Empt Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 (edited) I'm 20, she is 18. We had been seeing each other for around six months. And the ending started the Thursday before Valentine's Day. We hung out and talked for a few minutes. She was supposed to talk to me about "something" but apparently chickened out. We text some the next few days, until she completely blew me off on Valentine's Day. Finally got to talk to her the next day, says she went on a trip to Michigan with her mom. And I basically ask if she still wants to be with me. She didn't give a real answer. So I sent her probably 3 texts a day, until Wednesday. Then on Thursday, I lost my temper and sent several mean messages. I did similar things on Friday as well. So she finally calls me Sunday, starting off with a rehearsed break up. So I didn't pay attention, or if there even was real closure there. But she said she would get me my jackets by the end of the week. I would send a text or two, every other day, just to ask and try to get them. She responded the first time, so I asked how does she know she wants this if she can't do it in person? So she said she didn't, which gave me hope, but oh well. She doesn't respond much after that, aside from "how are you"? But did not get me my jackets by the end of the week. So I'm still being civil and calm about it, but eventually decide to just show up at her house. Last Thursday, when I got over there, she was talking about irrelevant stuff, she seemed unaffected. But she only had 1 of the jackets there. I also asked her if this is what she wanted, and she said "I don't know what I want". So I just kinda left, probably shouldn't have. We talked Friday, but then went back to being cut off again. Also found a pic of a guy sleeping as her snapchat story at 8m. Edited March 10, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I'm sorry, I'm not sure I get the point of your post. What exactly are you concerned about?
Author Empt Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 I just don't get. So, mainly theories on why she'd go about this in such manner. And why she won't just give them back
elaine567 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Sending "mean texts" two days in a row, didn't help your case any, she maybe cut up your missing jackets or dumped them in the river...
Toodaloo Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Empt. Give up and move on. She obviously has. Go shopping and get a new jacket.
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Then why not just tell me? she had one jacket. Presumably you took that one. What did she say she had done with the other one?
SammySammy Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Sending "mean texts" two days in a row, didn't help your case any, she maybe cut up your missing jackets or dumped them in the river... No joke. It's a fatal flaw for many young men. Until we learn how to handle conflict in a positive manner. Getting angry and lashing out is probably the "natural" thing for a young man to do, but in my experience it's always the death knell for a relationship. So destructive and unproductive. Gotta learn how to handle situations like that better. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 How valuable are the jackets & can you prove they are yours? If you can't, you may have to suffer their loss. Last ditch effort: tell her you will come by on Monday at a specific time & could she please have the jackets in a bag or box outside her place so you can pick them up.
Author Empt Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 I'll think I'll just go now. But thank you all for your help
Author Empt Posted March 10, 2016 Author Posted March 10, 2016 No joke. It's a fatal flaw for many young men. Until we learn how to handle conflict in a positive manner. Getting angry and lashing out is probably the "natural" thing for a young man to do, but in my experience it's always the death knell for a relationship. So destructive and unproductive. Gotta learn how to handle situations like that better. I haven't said I handled this perfectly by any means. But consistent times of "hey do you want to meet later?" Then just completely ignoring me again, sends to send a chill of rage into me
CarrieT Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Learn the mantra, "It is just stuff." You can get more jackets. You will have a lot more jackets in your lifetime. Trying to get these jackets back is not worth the trauma and upset it is causing. Let them go....
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