Overweight girls sensitivity

[Popsicle]

I don't even understand people that insult others and then play dumb...

[losangelena]

I kind of think you are joking here. ;)

 

Who on earth believes that what somebody else eats is their business? I mean, a virtual stranger on a first date?

 

If her weight and eating habits were a turn off to you, that's fine, just don't go out with her anymore.

 

What gives you the idea that she doesn't know she's overweight, or thinks she's ravishingly beautiful? :confused: You asked her out on a date. She probably thought you were attracted to her.

 

Imagine that.

 

Which makes what OP said even more traumatic for her, probably. Here she is, thinking, "hey I'm on a date, this guy and I find each other mutually attractive!" Then he tells her, in so many words, "Hey, fat lady, are you sure you should be eating so much crap? You're fat," essentially reaffirming every bad thing she probably feels about herself already.

 

Yes, a blow to the self-esteem for sure. Whether factually true or not (again, it's not ANYONE ELSE'S BUSINESS), the fact that she heard that from the man she was on a date with was probably devastating.

[Satu]

Please help me understand this...I have no sisters...was on a date with a chunky girl...she requested a lot of junk movie food...and I made the comment "maybe, you shouldn't be eating this...you could stand to loose a few pounds"...at that point the entire tone of the date changed and she wanted to go immediately home after the movie...*will no longer pick up phone when I call.

Do overweight girls...realize they are overweight? Do they think they are still ravishingly beautiful being overweight? This is the impression I get.

 

"Maybe you shouldn't be speaking with that mouth you've got. You could stand to be more courteous.."

 

Do impertinent boys....realise they are impertinent? Do they think they are attractive to women being impertinent?

[AMJ]

Imagine that.

 

Which makes what OP said even more traumatic for her, probably. Here she is, thinking, "hey I'm on a date, this guy and I find each other mutually attractive!" Then he tells her, in so many words, "Hey, fat lady, are you sure you should be eating so much crap? You're fat," essentially reaffirming every bad thing she probably feels about herself already.

 

Yes, a blow to the self-esteem for sure. Whether factually true or not (again, it's not ANYONE ELSE'S BUSINESS), the fact that she heard that from the man she was on a date with was probably devastating.

 

Totally devastating. I can't even imagine how much that must have hurt her.

She must have felt comfortable on the date to even order unhealthy snack foods- how often do women feel uncomfortable to even eat on dates at all? I'm thinking, she deserves credit for the confidence that took to grab popcorn or whatever...and then this guy goes and completely destroys it.

 

Maybe she's not as fragile as we think...maybe she's thinking- dodged a bullet with him.

 

Also, isn't OP in his mid 50s or something, based on the post about seeing your college girlfriend 30 years later? Why are you calling this woman a girl?

[Robratory]

Please help me understand this...I have no sisters...was on a date with a chunky girl...she requested alot of junk movie food...and I made the comment "maybe, you shouldn't be eating this...you could stand to loose a few pounds"...at that point the entire tone of the date changed and she wanted to go immediately home after the movie...will no longer pick up phone when I call.

Do overweight girls...realize they are overweight? Do they think they are still ravishingly beautiful being overweight? This is the impression I get.

[]

 

In our society, just about everyone thinks they're overweight, so yes, you can be sure that overweight girls realize they're overweight. But also in our society, it's considered very rude to point out to an acquaintance their features we find unflattering. After all, if we find them unflattering, that's our problem, not theirs.

 

[] I find it hard to believe you've made it this far in life and still don't know you can't tell someone they're fat without offending them.

 

There's no reason why an overweight girl shouldn't think she's beautiful. Body size is just another feature, like hair color or the shape of the nose. Lots of guys like bigger girls. Some like big girls with big butts. Some like big girls with big breasts, and some like them with both. Some like them blonde and others like them brunette. And so on and so forth.

 

Why did you ask her out in the first place?

Edited March 8, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Robert]

The thread-starter has received some good feedback. If they wish for more, they can have this thread re-opened via the 'Alert Us' button on this post. ~6