greenman77 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I don't really have an issue engaging in conversation with women in a friendly way (though I am very shy) but I do however struggle to move something from being friendly to being flirty/romantic. I'm going on a date with a girl on Saturday. We are gonna go bowling and I need some tips to try and be less friendly and be more flirty/romantic. If you guys can help me with some I would really appreciate it. One of the ideas I had is to make a bet with her. Every time I do a strike, she has to give me kiss on the cheek? Or something like that. Is that a good idea?
Jabron1 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 There is a big difference between being social and being sexual. Flirting is about keeping things playful and fun. It's about teasing and challenging her. Remember when we'd play kiss-chase in the school playground as kids? It's no different than that. Just have a boyish cheekiness about you, and you'll be surprised at what you can get away with Example: if she hits a strike, you can say 'that's really good... for a girl'. But you've got to have a cheeky vibe about you as you do it, or you'll just get a slap
yxalitis Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 OK, first time she gets a good result (spare strike, not rolling a gutter ball), give her a high five, but allow your fingers to close into her hand..if she reciprocates, that's a good sing, if she pulls her hand away, that's not. Second time, try a quick hug... Third time grab a boob...(no, I'm kidding!), try a longer hug... You'll be letting her know you are interested, at the same time you will find out if she is too. 1
Jabron1 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 (edited) OK, first time she gets a good result (spare strike, not rolling a gutter ball), give her a high five, but allow your fingers to close into her hand..if she reciprocates, that's a good sing, if she pulls her hand away, that's not. Second time, try a quick hug... Third time grab a boob...(no, I'm kidding!), try a longer hug... You'll be letting her know you are interested, at the same time you will find out if she is too. This is a good point too. You have to be verbal and physical. When I approach a girl to chat her up, I like to shake hands. The high five is a really good one, it's low risk, and I like to use that too. Also, I like to kiss my date on the cheek when I meet her at the beginning. You can 'escort' her and use this as an excuse for contact too. You are basically getting her used to your contact, and building up for the kiss. Edit: A warning: if she goes stiff when you touch her, it means you pushed too much too soon, and need to take a step back. Don't feel rejected though, or let it show that it's got to you. Just shrug it off, and try again later. Edited March 10, 2016 by Jabron1
Author greenman77 Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 Thanks for the tips! What about my idea of making a bet with her about kissing me on the cheek if I get a strike? No good?
Jabron1 Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 What about my idea of making a bet with her about kissing me on the cheek if I get a strike? No good? My gut is telling me don't do it, for some reason. But, I can't articulate why. Just kiss her on the cheek instead when you pick her up
Author greenman77 Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 My gut is telling me don't do it, for some reason. But, I can't articulate why. Just kiss her on the cheek instead when you pick her up Yeah it might be a little cheesy. I won't do it. In our culture, kissing on the cheek when meeting is like the norm so no worries there.
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