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Guys who have never had a woman approach them or have a crush on them

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katiegrl Established Member

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It does happen to me;)

 

My first feeling is, i feel flattered.

 

What's your second feeling? :p

 

Not directed at you Haydn .... but a few guys I know (with low self-esteem) think when a woman approaches first, tells him she likes him etc, something must be wrong with her.

 

In their minds, good women don't do these things, especially to guys like him.

 

They are too busy being pursued to be concerned with approaching guys themselves.

 

So when a woman does, something must be wrong with her....

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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What's your second feeling? :p

 

Not directed at you Haydn .... but a few guys I know (with low self-esteem) think when a woman approaches first, tells him she likes him etc, something must be wrong with her.

 

In their minds, good women don't do these things, especially to guys like him.

 

They are too busy being pursued to be concerned with approaching guys themselves.

 

So when a woman does, something must be wrong with her....

 

I think a lot of women don't feel validated unless they are pursued by a man...They'll drop hints, but then he better pick up the ball...

 

I guess that ties into the second part of my statement..

 

I think many women don't feel so good about a guy that doesn't pursue....Like something must be wrong with him..Not "assertive" enough...Too wishy washy...

 

TFY

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road Established Member

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What's your second feeling? :p

 

Not directed at you Haydn .... but a few guys I know (with low self-esteem) think when a woman approaches first, tells him she likes him etc, something must be wrong with her.

 

In their minds, good women don't do these things, especially to guys like him.

 

They are too busy being pursued to be concerned with approaching guys themselves.

 

So when a woman does, something must be wrong with her....

 

 

 

 

Totally wrong. Life has shown me that most men turn down the women it is not because there is something wrong with her.

 

 

The reason most women past high school make the move is because they are not getting asked out. The reason 99% of the time is they are not getting asked out on dates is they are not attractive.

 

 

So just because a man is shy, and getting into his mid 20's and past, and still a virgin, does not mean he will date a woman that he does not find attractive.

 

 

Not being attractive, is not having something wrong with you. Just as height, looks are the way you are born.

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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The reason most women past high school make the move is because they are not getting asked out. The reason 99% of the time is they are not getting asked out on dates is they are not attractive.

 

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I guess you don't know that many really attractive women...The reality is that many attractive women don't get asked out by men, because they(men) don't have the balls to even try....

 

But there are other cases as well...

 

Its all about "receptiveness"...Some women are and some aren't....It has nothing to do with looks..Some really unattractive women get hit on all the time because they know how to "play the game"....Others have this "air" about them that guys just don't approach...

 

Its just not as simple as you are saying...

 

TFY

 

TFY

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Popsicle Established Member

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I think if it's truly their first time being hit on, they would flub it due to being taken off guard.

 

Maybe the next time it ever happens after that they would just go with it, but probably nervously still. lol

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SwordofFlame Established Member

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I would proceed to ask her out if I liked her. If I'm not into her, I would tell her in the nicest way possible that you're not exactly my type.

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How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?

What would you think? What would you do?

 

This question is obviously for guys to answer who fit this criteria.

 

I'd feel flattered, but this also depends on the woman in question and if the feeling's mutual.

TheArtist Established Member

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I have another. OK, so it all started when I got a job at the hospital. My main job was the internal post system - moving tons of manila around some 60 offices and clinics.

 

One of the clinics had a little tray you had to put the mail in and then take it out of another. There were two women in there, one was about 37 ish and married, let's call her Mary, and the other just about 40. I was 21. And incredibly shy.

 

I wasn't one for conversation and I just wanted out of each office as quickly as possible.

 

Over the following months I gained confidence and I chatted more to people, and Mary was very keen to engage me in conversation as often as possible, and eventually things started appearing in the mail box like stuffed toys. Yeah.

 

There wasn't much post after 4pm as all the office staff were on an 8-4 rota, but I had to stay until 5 so I hid in that office sometimes.

 

One night I was in the clinic waiting for home time, which had become a bit of a habit, the other woman had gone home and it was just me and Mary in there, chatting away.

 

We were sitting in there waiting for home time, when Mary suddenly jumped up, turned the light off and started rubbing my shoulders. Being green, as I mentioned, I jumped up and said I had to go. Which I did.

 

At this time I was getting a lift off my dad in his van. I was a little shaken, not really knowing what was happening there, but I tried not to think about it.

 

Later on Mary called me at home, she had obviously got my number off my dad's van, and she was very apologetic and just kept saying she really fancied me. She was married, may I remind you.

 

Bear in mind I had to visit this women twice a day every weekday.

 

Really creeped me out.

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The interesting thing is that this thread is proving that a lot of guys are approached by women who are interested in pursuing sexual/romantic relations with them. It happened to me Saturday night and many times before that (not to sound like an arrogant pr*ck). Then there are those women who will stare you down like you have a horn growing out of your head; you must make the first move. But they're definitely communicating an invitation to come talk to them.

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