort and make me feel special then they break ur heart. My longest relationship was two months out of 6 relationships over the past year and im ready to find one guy to be with not bouncing around from one to teh next. And this thing with the married guy has lasted 6 months and its awesome but then again its wrong. I know i need to find someone of my own and i should have enough respect for myself but i found him and now i should give him but its goin to hurt so bad and im tired of bein hurt.

 

If you're looking for one guy to be with.. it's not a MM. And honey, you're still young. Hang out with your friends.. go to the mall. Go to the park. Go to the beach with your friends. I think you have such low self esteem that you THINK you need a man to be happy. To make you feel special. But the more you go on, and the older you get, the more you'll realize you really don't always need a man. Yea, they're nice, but not essential. And when you're older, when the time is right, you'll meet that special man that you can spend the rest of your life with. A single one of course

[StillHurtin]

dreamy-girl, I could of wrote your thread 20 years ago. I went through the samething you did, w/ an older man. I was also 16 and he was 22. We didn't work 2gether, I met him at my dad's shop. He brought his car in there to have some repairs and when he walked out and I was walking in he said hello and gave me the biggest smile. My heart melted and I was hooked on him, stupid!!! I was only 13 the first time I met him and he was 18. I didn't talk to him again until I was 15 and from then on out we hung out a lot 2gether when he was back from college. It started out as a little girl's crush until years later I found myself falling in love w/ him.

 

He wasn't M but he was in a committed relationship to a woman he M after we quit seeing eachother. I didn't know he was in a committed relationship until a few years later and I had already slept w/ him several times (I was 17, almost 18 the first time). It hurt so much and I shed a lot of tears for this man I could never truely have. It's not worth the pain and the hearthache dreamy_girl. You are still VERY young, don't worry about setteling down w/ one guy. I was also a virgin at 16 and I also kept having guys break it off w/ me b/c I wouldn't have sex w/ them. I figured if they were going to dump me b/c I wouldn't sleep w/ them they were jerks anyhow. You don't need a guy to make you happy. Enjoy being young, it doesn't last long. Go to dances, go the malls, go cruising (if you or your friends have a car, that was our fav thing to do), go skating, there are tons of things you can do w/o having to worry about some guy. Life is too short to be hung up on a MM, especially at your age.

 

I never got into a serious relationship until I was 21 and I M him. All my ex BF's would either dump me b/c I wouldn't have sex w/ them, or they would cheat on me. Sometimes having a guy in your life can make you more miserable than actually not having one. I never wanted to be in a committted relationship when I was your age but to this one guy who I couldn't have. If I couldn't have anything serious w/ him, I didn't want anyone else. I shed a lot of tears b/c of it. It's not worth it. Enjoy your youth and stay away from this MM, he is up to no good. Even if his M is bad he is still a MM. Protect your heart, and your purity from him.