Mjm1014 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Not sure how to really deal with this..I've been involved with a girl now close to 2 months, and for the first month she was really engaged, constantly called, texted me, and flirted with me. For the past 2-3 weeks somethings seemed off. If I try to flirt with her, she won't flirt back and overall the conversations seem dry. She hasn't said one thing in two weeks to make me think she's even remotely interested. What really bugs me is the fact that it's obvious she isn't interested, so I back off, and within a few hours of not hearing from me she is texting and calling me asking why I'm not talking to her. Then I go back trying to engage in conversation and she becomes all distant. I've asked her about this behavior multiple times and makes me out to be the bad guy and says "I'm in my own head"... I was suppose to fly back this weekend to see her, but since she hasn't seemed interested I'm thinking about just staying back..should I give her an ultimatum? I just want to be able to move on if she isn't interested
smackie9 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 LDR's can be difficult. She probably isn't engaging as much because being apart is depressing and too much work to keep the spark going. I bet things would be very different if you didn't have to "fly in" to see her. IMO it's only going to get worse from here unless someone relocates. And I doubt that's going to happen any time soon, so you are better off making the decision to stop seeing her and try dating someone locally. Giving someone an ultimatum when you only been dating for a couple of months is futile.
Larryville Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 I just think she was interested, but not that interested. Some women can be overwhelmed by the attention they get on OLD sites or in life. She may have liked you a bit at first but then realized that when it comes down to it, she has to prioritize the guys also giving her attention. This site should have automatic disclaimers and for you here: “don’t overly invest too much of your time on one person.” When a person gives a damn you never have to wonder. Also… don’t understand why people won’t do this… ask how long does their typical relationship last. If you get with someone and they convey that their typical relationships last (X) number of months you can bank on issues happening in that time frame. Also why you should be wary of “serial daters” where dating to them is nothing more than a “hobby” rather than actually trying to be an active participant in a relationship. Bottom live move on... 1
Gaeta Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 What's best. A) a woman saying she is interested but not acting interested B) a woman not saying much but acts like she is interested Which one will make you happy? Talk is cheap. Go with what makes you happy. Go seek a nice girl that acts interested. 2
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