Lee22 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Hi Everyone, This is my first post so please be nice! A few weeks ago, me and my wife had an argument whilst out on the town. She decided to leave me that evening and move back in with her Mother. A little over 3 weeks later she came back. I took her away on a short break, bought her lots of little gifts and really made an effort to show how much I Love her. Just under 2 weeks ago, I was at work and called her up at lunchtime. She was out with her Mum and a friend and she seemed very distant (as she had been for the previous week). We had a slight disagreement but nothing major. I made an offhand comment, something like, oh, you don't care and said see you later. The long and short of it was that, that was the final straw for her, she moved back in with her Mum and has made it quite clear she is not coming back. For the first 5 days, she wouldn't take my calls and even blocked me from social media! But since then I have tried everything to get through to her and win her back. She will talk about financial matters but whenever I bring 'us' up, she will become angry and refuses to discuss it. I didn't contact her from last Thursday to Sunday in the hope she would have calmed down and would like to discuss us, but when I spoke with her yesterday, she wasn't prepared to discuss our relationship at all only saying that our marriage was 'dead', and it wasn't just my fault! I always wanted to talk about any problems we had but she never wanted to do that. She has been through a lot recently, her brother died a little under 4 months ago and her Mother's health is not great. I have been there for her during this time and we had her Mum living with us for 3 months which I will admit did put a strain on us but I was brought up to believe that families pull together in tough times. I am devastated as we have only been married 3 1/2 years, (together 6) and I truly do Love her. I feel as if she has given up on our marriage. Each time I call, it is making the wound deeper but what can I do? Go 'No Contact' in an effort to heal myself, but when I try to do that, I find I miss her so much and I criticize myself for not making the effort to save our marriage, What should I do?
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 This is a marriage you need to fight for it. Off handed comments do not help. The vacation & the gifts so not address the root of the problem She is most likely grieving & you are not letting her express that. You two need marriage counseling. Call her or go to her mom's & suggest that you two work together to address what's wrong.
Author Lee22 Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 Believe me, I've tried. I've suggested counselling but there is no way of getting through. She has also told me not to go to her mums.
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