Jame22 Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 A few nights ago I had a 2nd date with a girl. It went pretty well. She doesn't like driving on rainy nights so she took an uber. We waited in the parking lot for a good five minutes and long story short we couldn't find the uber. I usually avoid asking girls back to my place or driving them anywhere until the 3rd or 4th date but under the circumstances I told her that I would be happy to drive her home and she accepted. I have no problem accepting an invitation but offering one too soon just makes me feel sketchy. We have a 3rd date set up for next Thursday so no harm was done. I've always thought of myself as being a little socially awkward, but I must not be as bad as I think I am. any thoughts?
losangelena Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 I've accepted rides back to my house from guys at the end of the first date. Maybe not advisable, but I've never had any problems.
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d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 I am a relatively good judge of character so if I have met somebody I probably have no qualms about getting in a car with them by the 2nd date. My very 1st OLD date ever I let that guy in my car. We were both traveling an hour to get together. (well him a few minutes to get to the date from his work but 1 hour back home afterwards). I had my car. He was taking the train. He picked the restaurant, about 1 mile from the station (which I thought was a stupid pick for that reason). The day of the date it was pouring so I offered to pick him up at the station. I don't know that I would have gotten into his car at that point. I guess I felt more control in my care even if that was an illusion.
Rumely Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 I think your fine. By the end of the second date, a lot of couples are having sex, so getting in a car should be nothing. I do know what you mean though. Years ago, on first OLD meet I went on, the date got screwed up because she had to work late. We were supposed to meet at a bar, but ended up meeting at her apartment building. We met and said "Hi," and I said, "I'd follow her there." I wasn't familiar with the place we planned to go. She grabbed something out of her car and then jump in my car. It freaked me out. Just about bailed out of my own car. We hadn't talked before that and only met literally one minute earlier. I asked her about it a few weeks later. She said " I know you were fine, so I just went with it." Is this what I would suggest anyone should do-----NO!
Shining One Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 Most of the women I date are very eager to rid themselves of their driving responsibilities. Thus, I'm usually picking them up by the second date.
paigej91 Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 Agreed - after the 3rd or 4th date it's acceptable to offer. Even if your intentions are good, offering on the first date is creepy (assuming you met online). I live in a city though, so the environment makes somewhat of a difference too. What's funny about all this is back in the day (pre-modern dating, when people met organically) men were just expected to give rides and come pick you up for a date.
Author Jame22 Posted March 12, 2016 Author Posted March 12, 2016 Agreed - after the 3rd or 4th date it's acceptable to offer. Even if your intentions are good, offering on the first date is creepy (assuming you met online). I live in a city though, so the environment makes somewhat of a difference too. What's funny about all this is back in the day (pre-modern dating, when people met organically) men were just expected to give rides and come pick you up for a date. I don't think it's as dangerous as most people think it is but there's always that craigslist serial killer stigma that looms over it for the first couple of dates. Unless there's a weird circumstance I draw the line at the 3rd date As you stated online varies from the real world. If I met a girl through one of my friends I'd have no problems giving her a ride after the first date. I think my days of meeting woman through friends are pretty much over. Everyone seems to be online dating these days...even people with tons of friends.
Rumely Posted March 12, 2016 Posted March 12, 2016 (edited) Sounds like it takes you a while to get comfortable with someone. You need to remember this is your comfort level, not necessarily that of your date. You are projecting your own insecurity as "sketchiness" on the circumstance from your perspective not hers. We have no way to know, but she may have been thinking, "How sweet of this guy to give me a ride." I'm sure if she had not felt comfortable, there were other ways for her to get home. If you had planned this out so there was no way for your date to get home except for you taking her, that would be "sketchy." It is only sketchy if there is "sketchiness" going on. I live in a very rural area. Almost every date I've been on whether OLD or live meet, I've drove on the FIRST date. While I'm not discounting safety, you have to keep it in perspective. Look at how many people meet and go home together the same night. Happens all the time. Bad things happen, but in all reality it is very rare. It has struck me as odd that the same woman that went home with a guy she just met at the bar for a ONS, won't ride in a car with someone she is dating until after several dates. Edited March 12, 2016 by Rumely
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