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Popsicle Established Member

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How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?

What would you think? What would you do?

 

This question is obviously for guys to answer who fit this criteria.

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How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?

What would you think? What would you do?

 

This question is obviously for guys to answer who fit this criteria.

 

Hi, I'm Gloria25's neighbor...

 

If a woman suddenly told me she'd have a crush on me, I'd run and hide.:laugh:

 

Well, not all women - I don't get scared of "3's" or below. :lmao:

 

Oh, after she told me she has a crush on me, I'd say something rude or abrupt to make her think I'm not interested/attracted. Then, I'd spend forever just staring at her from a distance :rolleyes:

 

Joking aside, I sometimes wonder if didn't/doesn't get a lot of female attention - so, when one as bold as myself approaches him, he doesn't know what to do. :confused:

 

Maybe he sits around pinching himself to see if its real...I don't know. :confused:

 

But regardless of how much attention a guy gets/got in his life and all this "modern" dating advice for women to approach men, I still think men are supposed to pursue, and when women do the pursuing, they don't know what to do with it.

 

I mean, even the guys who say they wish more women would approach them and/or complain about having to do all the work in dating/approaching? Trust me, like my neighbor, when they finally get a woman bold enough to make a move, they run and hide, they question her motivations, etc. :rolleyes:

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Popsicle Established Member

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Hi, I'm Gloria25's neighbor...

 

If a woman suddenly told me she'd have a crush on me, I'd run and hide.:laugh:

 

Well, not all women - I don't get scared of "3's" or below. :lmao:

 

Oh, after she told me she has a crush on me, I'd say something rude or abrupt to make her think I'm not interested/attracted. Then, I'd spend forever just staring at her from a distance :rolleyes:

 

Joking aside, I sometimes wonder if didn't/doesn't get a lot of female attention - so, when one as bold as myself approaches him, he doesn't know what to do. :confused:

 

Maybe he sits around pinching himself to see if its real...I don't know. :confused:

 

But regardless of how much attention a guy gets/got in his life and all this "modern" dating advice for women to approach men, I still think men are supposed to pursue, and when women do the pursuing, they don't know what to do with it.

 

I mean, even the guys who say they wish more women would approach them and/or complain about having to do all the work in dating/approaching? Trust me, like my neighbor, when they finally get a woman bold enough to make a move, they run and hide, they question her motivations, etc. :rolleyes:

 

lol, your story always amused me.

basil67 Established Member

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In this hypothetical situation, is the man interested in the girl or not? Because this variable will make the most difference to the answer.

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Popsicle Established Member

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In this hypothetical situation, is the man interested in the girl or not? Because this variable will make the most difference to the answer.

 

I'll let the guys answer both scenarios.

 

Hopefully they come. *waits*

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Guys who have never had a woman approach them or have a crush on them.

 

How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?

What would you think? What would you do?

 

This question is obviously for guys to answer who fit this criteria.

 

This is missing some context. Who is this woman? Friend? Boss? Stranger? Married? Nun?

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Popsicle Established Member

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She's single and doesn't work with you.

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Well, as you specified 'never had it happen to them before', I'm trying to think back to when I first had this happen. Probably when I was 14 or something...

 

I would expect him to be taken aback. Don't expect instant warmth. Give him some time (a day or two) to get used to the idea. That's how men work (unless you turn him on and make sex a possibility).

 

Don't take his immediate confusion as a rejection :laugh:

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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Don't fit the criteria, but i'd imagine two possible scenarios....

 

1) Stunned disbelief...

 

2) A "ok...what's the catch"?...type of response...

 

Plenty of guys on here claim they never been hit on...I'm sure they will chime in, but at the end of the day, just like anything else that's never happened to someone, I guess one really cant say with certainty what they would or wouldn't do until the situation presents itself......lot of variables...

 

TFY

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Oh yes, it happened to me back in around 2005.

 

I worked in a hospital in the records department at the time, an office with around 30 women (that's not the only reason I took the job), and every evening two people had to stay behind for an hour to cover casenote requirements for any clinics that had run over time.

 

It was my turn and I was paired with a new girl, and had to show her how to work the computer systems. I noticed she was sitting very close to me and staring at me a lot. No matter where I moved or what I told her it didn't seem to be sinking in. And I have to admit, I did find it more intimidating than flattering. It was like being watched over by some kind of predator ready to pounce. I mean, she didn't act on it, but there was this tension I felt from her, like she was building up to do so. It wasn't the only occasion either. It went on for a few weeks, but we eventually admitted feelings for each other, so it did work out.

 

Is this how women feel when men do that to them?

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I've had women approach me when I was single and when married.

 

When they approached me, it was a turn off. They would turn the entire body language into explicit display and what they thought would turn me on , rather repelled me. Some would brush against me accidentally and some would wear push up bras and bring them close to my face. Repulsive.

 

Since I got married, similar approach , nothing much has changed except I stay far away and don't let them take further than step 1 and start talking about my wife.

 

What did work for me was when a girl would just show her interest in me and left the rest to me. I chased and pushed slowly into relationship mode. Old school approach has worked out best for me. I chase.

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Haydn Established Member

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It does happen to me;)

 

My first feeling is, i feel flattered.

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Is this how women feel when men do that to them?

 

I don't tend to feel that way no. But I am not a victim nor am I vulnerable in any way shape or form (at least not on the outside).

 

I don't tend to notice that much but when I find out it is flattering and it makes me feel good.

 

Even better if I quite like them... Then they do become my "prey"!!! :confused:

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For the most part, it is just like women. If she is attracted to the guy that comes up to her it's great and she'll be fine with it. If she isn't attracted to him, it's creepy. I think for the most part it's the same for men. The only exception might be a woman that comes on really strong right away. At that point, the guy is likely thinking back to the movie "Fatal Attraction."

 

I'm in my mid 40's and have only happen about five times (so almost never). Two I wasn't interested in, one was my bosses gf so not interested(they broke up not too long after that), one I found out from talking with was engaged so not going there either, and one I dated for about a month. So my record for being approached would be only slightly better than "zero."

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"Lol stop playing"

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If you want to know what it feels like to have a girl come up to you and tell you she's had a crush on you forever...just go to your 10 Year High School reunion and wait until the drinking starts.

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Oh yes, it happened to me back in around 2005.

 

I worked in a hospital in the records department at the time, an office with around 30 women (that's not the only reason I took the job), and every evening two people had to stay behind for an hour to cover casenote requirements for any clinics that had run over time.

 

It was my turn and I was paired with a new girl, and had to show her how to work the computer systems. I noticed she was sitting very close to me and staring at me a lot. No matter where I moved or what I told her it didn't seem to be sinking in. And I have to admit, I did find it more intimidating than flattering. It was like being watched over by some kind of predator ready to pounce. I mean, she didn't act on it, but there was this tension I felt from her, like she was building up to do so. It wasn't the only occasion either. It went on for a few weeks, but we eventually admitted feelings for each other, so it did work out.

 

Is this how women feel when men do that to them?

 

This was my first thought, about feeling like you were being preyed upon. And here's why. If you're inexperienced, particularly if you're older and still inexperienced, that means you're easily intimidated to begin with (not so with younger people coming of age - we all go through it). So a woman with enough confidence to do that to a guy without, it's just going to rattle the guy and overwhelm him and be intimidating.

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This was my first thought, about feeling like you were being preyed upon. And here's why. If you're inexperienced, particularly if you're older and still inexperienced, that means you're easily intimidated to begin with (not so with younger people coming of age - we all go through it). So a woman with enough confidence to do that to a guy without, it's just going to rattle the guy and overwhelm him and be intimidating.

 

Yes, I think that's spot on. Although I was confident in myself and my abilities, I was very easily intimidated back then, and I certainly wasn't used to women being so forward. I think I would quite like to experience it again though, if only to see if I would react differently.

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How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?

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Why not just ask him out? Suddenly revealing your undying love and that you have a shrine of the guy at home would probably weird anyone out lol

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I never had a woman approach me to date her.

 

 

When young and single I would of liked it, if, I found her attractive.

 

 

However if she was not attractive to me I would want to run for the door.

 

 

Though with me being shy and not confident with the ladies back then. And remembering my struggles I would of told her no though would of done my best to allow her to save face.

 

 

Thing is I am not good at thinking fast on my feet so making up good excuses or white lies on the fly would be a challenge and a half for me.

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carhill Established Member

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Fit the criteria:

 

How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?
Surprised and flattered

What would you think?
Did I put on fresh underwear today? :D

 

What would you do?
'Let's go get a bite and explore this'

I mean, seriously, I've interacted with tens of thousands of women in my lifetime so what's one more? I'm in no rush to get anywhere. Life is about living. Heck, I think of all the ladies I've struck up conversations with on planes where we ended up in the terminal lounge or club after landing talking further.... part of life. Heh, if they'd been single I might have asked them out!

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I've been hit on so I don't really fit the criteria. I'm usually pretty stunned by the whole thing and don't progress things like I should (get a number, organize a date, etc.) Honestly all the frustration with getting numbers and having them flake makes me not enjoy the process.....

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Strictly speaking, I don't fit the criteria but my self-image does - I'm almost 50 years old and only two women have ever conveyed that they actually had some interest in me. I would be in this camp:

 

Don't fit the criteria, but i'd imagine two possible scenarios....

 

1) Stunned disbelief...

 

2) A "ok...what's the catch"?...type of response...

 

Plenty of guys on here claim they never been hit on...I'm sure they will chime in, but at the end of the day, just like anything else that's never happened to someone, I guess one really cant say with certainty what they would or wouldn't do until the situation presents itself......lot of variables...

 

TFY

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It really depends on if I am attracted to her.

 

If I am, I would try to progress things but since I have no experience in this matter, that would be difficult without making a fool out of myself.

 

If I don't, I would be flattered but I would have to turn her down.

 

And typically, a woman confident enough to approach me would be a woman I would not be physically attracted to.

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deckard11 Established Member

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How would you feel if a woman suddenly told you that she had a crush on you?

What would you think? What would you do?

 

This question is obviously for guys to answer who fit this criteria.

 

I would go with it since that has never happened to me.

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