Michael 93 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 For those that remember, I was a bit of a fixture on this site a couple of years ago, after going through what I thought was a terrible part of my life. Its been a while, and for those of you who are currently battling with something that they feel is destroying them, know that the only way is up. If you look through my story you will see that no matter what people would advise I would regularly go against it, advice from some of the kindest, knowledgeable folk (what's up Chi?) would register and I would constantly do the opposite. So know that you are not on your own! I always promised that I would come back one day and show people that in time it will all get better and well here I am...Apologies for the absence but I've had some living to do. The main thing I can say is strive to be the best you as possible, following on from a hard break up it is easy to lose yourself and forget who you really are. A wise man once told me "you can never lose on an investment in yourself" You need to keep yourself motivated and give yourself something to constantly look forward to and aim for, a goal, something to really get your teeth into. Build a foundation, a platform. Go to the gym, travel, weekends away with your friends, take up a sport, Follow a sport (preferably Walsall FC ) and work hard in your job. By becoming a better you, everything will become much more positive and your confidence will ooze out of you, people feed off of confidence, its what draws people together, its as if humans have a sensor for positive energy. So if you are reading this from the depths and darkness of your bedroom, get up and go and do something, right now!.. Ladies, pop for a casual drink with a friend, go buy a nice outfit for a night out this weekend maybe? Men go and shoot a game of pool with the boys, get down local football ground and watch a game, have a beer? Whilst your doing so, discuss your next adventure, if not now, then when? Life is too damn short. Me personally, I'm not in a RS currently, But to be quite honest I don't really want one. I figure that Hey I'm 22, Now is the time to be working on building a foundation for myself before I even entertain the idea of building something with somebody else. Over the past 2 years that thought has led me to live life and experience everything I possibly can, to enable me to be as cultured and experienced as possible. My break up has led me to encounter numerous life experiences and accomplishments, some that I maybe would never had achieved had it not been for it. Some may call that a 'blessing in disguise'. My past relationship was a distant memory when swimming in the blue caves in Zakynthos, and drinking red wine along the grand canal in Venice, saying a prayer in the Sagrada Familia in Barcelona and roaming around Parc Guell, completing a half marathon for a charity close to my heart was also a particular highlight and these are all things that would not have been possible without some of the words of wisdom and advice I gained over my mourning period. All of these things will enable me to become much more compatible with somebody in the future and also lead me to become a better man who is more knowledgeable. Please trust me when I say if you can handle this, you can handle anything, and I strongly believe that. You become harder and stronger and all of these life lessons follow you and help you in the future. See it as an opportunity to develop and mould yourself into the person you wish to become, Life is for living, not for unhappiness and pain. No matter how happy you may have been or what memories may have been made, there is always enough time to make more, and by investing in yourself they are sure to be much better, this is a blessing and you might not see it yet but look back on it in 3/4 years time and you will see what I am saying. That I promise you. To all of you on LS that helped me when I needed it, I am forever in your debt and you have no idea how greatful I am for your support (you know who you are) . You are all wonderful wonderful individuals. Chi, I know I said I would do this a lot sooner but my friend, life has taken the front seat for a minute! Rome is next on the cards Apr 28th looking forward to that one! For those who are still battling. Get up. Make something of yourself. And show them exactly who you wish to become, you can do it. thanks Michael 93 7
Mikeyfreedom Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Michael 93 Do you know what - that's awesome to read - we haven't spoke before, but like you I came on this forum in my darkest hour. My life has totally changed from an experience which came very close to destroying me. I make no bones about it. I had serious life issues also to deal with at the same time, alcohol addiction and various other things, coupled with deep depression. I was at my lowest point of my life, but I addressed it all, and I did it on my own, after that and I started to see the light a bit, I just went on a on. As you said above, it has to be about YOU. as hard as the other stuff is, make it about yourself, then you will find all the other stuff starts to drop into the right places around you. Best advice I can share. And thank you to all that listened to me on here and offered advice. It was needed. 1
blackbird_brokenwing Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 This is really good to hear. Thank you so much for sharing. It seems cliche, but it does help to hear from someone who was in such a dark place a few years ago. It's only been about 6 weeks for me since the break up, but I can already see a little progress. I'm definitely not "okay" or happy with where I am, but I see the light, even if it's in the distance. I'm not violently crying every day for hours on end. I'm not having anxiety dreams and nightmares like I was the first month. It's slowly getting better. I have definitely had my suicidal moments as well, not just because I lost her, but because I feel like everything is doomed. That there is no more happiness for me in this life. But I haven't felt that way in a couple of weeks. I feel a little more hopeful. I have a clean slate, no friends, no relationship. Just me and the world. Here goes. Thanks again for sharing, I hope I can feel as good as you down the road. 1
Chi townD Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 My past relationship was a distant memory when swimming in the blue caves in Zakynthos, and drinking red wine along the grand canal in Venice, saying a prayer in the Sagrada Familia in Barcelona and roaming around Parc Guell, completing a half marathon for a charity close to my heart was also a particular highlight and these are all things that would not have been possible without some of the words of wisdom and advice I gained over my mourning period. All of these things will enable me to become much more compatible with somebody in the future and also lead me to become a better man who is more knowledgeable. HAHA!!! What's up, dude!!!!! Damn good hearing from you!!! You know, there was a bunch of times I wanted to bash my head against the wall with some of the stuff that you did! But, I don't know what happened, you woke up and gave what people were telling you a try. Now, look at you! When you went to Venice, I was so proud of you! And when you came back and wrote about it, you're writing came alive describing what you did while you were away! Not, the doom and gloom that you were writing before! Now look at you! Swimming in Caves and traveling to Spain! Now, you're going back to Italy! (those girls must have made a huge impact on you! ) When you look back at those memories, I speculate that they must feel good! When you think back at crossing the finish line at that half marathon, you're always going to have that! You and the boys going away to catch a football match, you're always going to remember that and probably look back on it fondly. You finally get it. Life can be one big adventure if you want it to be. To live a full and adventurous life! Places to go, people to meet and things to see. This was a very motivating thread for you to start. I think a lot of people need to read this. It's not often enough we have success come back and give us an update. But, don't be a stranger! I think people need to feed off of your motivation and (like you said) your confidence. So, give advice through your experiences. Let people know that they can have this too! Good to hear from you, Bro!
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