Women who hide their beauty because they feel bad being so beautiful?

[Lorenza]

I have to also add....

 

Most women love their attractive traits. The beautiful women I know relish their good looks andactually play their amazing looks UP.....I personally love being slim and curvy and 30. I wanna live life to the fullest and celebrate my body whilst I still have this body type. It could all end tomorrow.

 

Very few females are so good looking that they would need to play their looks DOWN. Usually, as in my examples, the women felt jealous of my body only and because they had crappy bfs who hit on me. I don't walk around and have negative or jealous reactions by lone females. Yes people tend to assume I am a bimbo because I am curvy and embrace a good lip balm and my boobs are unavoidable. But it isn't because of my looks per say.

 

Being attractive gives you more options in men and attractive women tend to have more people that like them because their good looks have more people who wantto include them and hence they become more affable wnd socially versed due to their good social life which is largely because good looking people gey handed more opportunities in life.

 

I am a realist. I am treated like I am attractive by society but I so know that I am a 7/10 WITH..... WITH great make up. And a 6/10 in my daily life. The fact I find myself attractive doesn't make me conceited. Just not humble either. I am glad that I have self love surrounding my looks.

 

I actually find it disgusting when women ENJOY other women's BOYFRIENDs, hitting on them......I love men to fancy me and pay me nice but appropriate compliments. Single men. Or else Icannot help but feel their gfs pain.

 

Humbleness and self-love are not on the opposite sides of the scale. Being humble means realizing that you are in no way better than others who didn't win the genetic lottery. Also, understanding your privilege and being thankful for it, rather than arrogant and flashing it around. That is what being humble about my looks means to me.

[katiegrl]

Ppl in my podiatry degree assumed that I was a bimbo. Cos I am slim with large breasts and fuller lips and dress well. And CONSERVATIVELY.

 

Certain attributes come into play here. Look, it isn't cos I am oh so beautiful. It's the tits snd curves that I frankly shouldn't have to " hide " with baggy clothes.

 

And it gets psycho when women have their bfs hit on you and then destroy your property when the truth comes out. I hope this has never happened to you. Tbh I don't actually blame their bfs for wanting another woman; these women waste so much energy being nasty it's little wonder their bfs aren't in awe of them!

 

My own bf adores me all the more because of how kind I am to others.

 

Men appreciate feminine characteristics and traits such as warmth and being nurturing and kind to others and dressing feminine. They don't warm to catty behavior despite it being sucb a FEMALE thing!

 

I don't and never have associated with such negative people...to the point I am interacting with them and their boyfriends anyway....so fortunately I have not experienced this.

 

I do recall a few years ago looking at an apartment share ... and the woman I would have been sharing the apartment with did NOT like me from the getgo!

 

The look she gave me when she opened the door (eyeballing me head to toe, etc) was enough to tell me this was NOT gonna work out! Even though the place was beautiful and I would have loved living there.

 

She had photos of her and her boyfriend all over the place...

 

I was naïve back then and didn't get it till I got home and my stepmom explained that she most likely felt very threatened by me....so that was that.

 

I ended up getting my own place.

[losangelena]

That's exactly what it is.

 

I'll give an example of one these girls I worked with. Keep in mind that she was only one of eight

 

She was 28 years old and engaged. She was rather plain looking. She got the least attention from the men because of these two reasons. This really angered her.

 

So, she started upping her game. She started talking suggestively and sexually infront of the guys. That didn't work.

 

She then started using more make-up. That didn't work either.

 

Then, she started getting irate. She would make snappy comments like 'I am a girl you know!'.

 

Then, she started using her marriage as a weapon - a power play. Who would she invite from work? Naturally, the most beautiful girl there wasn't invited to the hen/batchelorette party

 

Until one day a new kid started an apprenticeship. He took an immediate liking to her, and she would lead him on. She was exploiting him for attention, and getting him to do the jobs that she didn't want.

 

She finally had an orbiter to call her own!

 

Women can deny it all they want. But male attention is the coin of the realm in girlworld. And, it is female competitiveness for that attention that drives most of this horrible behavior.

 

I had to chortle at this story, because I have never, in my life, scout's honor to Lord Vishnu, experienced this kind of scenario.

 

I'll take your word for it, Jabron, but these sound like girls, not women!

[serial muse]

I don't know, I think that Hopeful had a really good insight upthread when she realized that her mother had a cruel habit of putting her down, while she has a good and uplifting relationship with her father -- and this may have to do with her sensitivity to negative comments from women specifically.

 

I think that's very likely true.

 

I have said in this thread and others that I don't relate to this perception of women's interactions as largely negative and shaming of one another. I don't; it's not the world I move in. I also have a very close and supportive relationship with my mother.

 

That's not to say that people with combative relationships with one or another parent will always translate that to other people of the same gender. But it seems likely that it will at least help to seed the ground and create a certain kind of expectation.

[Leigh 87]

By the way.

 

I have also sufferied due to average women on Loveshack.

 

I identify with being attractive and a couple of people tried to knock me down a peg because they didn't believe that I was actually attractive. Even though I mentionedthat I was FAR from beautiful butwas considered attractive by most people.

 

Where as a secure and confident women in their looks would be like " maybe she photographs badly, doesn't mean she isn't really attractive "

 

Geberally very plain women act this way towards me. They are plain so they like to assume I am also universally plain. Prob to make themselves feel better because dead set plain women don't get the same level of men falling for then ss attractive cute ir beautiful women do.

[losangelena]

I have said in this thread and others that I don't relate to this perception of women's interactions as largely negative and shaming of one another. I don't; it's not the world I move in. I also have a very close and supportive relationship with my mother.

 

I'm the same way. If I sense cattiness or pettiness or women vying for the attention of men, I don't get involved. That's not the company I keep.

 

If I dislike someone, man or woman, it's because they have a crap personality or have treated me badly. Not because of how they look.

[katiegrl]

I'm the same way. If I sense cattiness or pettiness or women vying for the attention of men, I don't get involved. That's not the company I keep.

 

If I dislike someone, man or woman, it's because they have a crap personality or have treated me badly. Not because of how they look.

 

Wholeheartedly agree with that....which is what I was trying to say in my previous post - but LA articulated it much better.

[Jabron1]

I'll take your word for it, Jabron, but these sound like girls, not women!

 

Granted, It was an extreme scenario. 8 women all under the age of 30 working together in a stressful environment, under very little authoritative supervision.

 

But, deny it all you like: I've heard more than once on these forums 'but that was an isolated incident! Women aren't really like that! She was just insecure!'.

 

Those same things I saw in that job role underlay the core principles behind game. It was just interesting to see it all play out between women in a way I hadn't before.

[Aniela]

That's exactly what it is.

 

I'll give an example of one these girls I worked with. Keep in mind that she was only one of eight

 

She was 28 years old and engaged. She was rather plain looking. She got the least attention from the men because of these two reasons. This really angered her.

 

So, she started upping her game. She started talking suggestively and sexually infront of the guys. That didn't work.

 

She then started using more make-up. That didn't work either.

 

Then, she started getting irate. She would make snappy comments like 'I am a girl you know!'.

 

Then, she started using her marriage as a weapon - a power play. Who would she invite from work? Naturally, the most beautiful girl there wasn't invited to the hen/batchelorette party

 

Until one day a new kid started an apprenticeship. He took an immediate liking to her, and she would lead him on. She was exploiting him for attention, and getting him to do the jobs that she didn't want.

 

She finally had an orbiter to call her own!

 

Women can deny it all they want. But male attention is the coin of the realm in girlworld. And, it is female competitiveness for that attention that drives most of this horrible behavior.

 

Sorry, but this attitude is awful (your assumption about women competing, and these women, whoever they are). Who are these people?

 

I *will* deny it. Male attention isn't the be-all and end-all of life. It would be nice to be in a happy relationship, but if it came down to just having any male attention, a lot of us already have that. And it isn't always flattering.

[serial muse]

Granted, It was an extreme scenario. 8 women all under the age of 30 working together in a stressful environment, under very little authoritative supervision.

 

But, deny it all you like: I've heard more than once on these forums 'but that was an isolated incident! Women aren't really like that! She was just insecure!'.

 

Those same things I saw in that job role underlay the core principles behind game. It was just interesting to see it all play out between women in a way I hadn't before.

 

I'm not going to deny that you had this experience, but it's also important that you not deny mine. You know? I'm a woman with a lot of female friends, and this sort of thing is foreign to me. That matters too, and it's just as important to this thread. Let's not dismiss the experiences of others in the name of one-upsmanship.

[losangelena]

Well, women don't share a hive mind. We're individuals with individual experiences. It's not necessarily "denial."

[katiegrl]

Granted, It was an extreme scenario. 8 women all under the age of 30 working together in a stressful environment, under very little authoritative supervision.

 

But, deny it all you like: I've heard more than once on these forums 'but that was an isolated incident! Women aren't really like that! She was just insecure!'.

 

Those same things I saw in that job role underlay the core principles behind game. It was just interesting to see it all play out between women in a way I hadn't before.

 

Where do you live? I wonder if demographics plays a part in this. And the class of people living in that demographic.

 

Where I was raised, this type of cattiness and bytchyness never happened, not from what I experienced.

 

Where I live now in southern California...same thing.

 

Not to sound snobbish but the behavior you describe sounds like it's coming from some very low class women....

 

I was raised in upper middle class which is where I live now too.... and I was raised to be humble and to accept everyone, no matter what they look like, what color they are, what religion, etc etc etc.

 

I dunno... just a thought.

 

That type of behavior boggles my mind quite frankly...I just don't identify with it one iota!

[Jabron1]

I'm not going to deny that you had this experience, but it's also important that you not deny mine. You know? I'm a woman with a lot of female friends, and this sort of thing is foreign to me. That matters too, and it's just as important to this thread. Let's not dismiss the experiences of others in the name of one-upsmanship.

 

That's fair enough. And it's worth pointing out that those women were not friends.

 

I was just shocked at how ruthless women could be with each other.

 

That's what I had never seen before.

[katiegrl]

That's fair enough. And it's worth pointing out that those women were not friends.

 

I was just shocked at how ruthless women could be with each other.

 

That's what I had never seen before.

 

Perhaps they should all be on Jerry Springer! lol

[losangelena]

That's fair enough. And it's worth pointing out that those women were not friends.

 

I was just shocked at how ruthless women could be with each other.

 

That's what I had never seen before.

 

Yes, this absolutely does happen. Which is why, when I get a whiff of it, I back away slowly.

[Summer3]

I totally agree with this. Upthread someone said caustically that women are now going to post their experiences about being attractive to prove that they are. But the comments -- not necessarily the OP, but the ensuing discussion -- is asking for that, and it's not OK to shut people down who haven't had the same experiences as less attractive. How is that not bullying?

 

I said it but as a joke. A lighthearted one.

 

I've been cyber bullied for posting pictures that are "too sexy" and was called "skank" and other lovely names along those lines so I like it when a girl posts a thread like this.

[Robert]

This thread has run it's course, as the only female moderator here, beauty is also only skin deep. True beauty is much deeper than that. Feel free to start a thread in rants about catty people, but this topic does not belong on the dating forum.

 

Thank you,

 

~ V