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I need some advice. My mother in law is living with us for the second time. We don't get along. This makes her being here unbearable. I'm completely unhappy. I've have talked to my husband about this and he acts like he cares but I kinda wonder if he does. I feel if he did she'd be gone. It's been six months and when she moved back in we told her two months. This is driving me nuts! The first time she lived with us my husband and I almost broke up over it. We have other issues in our marriage but this being the big one. I'm worried we're headed down a bad path. Please help any advice would be appreciated.

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Well, that's his mum and maybe you are putting him in a difficult solution making him choose.

 

I think as you ask him to tell her to leave, find a living solution for her that he can work with. Not that she should just leave. Is she sick or something? Why is she staying with you?

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She's staying with us because she decided she doesn't want to work. She one day up and quit her job.

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Considering she is able bodied and capable of work, why is your H not insisting she get a new job and get herself living independently?

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I love that quote thank you! He tells her to get a job she just doesn't. She has a excuse for everything. Home depot is to hot. The grocery store where we live doesn't have the position she wants. It goes on from there. He doesn't fight her because she has anger issues, Big time. It's one of many things I can't stand about her being here.

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Does she contribute at all?

 

Or does he support her financially too?

 

Does she cook, do chores?

 

I dunno, since you said you have issues in your marriage, maybe he actually wants her there?

 

Either as a buffer, or hoping you move out?

 

Sounds like there is a lot more to this....but in any event, it does not sound good!

 

Or healthy for your marriage, which again may be why she is there in the first place. At his request.

 

I'm sorry...:(

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You need to tell him you are not living with her any longer than 3 more months and that at that time, if she isn't gone, you will be. You shouldn't be having to ask.

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