dawn duval Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I was doing so well, trying to move on with my life. In fact, I have the biggest interview of my life tomorrow. If I do well at this, it will take my career leagues beyond what it is now. I should be happy with myself, and all I can think about is that I'd give up everything to be with him. So pathetic. At the same time I still hate the stupid ba$tard so I'm not gonna give in and call him.
Author dawn duval Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by pioneer How long u been split? it's been 3 months. I had my interview today and first thing I wanted to do when I got out was email him. Fortunately I've managed to restrain myself. It's so hard to get over those impulses to call/email him after big events. I noticed you're from England...waaah, he's English too. I miss his sexy accent.
whichwayisup Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 At the same time I still hate the stupid ba$tard so I'm not gonna give in and call him. Keep telling yourself that OVER AND OVER in your head. s***, say it outloud if you have to. But whatever you do, don't call him!!
ConfusedInOC Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 What's the female version of "No More Mr. Nice Guy????"
Author dawn duval Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 Keep telling yourself that OVER AND OVER in your head. s***, say it outloud if you have to. But whatever you do, don't call him!! Thanks, I needed that. I just saw someone's post about getting back with your ex by being there for them and I was thinking well maybe... Your post snapped me back. See, my ex has really been pushing trying to be friends. He keeps writing me emails asking me how I'm doing and I've been ignoring them, only responding when I have to (we have to communicate about work about once a week, via email). So I've been extremely terse in my responses, only talking about work. Then when I saw that post about getting back your ex I was thinking maybe I should try to be friendly, maybe I'm ruining our chances. At the same time I'm so mad at him I can't fathom being friendly. deep breaths...
Author dawn duval Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC What's the female version of "No More Mr. Nice Guy????" women who love too much?
ConfusedInOC Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by dawn duval women who love too much? Clingy chicks
dogood4urself Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 I am going through the same thing, my ex keeps trying to be friends, inviting me places, calling me, trying to hang out.... f***c that! If he really cared about you, he would know that what you need right now is time, you will probably be friends later but right now it is still way too fresh. Sometimes, people lead you on with out even realizing it. (My ex says its a bad habit of hers--->beast) It is a terrible thing. It is hard not to share the wonderful things in your life anymore with someone you have shared pretty much everything with. It sucks that you have to communicate for work, it makes hard to move on and get over him. Just hang in there, and DON'T COMMUNICATE more than you have to. Do you even have to communicate? Can someone else at work do that instead of you? I would suggest writing down the things you don't like about him and put it on a sticky on your desktop, so that every time you think about writing him, you can look at it and have a reality check. Good luck!
Author dawn duval Posted June 16, 2005 Author Posted June 16, 2005 I would suggest writing down the things you don't like about him and put it on a sticky on your desktop, so that every time you think about writing him, you can look at it and have a reality check. Thanks, I definitely should do this! Seems like I have a hard time remembering those things when I miss him. Do you even have to communicate? Unfortunately we do. I can't go into details without giving away too much personal info, but unfortunately he and I are the only ones in the world at this point that can continue work on this. Hmm, that makes it sound cooler and more mysterious than it is, but in any case I really have to. This will be over in about 4 months though, and I can move on with my life without him. I'm sorry your ex is doing that too. So you don't think she's doing that to "keep her hooks in" or whatever? I don't know about my ex. I think he may be, because he's really not the type to have female friends, but in any case, even if he is, his timeframe is so far off in the future that I should definitely get it thru my thick skull that it's over. You know what, I realized just now that my total time thinking about him today probably totalled less than 2 hours, which is a huge improvement over the "every waking second" I've been experiencing. Unfortunately it's because of a lot of stress and decisions, but hey, whatever it takes.
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