waterunderthebridge Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 I started chatting up with a young woman on Facebook a couple of weeks ago. We were more of acquaintances than friends, as we had just chit-chatted in passing last Summer when we worked together. The girl was clearly positively surprised that I made the first move and not soon after she said that I would be fun to catch up, so we agreed on a date. I was really looking forward to see her, but at the same time wanted to keep my feet on the ground as I wasn't sure whether she wanted just to catch up. The date went perfectly. We ended up in a coffee house and sat there for 6 hours straight and it was clear that we weren't just catching up, we were on a date. The flirting was mutual and we joked about that we should do this and that together in the future. Before going our separate ways we hugged and agreed that we should see again the next time I'm in town (We live in different cities, but I visit my hometown quite regularly). She even said that I should text her before going to sleep! It has been a week since the date, and I feel like something's off... We've talked only couple of times since and she hasn't started any conversations like she used to or even tried to continue the conversation. Her matriculation examinations (Finnish equivalent to the SAT) are right around the corner, and I noticed that she's pretty tough on herself when it comes to studying, so could she just be under a lot of stress and busy? I tried to ask her about the second date, but she said the we should decide it later as she doesn't want to plan ahead too much (I'm going to the city on the last week of the month, so it kind a makes sense). I know that I'm overanalyzing the situation even though I shouldn't, but should I just trust the feeling I got from our date or be at least slightly worried about the fact that she doesn't seem too interested to text? She is 18 and I'm 20, if it matters.
road Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 I know that I'm overanalyzing the situation Yes. Ask her after the test. Her answer will let you know where you stand. Better than you or anyone here can guess. However sitting for six hours having a coffee date. Bad. If things were going that well by the 2 hour mark I would of brought her to a nice restaurant for diner. Nice does not have to be expensive. Nice could of been a take out order watch the sun set.
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 The exams have to be her priority right now. She's most likely VERY stressed. Talk to her -- voice call-- periodically but let her study. If you know when the test is, arrange a date for the day after to celebrate. Send her a bouquet of # 2 pencils to take the test.
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