risjurad Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 I take a look around these forums, and I see few if any people happy about dating. There's nothing but frustration, disappointment and uncertainty for both sexes, including my own recent story. I've reached the point where I'm thinking, why bother, dating is just not worth it. What makes people continue to play the dating game when there's just so much misery in it? What about in real life? Part of my "misery" isn't how many of the IRL people I know did date, get married, and now have kid(s) (I am happy for them), but how there's a decent chance I'll never date, let alone get married, etc. I'd go crazy if I dwell on this for too long, so I've done the following: 1) Whenever I go out of town, I need to hit on a minimum of 2 girls, which includes either getting her number, or doing a mini-date on the spot. It may fail, but at least I can take comfort in knowing I'm doing my due diligence 2) accept it sort of for what it is. I'm likely to be single for the rest of my life. Sort of like how a soldier goes into battle with presumption that he'll get killed, or how you should go into a job interview assuming you won't get the job (even though you really do need it ) One online article mentioned if you've dated either 8 or 12 people (can't recall "the magic number" mentioned) then it seems like it comes back to you, as that should be a sufficient pool to find compatibility.
Tomogaso Posted March 10, 2016 Posted March 10, 2016 Selection bias. If you're happy you aren't gonna decide to go write on a forum about it. I found this place after wanting to discuss something troubling me. I imagine 90% of people found it that way. The relationships you see here aren't representative of the average one, rather of the average problematic one. Which isn't bad, people come here to help each other and it's a healthy thing. But you're wrong if you think that most relationships are troubled just because it's what you see here. 1
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