wildsunandmoon Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 This was inspired by another thread. What in your opinion makes a first date "amazing"?
Toodaloo Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Doing something fun, quirky, where you can talk and enjoy your time together while having a distraction and something to "bond" over. For first dates if I am unsure if I want to meet them or if I have any reservations at all I will meet for a quiet drink in a pub somewhere. This happens 99% of the time as lets face it meeting strange men off of the internet is not really the safest thing to do. If I am happy and relaxed I may see about doing something more... dramatic... One of the best first dates was a Zombie Run... It was awesome!
AMJ Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 That's setting the bar pretty high. Are you sure you don't want to just shoot for good or even great? Amazing date status typically happens when there's instant chemistry with a person. That's out of your control. Picking a location or activity that's fun and conducive to conversation is key. One of my favorite dates ever was playing a game of chess at his house. Another time this guy planned out an entire evening taking me to different spots in the city that he thought were special for one reason or another. The thought he put into planning the night made it pretty special. My college boyfriend surprised me with concert tickets. That's not a normal first date but we were friends for months and that was how he took it to the next level. A guy I dated for a few months took me to this bocce ball court by his house. It's a really cool spot in the city and we had a lot of fun playing bocce. My most recent ex on our first date took me to a club he was a member at. We had a drink, maybe some food, but then walked around the club. I found a basketball court and we played a game of horse...made out on the balcony upstairs..then grabbed a bottle of wine, and he took me to his elementary school. He snuck us inside the school so we could drink wine and enjoy the view of the bay (this was in San Francisco). 2
introverted1 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Amazing date status typically happens when there's instant chemistry with a person. That's out of your control. Yep. If you really click with someone, it pretty much doesn't matter what you do.
losangelena Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 An amazing first date is one that leads to a second date. 3
PrettyEmily77 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 When you both turn up on time, you're both relaxed, happy to be there and excited to get to know each other whatever / wherever the date is. 2
Larryville Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 Ok playing devils advocate… definition of amazing… “causing great surprise or wonder; astonishing….” “startlingly impressive….” Amazing date status typically happens when there's instant chemistry with a person. That's out of your control. While I have had maybe 100 dates (or better calling meet and greets) post my first marriage. Only 1 date would I call “amazing” date. I ended up marrying her. I lived quite a ways from her, drove up to meet her for dinner (after speaking via email/phone for 3 months first) she was absolutely everything I thought she would be. Afterwards watched her perform in a play (she was great in her role) she invite me to cast party afterwards, spent the weekend with her we did a bunch of stuff including a second performance. Yes was amazing and as I said I ended up marrying her. So I guess to me words mean things, was the date, ok? Good? Very good? Great? Amazing?
jen1447 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 What in your opinion makes a first date "amazing"? Sex that's off the charts. 1
Jabron1 Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 (edited) What in your opinion makes a first date "amazing"? The man does. The onus is on the man to make the first date amazing. When I hear women talking about first dates, they talk as if the date happened to them - as if it's magic. Some tips - Create a date model that you can run women through. Have some locations in each nearby town that you know, so that there's no faffing about on the date, and you are leading. - Alcohol is always good. It's been a social lubricant for thousands of years: so use it. I'm not looking to re-invent the wheel. - Everyone knows that you should go for the kiss. But, I always go for the kiss before the end of the date. - You should be pulling a woman out of her comfort zone, and making her feel like things are out of her control. That creates excitement. - First date sex is often a bad idea. Too much, too soon can scare her away. - But, if you make things sexual, you had better have the logistics sorted out so that sex can happen. Otherwise, you'll leave her disappointed, and may never even see her again. Edited March 8, 2016 by Jabron1 2
GenuineAttraction Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 I agree with Jabron1 100% Being masculine is all about taking risks and taking the lead. Men should lead the romance department.
yxalitis Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 It all comes down to compatibility.. There is no universal definition of "amazing" If you and your date both think that the date was "amazing", that's all that counts, there is no simple trick or process that can make that happen.
strawberryshortstack Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 An amazing first date is one that leads to a second date. and a third, and a fourth, and then 4 months later, you're still seeing each other regularly and realize that every "amazing first date" you had before wasn't really all that amazing. 1
todreaminblue Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 i think a bit fo effort and being able to see that effort makes a difference..i feel knowing the person and their likes and dislikes and tailoring a date around them having a good time....is really special..i have had guys take me to gardens to see birds....and the beach to listen to the waves with a picnic all prepared....so i think knowledge of the other person can make for an amazing date...the most amazing dates i have been on are with guys who have truly cared what i wanted to do ...and sex or groping was not in the picture or even thought of...which also....made the dates special...and honestly more memorable...........deb.... 2
thecrucible Posted March 8, 2016 Posted March 8, 2016 The guy actually takes a genuine interest in me asking me questions because he is interested and not because he is following a script. Also he doesn't spend the whole date talking about how great he is. The guy has half a brain, is well presented and somewhat charming. We are able to feel like we are genuinely bonding in some way and intrigued about getting to know each other. I don't care where that conversation takes place so much as whether there is a genuine connection. 1
joseb Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 - Everyone knows that you should go for the kiss. But, I always go for the kiss before the end of the date. Agree with the whole post, but this in particular, because I think it's something not often done. Leaving it to the end can be awkward, and feels a bit forced. If you pay attention, there will almost always be an opportunity prior, and if there isn't, then either you are not being imaginative enough or she isn't into you at all.
Jabron1 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Agree with the whole post, but this in particular, because I think it's something not often done. Leaving it to the end can be awkward, and feels a bit forced. If you pay attention, there will almost always be an opportunity prior, and if there isn't, then either you are not being imaginative enough or she isn't into you at all. If I've been on form up until that point, and the vibe is good, it's as easy as shutting my mouth, giving her some good eye contact, and just going for it - even if it's over a table or something. If she isn't ready, I just laugh/shrug it off and try again later. Guys get too upset over 'rejection'.
losangelena Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 If I've been on form up until that point, and the vibe is good, it's as easy as shutting my mouth, giving her some good eye contact, and just going for it - even if it's over a table or something. If she isn't ready, I just laugh/shrug it off and try again later. Guys get too upset over 'rejection'. I've never had a problem sharing a kiss in the middle of the first date. If anything, it's better, because you get all that nervous energy out of the way. I even deployed it myself once. The guy was so enamored by the end of the date he practically got on the wrong train to go home. 1
yxalitis Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 Sex that's off the charts. According to your other posts, your sex is ALWAYS off the charts... You must orgasm in a slight breeze.... 1
losangelena Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 According to your other posts, your sex is ALWAYS off the charts... You must orgasm in a slight breeze.... LOL. I'm eating dinner; you almost made me spit out my broccoli! 2
jen1447 Posted March 9, 2016 Posted March 9, 2016 LOL. I'm eating dinner; you almost made me spit out my broccoli! And I just came! 2
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