lilmoma1973 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Hey all what do all you guys consider to be being closedminded?
Sal Paradise Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by lilmoma1973 Hey all what do all you guys consider to be being closedminded? the extreme religious right in america is a perfect example of close minded
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 can you elaborate a little more on that one sal
Craig Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Close-minded: Not tolerant of the beliefs or opinions of others. Narrow-minded. Rogets Thesaurus
Sal Paradise Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by Craig Close-minded: Not tolerant of the beliefs or opinions of others. Narrow-minded. Rogets Thesaurus QFE
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 thanks for the replys just wondering ..
sarah12 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by Sal Paradise QFE I thought it was QEF - quod erat faciendum.
tanbark813 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Extremists on either end of the spectrum tend to be exceptionally close-minded. Religious nuts on the right or bleeding heart hippies on the left both seem to have an inability to weigh the pros of the opposing side. I prefer the company of those in the middle of the road. They tend to be more intellectual and, of course, balanced.
laRubiaBonita Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 closeminded is Just not being Open to new or different things, ideas, people. like people that say they will only date red-heads are being closeminded about all others.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 'Closeminded' in a lot of cases is what people call you when you refuse to see things their way.
millefiori Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by sarah12 I thought it was QEF - quod erat faciendum. ? I thought it was QED - quod erat demonstrandum. Closeminded is someone who lives in his little world and is happy with it. Who doesn't see the need for improvement - spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, etc. Who is incapable of relating to another person's point of view and does not even try to change a thing about this. It's a mental inflexibility.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 thanks for my replys that every has posted .. the reason i asked the question is my h is in a band and has gigs where there are people that have piercings and tattoos .. i don't particually care for those sorts of things but that is my opinion and my h says that i am closed minded .. how does that make me closed minded for having a opinion!!
laRubiaBonita Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 that is not closeminded.....that is just having an opinion. closeminded may be not wanting to meet these people because of some seem weird.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 thaks for your reply Laruba, no im not scared to meet and except these people just don't think i think that is appropriate to do to my body.. to each owns what they want to do..
sarah12 Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by millefiori ? I thought it was QED - quod erat demonstrandum. They're both pretty much the same. QED is "which is now demonstrated" and QEF is "which was to be shown." Not those exact words but something along those lines... Who is incapable of relating to another person's point of view and does not even try to change a thing about this. It's a mental inflexibility. Agreed.. He thinks you are being closed minded because you are unwilling to get to know these people before you judge them. He sees them as people who are there to make music, regardless of what they have on their skin. You associated their music with the tattoos and piercings and automatically write them off because of that. They aren't forcing you to get a tattoo or a piercing, to each his own in that respect. They didn't force your husband to, yet he is still able to get along with them just fine. Anyways, if you said you are not afraid to meet and accept them, then what is the problem?
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 thanks for your reply sarah .. never said i was afraid to except them just don't think thats appropiate for me thats all .. to each's own what they want to do with their body can't i have a opinion !!
HoneyWheat Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by sarah12 They're both pretty much the same. QED is "which is now demonstrated" and QEF is "which was to be shown." Not those exact words but something along those lines... Agreed.. He thinks you are being closed minded because you are unwilling to get to know these people before you judge them. He sees them as people who are there to make music, regardless of what they have on their skin. You associated their music with the tattoos and piercings and automatically write them off because of that. They aren't forcing you to get a tattoo or a piercing, to each his own in that respect. They didn't force your husband to, yet he is still able to get along with them just fine. Anyways, if you said you are not afraid to meet and accept them, then what is the problem? her husband's attitude is the problem.
GrooveMe Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 You're entitled to an opinon just as others are. I agree with sarah said, he sees it as accepting people there for music no matter what they look like. You see it as not liking the tattoos and piercings etc, thats fine. Have you ever got to know any of these people on a personal level? I think if your husband has a hobby or whatever and he enjoys it, thats good. Some people are so busy with work etc they rarely have time for outside activites. Do you have a hobby? have you shown any interest in anything your husband does? Maybe he feels you're "closeminded" because you put down these people when you don't even know them. Does he feel you are 'closeminded" with just him being in a band or is it other things as well?
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 thanks for your reply honeywheat.. your right he is a a**h*** and thinks about himself.. he had the nerve to tell me i was jealous cause he has a life and i don't ... wtf ever i have a life raising my daughter!! he never had a childhood he got a girl preggo when he was 17 .. and i guess he is wanting to make up for loss time.. he is an agry individual .. i think it is because he messed his life up at a young age and wants to blame everyone for his mistakes .. no ones fault but his ...
sarah12 Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by HoneyWheat her husband's attitude is the problem. Oh I did not realize. I apologize. lilmoma1973 -- angry people need help, and hopefully he knows this. Angry people that I've met know that they are angry, and angry all the time but don't know what to do about it. The first step is acceptance, then get him into some kind of counselling?
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 thanks again sarah for the reply.. he has been in couseling and anger management .. he says it isn't him its me .. we went to counseling this yr and he tells me he don't need anymore .. i would like to continue to go to counseling but he sees for him there is no need.. i think we need it .. we don't know how to communicate with each other and when we went it helped us.. now im not so sure that anything will help us now if he isn't willing .. almost like he is putting all the blame of our problems on me and he isn't to blame for nothing.. i can work on myself but he has to work on himself...
westernxer Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Refusing to expand your horizons or listen to other perspectives.
Opium Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 This is hard to really define because everyone has their own opinions but let's try. I believe a person who is close-minded has no clue about life. They see things one way and never grow or think they could ever make mistakes. They feel the world should revolve around them and that their points of views are always right. Close-minded people dont' learn or take in advice. They don't realize what's bad or good for them because all their worried about is themselves. They tend to miss out on the world because they are, well, close-minded. They think they know it all and everyone else can just go shyt themselves. In a nut shell, from the first things that pop into my head, That's my definition.
sarah12 Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by lilmoma1973 we don't know how to communicate with each other and when we went it helped us.. now im not so sure that anything will help us now if he isn't willing i can work on myself but he has to work on himself... I was going to mention the communication thing as well. Obviously the anger management/counselling hasn't worked for him, so you'll need to work with him outside of the counselling sessions. He knows that it's his problem, it's just easier for him to blame it on someone else, and as long as you stand there and let him blame you, the more he will keep believing it. You need to get through to him that some of the problems is him, without attacking him about it. Be calm and patient, as hard as it is, and always let him know that you'll be there through all this for him, but show him that you deserve his respect as his wife. I know it's hard, but hang in there and don't give up.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted June 15, 2005 Author Posted June 15, 2005 thanks for all your replies.. opium you hit the nail right on the head .. that sounds like my h not me .. he is never wrong and it always someone elses fault...he is the one closedminded.. he is the selfish one and it is all about him and yet he tells me i am closedminded!!
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