mixedupgirl Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 So i just realized that i know my ex's email password. I don't want to look at it, I know that is wrong. I just can't stop thinking about it, I need some support here
d'Arthez Posted June 13, 2005 Posted June 13, 2005 What would you gain by reading his emails? Nothing! Don't do it, as you will only get more and more doubts in your head, about the relationship, and the things that led to the breakdown of it. You will only make it harder to get over the relationship.
smile95 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 stop!!!! I know a girl who did this and she found out more than she wanted to know. Do not do it. It is tempting, but maybe he changed it already anyways. You may feel worse and find something out and then you cannot even ever bring it up or then you have to reveal you were snooping.
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Or not.
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Fate is in your hands yet the sirens await, and, oh, can they sing.
chaos70 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Ok...maybe this will help. Since the cell plan was family plan with stbxw on the account...I was checking out her calls trying to see what she was doing. You know what it did do? Drive me even crazier than before. I made her get her own cell plan and I took her off mine so I don't even try to check...and I assure you...I feel much better now that I don't have the ability to do so.
ConfusedInOC Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Western, that was funny Yeah don't do it. You'll find out some crazy stuff you DEFINITELY don't want to know.
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I look forward to reading a new thread tomorrow that goes something like this: "I logged into my ex's e-mail last night and found out that... and... also... that bastard!"
miss-gonewest Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Don't do it... there is nothing to gain and plenty to lose. You feel like crap now, there is no need to self-inflict more misery... I know its way hard - and there there are little voices in your head (including Wxer) - but maybe put on some really loud music and block 'em out. If you must do something with his email, just sign him up for all sorts of spam - gardening tips, recipes, religious quotes, pet grooming tips.... its childish but far less destructive than opening his mail. Be strong!
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by miss-gonewest If you must do something with his email, just sign him up for all sorts of spam - gardening tips, recipes, religious quotes, pet grooming tips.... its childish but far less destructive than opening his mail. Just send me the password... I promise I'll do a thorough investigation.
niceguy69 Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 OMFG!!! tell him right now that you know it and tell him to change it! I new my exgf's for weeks and each new email I read would rip the scar wide open all over again. God almighty if I just hadn't known it I would have been healed so much faster. Loggining in is the equivalent of opening pandora's box! Ask yourself how much you really want to know how much better the new bf is, and how great he is in bed, and the extent to which they talk sh*t to their friends about you!.....Or in your case the new gf. I promise you, you might think you're feeling good and doing ok, then you happen to read a new email and BAM!, your heart gets ripped in half and you're back at square one! And it takes days and days to recover after it. As long as you know it, the little voice in your head will keep telling you to read it!
whichwayisup Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Wow, that is a pretty f'ed up situation there. I can totally understand why you're torn on this one!!! If I were you, I'd probably end up doing it, then regretting it big time. Just remember whatever it is you read, it's your own fault. If it's something really awful that you stumble across, you have to live with it. SO, is it worth it?? Maybe, maybe not. I hope you don't do it. Westy you're hilarious... If you tell him you know the password he WILL accuse you of going in and reading anyway. So there is another reason NOT to do it because if there is something in there that will set you off, you won't be able to hold it in around him...
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I came across a saying that goes like this: "If you read my diary, you get what you deserve." I learned this the hard way, too (have guessed passwords to several e-mail accounts, none belonging to exes... actually, I'm wrong about that, too).
dawn duval Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 yeah, you shouldn't ... if you do, make sure to mark everything as unread after you're done.
westernxer Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by dawn duval yeah, you shouldn't ... if you do, make sure to mark everything as unread after you're done. Better wait until the mail's already been read by him first. Some people request return receipts, meaning they'll receive a notice when their item's been opened. The notice even includes the time it was opened, for tracking purposes. If this happens, and you mark it as unread, they can still give him a hard time, since they'll have the notice in their Inbox. Then he'll start to wonder who's been snooping around...
miss-gonewest Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 And if you do go in, be careful to erase your presence... My email account tells me exactly when the last successful login was... not that I take much notice, but I was clever enough to change my password the day after our split (not that he would look, but it made me feel better )
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