AnyTakers Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Guys: Let's say the two of you break up, yet you still have your ex girlfriend's picture a couple of months later as your desktop picture? What for?
spriggan2 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Can't think of any possible reason why I would keep my ex GF's picture up, especially if I had a new girl in my life. The very idea of it is irritating me.
strawberryshortstack Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Guys: Let's say the two of you break up, yet you still have your ex girlfriend's picture a couple of months later as your desktop picture? What for? I would say that if you're hoping for anything serious with this guy, you're barking up the wrong tree. He hasn't given up on her yet. 2
smackie9 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 I suspect you are a rebound/distraction. This guy isn't emotionally ready for anything serious. 1
GenuineAttraction Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 I suspect you are a rebound/distraction. This guy isn't emotionally ready for anything serious. Exactly, you'll get hot and cold behavior from him and there's no point in saying something about the picture. Tell him to look you up when things have settled down emotionally. He may be amazing then.
Emilia Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Exactly, you'll get hot and cold behavior from him and there's no point in saying something about the picture. Tell him to look you up when things have settled down emotionally. He may be amazing then. Never leave the door open to anyone.
LydiaLong Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 I guess it depends on how long you've been going out with him, what words have transpired between you. If it's your first date, you have no reason to complain. If you've become exclusive, it's disrespectful.
Gaeta Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Because it's only been a couple of months since the break up. The wound is still fresh and closure has not been reached.
Jabron1 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Never had any woman as my desktop background. That's bloody weird in my opinion. 3
Author AnyTakers Posted March 8, 2016 Author Posted March 8, 2016 Never had any woman as my desktop background. That's bloody weird in my opinion. What's weird about it?
Jabron1 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 What's weird about it? It's idolization and creepy.
GR4 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 What's weird about it? It is weird. When I break up with someone everything that can be related to them goes in the bin. Photos are either deleted or binned. Presents and the like - binned. Why people hang onto these things is beyond me. Simply put, he's not over her. Move on.
Jabron1 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 It is weird. When I break up with someone everything that can be related to them goes in the bin. Photos are either deleted or binned. Presents and the like - binned. Why people hang onto these things is beyond me. I like keeping pictures, but stop short of putting them on my walls or as a background That's like one step away from setting up an altar.
RRM321 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 If he's completely illiterate about computers you're okay. She probably put it there and he doesn't know how to remove it. If on the other hand, he knows how to 'right click' - then run, run far and run fast. 2
losangelena Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 It is weird. When I break up with someone everything that can be related to them goes in the bin. Photos are either deleted or binned. Presents and the like - binned. Why people hang onto these things is beyond me. Simply put, he's not over her. Move on. Oh man, my ex gave me a $500 watch. I'm not throwing that in the trash! 2
Author AnyTakers Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 If he's completely illiterate about computers you're okay. She probably put it there and he doesn't know how to remove it. If on the other hand, he knows how to 'right click' - then run, run far and run fast. He made it clear to me that he put it there. I don't want to rock the boat, so to speak by asking him why he hasn't taken it down yet.
Author AnyTakers Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 I like keeping pictures, but stop short of putting them on my walls or as a background That's like one step away from setting up an altar. Yeah I don't get why he still has her picture up there either. He rarely talks to her since the breakup. I mean, they still talk, but from what he says, it's a civil conversation between them. He told me a little bit about them, such as how long they've been together, and how she wants to try again with him, but he made it clear to her that he isn't ready to be in a relationship, no hooking up or anything of that sort, and that he wants to be by himself right now. As far as whether or not he still has feelings for her, he won't tell me or go into depth about that. Him and I are just friends, not even F buddies because I don't believe in that. The more I think about it and the conversation we had, the more I see that he probably still has feelings for her, and I have a feeling that he may or is contemplating working things out with her in the future as to why he still has her picture on his computer like that. I could be wrong, but it's just a hunch.
ThisisIt606 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 I think it's very fair to rock this proverbial boat. It's one thing to remain friends with an ex/be friendly and have boring yet friendly conversations with them every once and awhile. It's another thing to have an ex as your desktop picture, something you see every day (who doesn't use their computer every day realistically). I think you are cutting him too much slack by not asking about this. This a major glaring red flag. I think you already know the answer of where his feelings still lie...I think you should let him know you aren't being taken as a fool. Bring it up and ask why he would keep that photo up? Do you still have feelings for her? Let him know how it makes you feel (hurt, confused, disrespected, etc) If he doesn't respond to that (addressing your feelings and removing the photo) drop him like a hot potato. 1
Author AnyTakers Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 I think it's very fair to rock this proverbial boat. It's one thing to remain friends with an ex/be friendly and have boring yet friendly conversations with them every once and awhile. It's another thing to have an ex as your desktop picture, something you see every day (who doesn't use their computer every day realistically). I think you are cutting him too much slack by not asking about this. This a major glaring red flag. I think you already know the answer of where his feelings still lie...I think you should let him know you aren't being taken as a fool. Bring it up and ask why he would keep that photo up? Do you still have feelings for her? Let him know how it makes you feel (hurt, confused, disrespected, etc) If he doesn't respond to that (addressing your feelings and removing the photo) drop him like a hot potato. You're right. I did try to ask him how he felt about her now and if he still has feelings for her. He was kind of evasive when I did ask. The most he has said about her was he cares about her and she is a nice person and wants to maintain a friendship with her.
Art_Critic Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 That's bloody weird in my opinion. Unless it's a crotch shot Any guy who has his ex as his desktop is undatable and you will never hold a candle to that person in his mind. next.......
Author AnyTakers Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 I think it's very fair to rock this proverbial boat. It's one thing to remain friends with an ex/be friendly and have boring yet friendly conversations with them every once and awhile. It's another thing to have an ex as your desktop picture, something you see every day (who doesn't use their computer every day realistically). I think you are cutting him too much slack by not asking about this. This a major glaring red flag. I think you already know the answer of where his feelings still lie...I think you should let him know you aren't being taken as a fool. Bring it up and ask why he would keep that photo up? Do you still have feelings for her? Let him know how it makes you feel (hurt, confused, disrespected, etc) If he doesn't respond to that (addressing your feelings and removing the photo) drop him like a hot potato. The reason I am reluctant to rock the boat is because we aren't "in a relationship", so I don't want to come off as someone who is making him feel like I am "locking him down". He made a statement saying he wants to be by himself right now as far as relationships go, so that right there, told me that he likely still has feelings for her and he probably is going to go back to her, I dunno.
Author AnyTakers Posted March 9, 2016 Author Posted March 9, 2016 Unless it's a crotch shot Any guy who has his ex as his desktop is undatable and you will never hold a candle to that person in his mind. next....... Yeah I had a feeling there was no chance and that he is definitely not over her. It was kind of a revealing picture, by the way, dunno if that matters or not, but whatever.
basil67 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 The reason I am reluctant to rock the boat is because we aren't "in a relationship", so I don't want to come off as someone who is making him feel like I am "locking him down". He made a statement saying he wants to be by himself right now as far as relationships go, so that right there, told me that he likely still has feelings for her and he probably is going to go back to her, I dunno. Well there's the reason he keeps her photo. AnyTakers, when someone tells you how they feel, there's generally no reason to second guess them.
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