xxjustinukxx Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Hi everyone! After knowing this fantastic woman for a few years as a friend (though only as a casual friend - her son went to the same school as mine, so we'd say hi and chit chat occasionally), I saw her on a dating website and arranged to go out for coffee. Feel free to check out my previous post which will give you more detail Called "dating or are we just friends" - (for some reason the site wont let me paste the link into this thread) Ill try again... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/572688-we-dating-just-friends My question is, should I resist the urge to text several times a day to keep the rapport going etc? Since in previous circumstances ive got along with someone so well we text quite a lot until we meet again. That ended up failing for other reasons, but im so keen to not screw up! As we know each other already, should I disregard the "little or no texts other than to arrange the next date" mentality? Or do you think I should stick to it? I dont want her to think im not interested, but on the other hand, I don't want her to feel like im needy clingy or desperate! Any advice? Thank you so much.
Toodaloo Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Too many texts kills it fast. A good morning and a good night is great. Even better is a phone call. Just saying. Text can very easily kill off relationships. Text should be reserved for information exchange. IE can you pick up milk on your way home, running late will be there in 5 minutes... Unless you know the person texts should be kept to a minimum. Where they can work well is when you can send a cute one. Saw this awesome thing and it made me think of you. 1
smudge21 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I agree with Toodaloo that texting should be short. I've screwed up many times with the over texting and now just try to follow or do one less than they always do, but I also try to aim for phone calls (sadly in this day and age, that's like so last century for many). The fact you both already know each other quite well shouldn't mean you need to worry about this. Nor should you have to play any of those "well I won't text back as that will keep her guessing" rubbish. Keep the texts short and phone her instead. Remember though that everyone is different, so follow her lead in some ways. No selfies either!
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Yes, you should absolutely resist the urge to text multiple times per day. It's annoying to anybody who has a job & a life. 1 good morning or HAND is fine if you must text daily. Instead make dates during the week & call in between at a time when you know she has 15 minutes to chat & hear your voice.
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