sinbadd Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 Ok... I wrote a thread about my break up a while ago and now when i read it i feel ashamed of my self and the way i acted and what kind of thoughts I had... But lets not bring that up... Here is the case... My gf broke up with me 17.february... That day i sendt her few messages with no response... I felt ****ty as hell and my whole world came crushing down on me... So i went NC a few days and sendt her a message on 22.february... then again on 23.february as her daughter ended up in a hospital just saying hope she is allright... No response.... Then again I send a message 1.march... This was not just random message it was more of me appologizing for the way i behaved and all the **** that went down... And I said that i love her.... still no response... So now i've been NC for 11 days .... Right now I'm kind of split in between... Sometimes i think it's fine that we are no longer together as I didn't really felt apprisiated since I've done everything I can to show her how much I love her and how much she means to me ... and all i get in return is no contact... but I still think of her if not all the time then almost all the time... If i had a chance between not getting her back and getting her back I would definitly get her back... but thing that bugs me the most is that she is not talking to me.... It's creaping up to 1 month since she broke up with me on text message and I haven't heared a thing from her since then... I chekk up on her on facebook... meaby that's wrong too... but anyways I don't know what to do... I want her back but I don't intendt to break NC as I didn't get any response on my earlier attempts... even tho it's hard as hell... Can't help dreams and thoughts of her running back into my arms again ... but I guess that's just foolish wishes and hopless dreams... Now that I'm writing this stuff down... I know what most of you are going to say is to stay away... dont break NC... heal yourself... but how do i kill the hope without knowing anything... IF she could just ask me to go **** my self or any other stuff it would be easy... but with her last message she said that she loves me ... how can this be happening then ?? why wont she answer me back.... should i just give up ?? me ?? who was never a quiter.... I follow things through... give it more time ?? but if enough time passes by so will feelings ... right ?? Oh crap ... Could really use some good answers and not just random heal yourself... I don't have any problems with my self, I know i'm good looking, crowed control is not my problem at all since I'm talking to public all the time... I'm confident in myself in any way I look.... I can get layed right now IF i wanted to ... but that's not the case... I love this one... I want her... how do i procced ?? we don't have any common friends ... so with her not answering me there is no chance in hell for me the get hold of her... blahh sorry for writing too long of a post ... just hope someone could give me something to put me at least little to ease... 1
duncsvoice Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 There is no magic answer I'm afraid to make you feel better I'm afraid. Stay no contact, and that includes checking her Facebook. She broke up with you by text message, that speaks for itself. She doesn't deserve these feelings. If you can get laid, do it. You're not together. Honestly, staying no contact and working on yourself, doing things to keep her out of your mind is the only way to go. 1
SoulCat Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 (edited) For starters OP, you are not in NC. You are still texting her, checking her FB page. That is not NC. Just because she's not replying to your messages does not mean you're in NC. Stop texting her, stop checking your phone to see if she has replied. Block her number. Unfriend her from FB, or de-activate your own account . NC is to heal, not to tempt a person back into a relationship. Go proper NC, let her go and give yourself a chance to move on. Good luck! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide Edited March 11, 2016 by SoulCat Added link to the No Contact guide 1
Author sinbadd Posted March 11, 2016 Author Posted March 11, 2016 For starters OP, you are not in NC. You are still texting her, checking her FB page. That is not NC. Just because she's not replying to your messages does not mean you're in NC. Stop texting her, stop checking your phone to see if she has replied. Block her number. Unfriend her from FB, or de-activate your own account . NC is to heal, not to tempt a person back into a relationship. Go proper NC, let her go and give yourself a chance to move on. Good luck! For her I'm NC ... 11 days today... haven't heared a pip from me... For me ?? who cares... I want her back... how to move on when you want something ??? 1
Satu Posted March 11, 2016 Posted March 11, 2016 As SoulCat says, you're not in NC. This is NC: *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Having said that, NC isn't compulsory. It's just a useful option for people who want to heal from the pain of a broken relationship. Take care. 1
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