Getting out of the anti-social bubble.

[currency]

I seem to struggle when it comes to being more sociable and Just making connections. I was never a party guy (22 btw) but i do enjoy going out. I have lost that flame i once had after my break up and its not coming back.

 

I dont go out. I avoid going out just run from it really. Its like i rather be home doing nothing. At my age i should be doing alot better. I feel as if im an old depressed guy which im not. Many things are missing from myself, my great personality had diminished alot, my sense of humour, i was the funniest guy now i just smile and make small jokes.

 

I do not know if this is just the person i am now and i really dont like it. I know bad breaks up change you but my was not worth me beating myself up for. I just cant seem to get myself back out there. Im stuck in this shell and i have been here for so long i have found comfort in it and its making things difficult for me. I do not eat very often, i do not work out, i do not set goals, i dont take myself out or treat myself, i always say i would but when that day comes i just sleep or lay on the couch.

 

Getting back on my feet is my major goal and i would really like to do this, i need to do this for myself.

Edited March 9, 2016 by currency

[Methodical]

You are depressed and one way to help combat that is to get out. Go for a long walk, drive with the radio turned up to some energetic, happy music.

 

The only way to effect change is by doing something differently. Stop isolating yourself. Get out, socialize, make some friends, and take a few chances. Yeah, breakups suck and are hard to deal with, but hiding in the dark recesses of life and letting it pass you by isn't going to make the hurt go away. Time will help, but don't lose yourself in the process of processing the breakup.

[currency]

You are depressed and one way to help combat that is to get out. Go for a long walk, drive with the radio turned up to some energetic, happy music.

 

The only way to effect change is by doing something differently. Stop isolating yourself. Get out, socialize, make some friends, and take a few chances. Yeah, breakups suck and are hard to deal with, but hiding in the dark recesses of life and letting it pass you by isn't going to make the hurt go away. Time will help, but don't lose yourself in the process of processing the breakup.

 

I think thats exactly what i did. After trying to cope with the break up i stopped living. Just wallowed for months and its kept me down for a long time. i dont know if i just hit a really hard bump in my life right now. Knowing how i grew up and the things i been through, im supposed to be back on my feet already. dont know why im finding it so difficult this time around.

[Methodical]

There isn't a set timetable for dealing with loss. We have to wallow in it, for awhile, to fully process the gravity of the situation. The trick is to not allow it to define you or your future. You've already listed some positive attributes you possess. Those personality characteristics have been MIA lately, but that doesn't mean they no longer reside within you. It's up to you to take that first step, which is the hardest. Each step thereafter gets easier. That's not to say you will never experience setbacks, but a willing mind and determination will carry you farther than you think at this point.