phineas Posted March 13, 2016 Posted March 13, 2016 Shes ether very mentally damaged or intentionally playing mind games neither option is really appealing to me anyways. Ide tell her to do you a favor and keep the "friend zone" you were looking for a relationship block and move on there are sane non manipulative women out there I swear there are...edit to add from the "rose on fb" thing it sounds like shes looking for validation and attention don't feed into that.. This or you aren't her type. the majority of women I meet online are attracted to jerks. They may find me good looking & funny but I lack the need for a mental health professional so they get bored of me after a little bit or just want me as a FWB. Its best to just walk away from women like this. 1
Seraphina87 Posted March 13, 2016 Posted March 13, 2016 I really don't know. To me you either like someone or you don't. I can understand she may be guarded after her past relationships. She told me from the get go she wanted to take it slow and see what happens. It was a first from her as she had never done it before and a first from myself. After I ended it last night to be honest, I felt a weight off my shoulders. At 36, and with 2 teenage sons, I hope she wasn't playing games with me. Sometimes, it isn't that simple. It can take time to know whether you feel you could actually be with someone or not. There are so many of us in the world that most of us would not be compatible for a relationship. I think you are sensible to take things more slowly next time.
ff12343 Posted March 13, 2016 Posted March 13, 2016 I think I have learnt 1 thing. To not invest to heavily from the get go. And take it slow and no give to much. It's a good lesson learned. Protect yourself.
kendahke Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 I only mentioned my ex GF earlier because she had issues ( depression, anxiety, etc ) and in a way I feel the lady I was getting to know had issues as well due to violent partners in the past. I seem to attract and be attracted to ladies with baggage . I didn't feel at all I was pressuring her, but I felt I had to man up and end it. Her response made me feel like she wasn't to bothered so I said, all good i will go then. I think that you are going to find that now you will begin attracting a better calibre of woman to you because you didn't stick around and invest in a woman with baggage. You now know what doesn't feel right to you and you make adjustments immediately instead of letting it go on long past its shelf life.
kendahke Posted March 14, 2016 Posted March 14, 2016 Yeah no idea why you think this would affect the way another woman woukd behave?? Anyway, you did the right thing ending it. The friends line she fed you was just a way to break up I think. She does sound a little weird, what with the "I have things to tell you but I can't as we are friends" what's that about?! game playing
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