smile95 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 If the guy you date was separated for months before you met and is in the process of a divorce, are you still an OW???
izzybelle Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 i've been wondering the same thing! and my answer is no. the guy i'm seeing is currently waiting for his divorce papers to arrive, so technically yes, he's still married. but as far as i'm concerned, his W moved out months ago and is actively dating and introducing him to her bfs so i don't consider myself an OW (this time)!
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Well, if divorce proceedings have already started and its just a matter of signing the papers - then I don't see the problem in that. I guess until the divorce papers are signed and notarized technically you are an OW. In that situation though, I don't think you'd carry the same stigma attached to it since you literally came in at the end of the marriage. I think I'd still be wary though, until I saw the D papers, knew for sure it was going through, and the H and W were living in separate residences. That's just me though.
Author smile95 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 oh good....question...how can she date? Mine was instructed not to until custody and div was final. Or else she could get him for adultery? Maybe it is diff in each state? Or maybe that was a bunch of BS?
Author smile95 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 they have not lived together since 2002. I saw sep papers and he has gone to court, but it has been 3 FR&^%% yrs! He says they cannot agree on ANYTHING. Does not really matter now. He is my ex. But I was curiuos
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 oh good....question...how can she date? Mine was instructed not to until custody and div was final. Or else she could get him for adultery? Maybe it is diff in each state? Or maybe that was a bunch of BS? Here is some legal advice that I found for that same question in my state: Now, yes, you can date, but you cannot have sex with another person until you are divorced, as that is adultery and a crime in North Carolina, regardless of what your separation agreement says. You cannot waive your responsibilities for crimes in your separation agreement, as the District Attorney is not a party to your separation agreement and can still file charges against you for adultery. Also, if you begin to date someone shortly after the date of separation, evidence of this relationship may be able to relate back to prior to the date of separation, and you may then have fault for alimony purposes. The general rule is that it is better to wait to date! "Wait to date" - best of luck.
izzybelle Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 it's always a touchy situation. i don't know in my case whether they are legally separated and whether that makes a diff or not. since she cheated, he may have already filed for infidelity in which case, i suppose it doesn't much matter. he's also a sweet man and wouldn't do that to her. i don't know if she knows he's dating or not. we just started seeing each other about a month ago so ... i doubt she knows. my ex was dating before i moved out and when i pointed out to him that i could, if i wanted to be a real pain, sue him for infidelity, he got pretty angry. while i never would have done it ... the look on his face was priceless!
Author smile95 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 well -yes that is what he told me too. I guess it WAS true. Well he gets a gold star for telling the truth one time!
Author smile95 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 ya I used to dream about calling the wife when we would fight and just see if he was an arse to her too. But I could never hurt him that much. But, that power we hold is priceless! Eventho most of us would never ever do anything like that.
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 If the guy you date was separated for months before you met and is in the process of a divorce, are you still an OW??? To his ex, maybe, and all of her friends.
Pocky Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Am I the only one that thinks adultery as a crime is like being taken to jail because you didn't have sex in the missionary position?
izzybelle Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Am I the only one that thinks adultery as a crime is like being taken to jail because you didn't have sex in the missionary position? oh for pete's sake!
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky Am I the only one that thinks adultery as a crime is like being taken to jail because you didn't have sex in the missionary position? Perhaps if you lived in Saudi Arabia.
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