ludba Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 First off, this is my first time posting, and I want to thank you for reading this in the first place Some background: My ex and I had dated last year, for about two months, and the relationship we had before that, we were really good friends for like 3 months. We also had some sexual relations, but oral was as far as it went. She broke up with me, saying she didn't have feelings, and I was too clingy, and I was devastated the whole summer. I eventually got over her, and seeing her talking with other guys or seeing her around didn't affect me too much. Eventually we started talking again, but just as friends, and that's where it starts. So when we started talking, everything was wonderful, we were friends again, neither of us had feelings, and we could joke about our relationship without any awkward feelings. Eventually we started getting sexual in our conversations, but that was just for fun. One day she suggested being FWB's to which I declined. She caught me at a weak moment one day though, and she suggested making out, and we did. Mistake. From there, a few days later she started getting really flirty and asked to be my girlfriend again. I told her that we wouldn't work out because we had completely different personalities. She flirted with a lot of guys, and so I wasn't ok with that, and I'm also a "cleaner" person than she is (don't smoke, drink, hookup with people, etc.). I still had feelings for her, and so I guess we were a "thing" again, and it was alright. I didn't feel my heart skip a beat when I saw her like it used to, but being around her made me happy. She started to get really jealous because of my friends that were girls and told all of them to hop off of me and she told me to stop talking to them. I did as she asked, but I still told her that some of them were my best friends and so I'm still going to talk to them. All this time, she kept on talking to guys like she used to, but she said she was "loyal". A few weeks later she texted me that we should just be friends because she got bored, and that she didn't even have a crush on me, just liked being around me. I told her I hadn't wanted a relationship in the first place and I was ok with that. She still flirted with me after that, and it drove me insane. One day I found out about her history after we broke up for the first time (this is about a week later after her suggesting to be friends.). Apparently she had hooked up with multiple guys at parties, some of which were my friends. This obviously hurt me, and when I confronted her alone she denied all of it and called me an ******* for thinking she would do that. When I confronted her with my friend (he's also her best friend), she accepted all of it and said that it was just mistakes and that I shouldn't pay attention to it. I was hurt by the fact that she had not told me, and so I told her I couldn't do anything with her because I just don't trust her (she had lied to me last year, and multiple times this year too.). She said she didn't want me but still wanted to be friends, but she texted me again saying I "ran away" because I knew I was wrong, and so I just blocked her everywhere. Now I don't want her back again, but I still have feelings, even though they aren't nowhere near as strong as they were last year. She still flirts with the guy who I always suspected would use her for sexual desires, but she says he's like her "brother", but I can't trust anything she says. How can I deal with her flirting with guys around me, and I just really want to move on from her in my life because no one really likes her because of her backbiting, slandering, deceitful, manipulative, and rude personality, but I still want to be friends with her for some reason. Like I'm happy around her. I'm just a mess right now, sorry haha. What should I do? Sorry for the extremely long post, and again thanks!
Toodaloo Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 She is just an attention seeker. Stop spending time with her. Move back into the circles you were in before that she didn't like and you did and get on with life.
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